Can you Trust Everyone?

Secrets - Never, ever trust anyone.
Philippines
November 15, 2011 3:36am CST
Do you think your bestfriend or anyone you trust never told your secrets to anyone? Not even to their family members? Have you ever been a victim of betrayal? Has anyone spread your secrets? I had this friend before. She was the first to know I'm a lesbian and I thought my secret is safe with her. Until I went for a visit in their house. I was surprised that her family knows that I am a lesbian. They began asking me awkward questions like when would I tell my parents and do I already have a girlfriend. I do not know what to react at that moment. Even if she only told that to her family, I still feel betrayed.
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16 responses
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
A pleasant day LaraTecson, With regard to your main topic discussion, for me, trust is not that easy to get. It is not that easy to give to anybody. No exclusion, as even your family should work to earn respect of each family members. And once respect is earned, it should be maintained for a much more better relationship. Or else, it will not too easy to regain it again.
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
Well I did have a close friend who eventually became my exe's girlfriend because I believed she chose to betray me for the sake of having my ex-guy. :-/ That was the biggest betrayal I've had in a friend but I forgave her. It's just that I can't forget what she's done. Maybe sooner, I will be able to thank her for she saved me from a relationship that could either have destroyed my future or be another one messy love story. :) Happy MyLotting Lara!
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• Indonesia
16 Nov 11
You should not tell your secret to anyone even if She is closed with you. I don't trust anyone and I am not gonna tell my secret to even my closest friend. I will keep it in my mind. I think they don't deserve to know that I have had a secret. So, never tell your secret to your friend. Okay
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
sad to say but there are people that their attitude changes for some time, yesterday he or she is good and trusted, but now he or she are not to be trusted, but sure that for not a long time he or she will suddenly change to a humble and a trusted friend... the only thing i know is when it comes to Money, trust nobody.....
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
Oh that is definitely true! Gosh, people nowadays kill even their relatives for money. And that is a terribly sad truth.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
haha i think that is true! =) I mean, i always hear this from my mom and that I always think, how can she be so pessimistic and all.. but you would hear a lot of things about people and even families or friends who would fight over money matters, and worst is kill each other for the sake of money. so i guess for money, we can say that it surely does not mind who you are. money is money and when it comes down to it... trust nobody when its money!
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
Philippine Province Rice Field - Agricultural Rice Farming is the Filipino common hard working job under the heat of the sun and the wet of the rain. Here in this picture is already finished hand tractor ready to plant selected rice seeds.
not only money, but land property title as well, example: even a 1 hectare Philippine rice farming land field, and my neighbors there in the back portion of my hometown province arguing and fighting each other even thou they are brothers if who among them are the true owner of the small rice field.
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
Before I thought that trusting people is a nice way but now of what is my experience in my life I realized that we should not trust people so that we will not get disappointed.We should be careful to people who we meet and as much as possible we should just keep our personal life and issue to our self.
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
You are right about this. Sometimes, you can't even trust your closest friends. So now, when I have problems or issues I would rather keep it to myself than tell anyone.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
15 Nov 11
No you can't trust everyone not even your family. If it comes to that family are the first to kick you in the back. Why? Because they find it normal you will be loyal to them always. I been vicitim of betrayal, abuse for years. Only if you change your own attitude this will change and you won't attrack all these abusers anymore. And if it comes to secrets: don't make a secret about things like that since there is no need to. Only if you see it as a secret it's easy for people to manipulate you. I am not saying you need to shout your whole private life and interests around but if it comes to the subject just say: yes I am, I did, you will be the first one if so. That way the discussion is closed. Don't feel betrayed, it's a waste of energy. Good positive energy. You are perfect the way you are and be proud of that!
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@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
For me no because all person now in this system love to have gossip anyway.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
I don't trust anyone at all. Not even my sister or mother or any family member or friend. So I think that says a lot about me. I think I just don't want to be disappointed even though I still gets disappointed right now. There was this quote in the movie Italian Job that says, "Trust everyone but don't trust the devil/evil inside them."
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
We couldn't trust anyone... only our Family and God. We have no assurance to other people. If we are not sure with somebody, it is better we tell our Secret to our Family even though it is embarrassing.
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
15 Nov 11
Hello Lara, For me too its hard to trust on people as there are lot of people who use your secrets as a weapon against you. I have closed friends but i share my secrets up to an extent.The things which i feel can harm me in future i don't disclose it to anyone even to my wife too. I also believe that your secrets should die with you.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
16 Nov 11
No Lara we cannot trust on anybody even if anyone is our close friend but may be in next moment she/he will be our enemy and told to our family members or to anybody of our secret so fanta not trust on anybody other than herself and God. No sharing secret but sharing funny thing with everyone.
• India
16 Nov 11
If there is to be a straight answer to your pointed question, I would say no, you can't trust every one. But it is inevitable that you trust some people. Who these some people are is a reflection of your maturity & understanding. That is, how good are you at assessing who it is that will keep your secrets. There is one important aspect though: never feel compelled to share something that you want kept a secret which means don't feel impulsive that you have to share. The best approach would be to keep everything as transparent & open as possible. That way, people are less likely to be curious about you. If you must, then do share only those beyond a high retention level. The high retention level is something that you consciously achieve by perseverance. Secrets, like perishable products have low shelf life I am very discreet in discussing things which I don't want discussed are spread out. So I have no particular instance of betrayal to narrate.
@vasumathi (436)
• India
15 Nov 11
It depends upon the person, whom you share the secret.I never faced such kind of situation.
• India
16 Nov 11
I never trust anyone! Expect my true love. She never share my secrets either she have attitude problem. My best friends broke my trust many times. Can you believe my 6 years old friend broke my trust. I always used to share my secrets with him and he used to share with all his society friends and college friends. When I got to hear about that I felt very bad, very sad, very lonely. I trusted him but he did the worst thing that even my enemy wouldn't do that. NEVER TRUST ANYONE! Especially in your office, they may spoil your professional life. So be careful.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
i do not think we can always trust someone, or everyone. The thing is, we cannot trust people because we do not know them yet... or that we cannot trust them because we know them too well. As for me, I have given my trust already, and that I have failed miserably because of that trust. It hurt me so much. Maybe I would trust people still but not as much as i would have back then when i was not yet burned because of me giving away that trust without them working for it.
@neelia_lyn (2003)
• Philippines
15 Nov 11
I was betrayed too by a friend when I was a teenager. I hated her for a while and never thought of being friends with her again. But after so many years, we still get in touch with each other through facebook cause she already works and lives in another country. Time heals wounds and it's true. Just don't sow hatred and grudges in your heart towards that friend of yours cause it won't change what has happened. For now, I admit that it was hard for me to make friends because of that. I became cautious and have to really know a person first before becoming close friends with her/him. That was the result of betrayal, reduction of trust to anybody you thought is not trustworthy. Good luck!