Gotta Love Those Stressors

United States
November 17, 2011 8:00am CST
I have to say right now that I am freaking out. I may appear calm and collected on the outside but my brain is in overload as I am trying to move in winter within less than a week's time. The cost is going to kill me, as well, but putting it all together is really messing with the brain. There are things that will have to go into storage, things that I have to keep out until Monday for my moving sale this weekend and then things that I will need immediately once we arrive in our new town. The problem is deciding how to organize those items in my car and the uhaul trailer. That is where the stress is making things difficult. When I am stressed out my brain likes to go on vacation and I can no longer think or keep track of what I am thinking of. I have to be back here for court on December first unless they make a plea bargain that I agree to. Even at that, I'm thinking that I'll still need to be there when the plea is entered. My daughter has to testify at the Grand Jury on Monday so we can't leave here till Tuesday and Thursday is Thanksgiving. I normally spend Thanksgiving with my sister and friends but this year I'll be in a new place where I don't really know anyone. I really do not want to move but my daughter comes first. Still, I just wish I had more time...like, at least till Spring. I am really feeling the pressure and it is killing me. Have you ever found yourself in a pressure cooker situation? How did you cope?
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Nov 11
Hi there Alaskanray, Oh yes. I get real stressed under pressure and when there is too much to do..not enough time. My brain just shuts right down for a bit. And then I just get into action and do what needs doing and it all works out in the end. Just a couple of weeks ago I had to move and was really pressed for time. I think I did a discussion similar to this but I have to say that my stress activaters were not nearly as great as yours. You do have an awful lot on your plate! Take a little break. I'm sure that you'll pull it all together and this will all work out just fine. Good luck in your new place!
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Nov 11
Also, I hope all goes well in court on Monday. Not an easy thing for your daughter to do but it is the right thing.
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• United States
17 Nov 11
Thanks, Sid. I have had some help. Yesterday I had two friends come over and help box things up for me, which made quite a dent in the stuff in my house but at the same time I was frazzled cuz I felt like I was being pulled in all directions because they were asking me what to do with this, that and the other and I had to make so many decisions rapid-fire! I went over to DHS today because the idiot at the medicare office told me I had to transfer everything to the new county before I could move. DHS said no, just stop into the office up there once I get there. (I have Medicaid supplementing my Medicare) I have had two calls on renting the place already and hope to have it rented out by the time we leave on Tuesday. Once we get up there it's going to be hectic getting registered and changing addresses on all my bills, trying to find a permanent dwelling while paying for the motel. Oy vey! So many considerations in my brain, it's like a thundering herd of elephants hammering in my head!
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
18 Nov 11
Oh my gosh...I'd be a wreck. That's a lot and it has to be putting a real burden on you financially. Moving is not cheap at all. I find that sometimes I do better without help with things like this and for that reason. I can't get much done because I'm so busy answering questions. When I moved, my daughter did come through and was a huge help right at the very end. She could see I was getting stressed and I hadn't slept much. She's 17 and was mostly focused on her own room and things but she's a pretty thoughtful kid and when she saw how much I had to do the night before, she was an amazing help. I say I was stressed but I feel stupid about it listening to your story. I only had to move to the other side of the complex and they provided the movers. My biggest stress was that they gave me very little time to pack up and every thing had to be labeled with my name, apt.# and what room it went in. I live in low income housing and they are tearing down the apts and re-building so they are temporarily re-locating us. Keep us posted on how this all goes. Leave it to DHS to put a wrench in things...they are good at that. I know these programs help people tremendously but they also can be such a pain. I get medicaid for my daughter and I just got re-certified. Well today in the mail, I got a notice that I have to re-certify and verify my rent with my "new" landlord. I'm in the same place, different apartment...same rent that I've had all along. Same income that I've had. Now I have to get papers signed and gather check stubs from my work and get it out right away because they need this by next week. They had sent it earlier but they sent it to the wrong address on the other side of town...go figure. Hope it all starts falling into place for you! Let us know how court goes!
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@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
17 Nov 11
poor alaskanray, I so feel with you. I hate moving and the last time I did was from old hometown to new as I was married. My husband allowed himself a lot of time to empty my old apartment so I paid rent for a place I didnt even live in any more. Yes the last pressure cooker situation was in March when my husband was diagnosed with a heart problem but due to other obligations I could not be there all the time as we can only be at one place, physically at the same time........ but somehow I survived it. Hope your move goes swiftly. Please keep us posted. Hope that your kitties settle in well too......
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• United States
18 Nov 11
Yes, I hope it is for the better, too, my friend. Having to come back for court is going to be even harder on me but I want to see justice done for my daughter. What ticks me off is that WE have to move and WE are the victims! I think THEY should have to move!
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Nov 11
hi alaskanray yes its one of tbe worst stressors moving. I hate it and even worse was myson losing his job, being ev ivted, being homeless having to separate so we both had some place to live. things are a bit better now for my son as finally he has a fu ll time job but I h ate being st uck here in thie retirement center as we were living together in two bedroom apt. b efore all our world turned upsiede down. well hopefully one d ay maybe he will get a two bedroom apt and I can get out of there. lol. but for you with this trial business and hte holidays it must be really rough., try and get some rest. a weeks not much time. wwo. good luck and may God Bless you and y o urs and help the move go much better.
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• United States
18 Nov 11
Thank you, Hatley. Yes, it is very stressful and I really did not want to move. As the victims in this legal issue, I think it's just wrong that we need to move. The perpetrators of the crime should have to do the moving. But we do what we must for our children, don't we? Today we stopped by McDonald's and one of the creeps was working there. My daughter had to quit her job and these creeps still have theirs. That is so wrong! The only solace I can have is if they get the maximum penalty for their crimes. My daughter was visibly upset when she heard the guy's voice over the intercom. (we went through the drive thru) I really need to get her out of here.