what you feel when a friend avoid you without any reason?

@lijoos (346)
India
November 17, 2011 9:57am CST
i feel happy. thats all i want to say. i am going to quit mylot.its realy boring. i lost my friend..... i dont know why everyone doesnt understand the meaning of friendship. i dont do anything wrong.i never compelled to be my friend. but i lost my friend. i dont know why every one going away from me........ i feel i do something wrong. sorry friends i dont like to be here more........ sometimes i will back... i am realy dissappointed. i only want to say onething. dont be happy that you avoid me....but be carful that the day will come ...that day someone will avoid you. i dont feel anything new i lost many friends...even my lover..... by come back soon with full power.
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18 responses
@svjomboy (873)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
i think you stay here more time and you dont have enough time of your friends just make it balance friend, dont leave here just balance you time your friend and mylot. Good luck
• Mexico
18 Nov 11
Hi svjomboy: Actually I don't see the relationship between time spent on Mylot and a bad experience with an offline friend. Maybe it's a problem of time? In fact I think that I have learnt some valuable lessons and advises just by staying here. ALVARO
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
17 Nov 11
Lijo...There will have some reasons to your friend to avoid your friendship...It may be because of their dislike/any situations...But I think that there will have some thing that compelling your friend to cut your friend ship....I mean some thing that they can't avoid...Is that was a real friend ship???????If, that person will not leave you...Don't get be upset...We, All are with you...Be happy.....A wonderful life is waiting for you....Keep smiling.... and Mylotting..... All the best Lijoos... :-) :-)
@lijoos (346)
• India
17 Nov 11
i heard this manytimes... there will be a reason......... you dont know daffodils... when some one let you down,whats the feelings. i am not worried about me.but i am worried about that friend. if he has a real heart.he cant be like this. oneday saying i am your friend...next day i am leaving.... is me a barbie doll!!!!!!!!! go to the hell all these sort of friendships... he was not realy a friend he was just act as a friend.so he leave. i excepted this... i know what we see is not the truth. trust everyone...so they can cheat us.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
18 Nov 11
Oh...I don't know about that feeling...I missed one of my good friends before some days like you... My brother said me to cut that friendship..He don't like such relations...I can't refuse his words...Because that much I love him....Your friend will have such things that compelling that person to avoid you...If that was a real friendship??? Then how you expected that before this???You can find other friends in mylot..Enjoy life Lijoos....All the best
@lijoos (346)
• India
18 Nov 11
why your brother said that? sometimes your friend do some wrong. i am not hungry for friends... i except that its simple. i see many relations...so i can expect.something... thanks for the comment. enjoy life. all the best.
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 11
Don't be sad. I will never leave you, my friend. We can always talk in mylot. You are going to make so many friends throughout your life, don't be dissappointed so early. Friends are there to cherish you, my friend!
@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
My friend , if i feel that my friend is avoiding me, i would really make a way to be able to talk to her about it. That way, i can clarify if i offended her in any way. Nothing will be solved , if you do not communicate.
@wulania (1524)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 11
yeas you may say it again. we have to talk in order to get the problem solved. we did nothin, we get nothing
@myrnz626 (112)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
people may come and people may go. just always hold on the true friendship, the real care and true love we have for each other. always pray for the good , protection and God's guidance to all the people we love. :)
@scheen (57)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
i don't understand why you're relating the lost of your friend to mylot? also, u said you're bored here, why damn spare a time making a post here? be fair bro. appreciate the people around here giving you advices to your problems. maybe you could find here a better friends. i think the reason your friends are staying away from u coz you don't know how to appreciate. ask them why. instead of like blaming mylot or warning your friends that someday you'll be back like making a revenge to them, just think of a ways to improve yourself, especially your personality. God bless.
@lijoos (346)
• India
18 Nov 11
hai friend.i apologise...for your inconvenience. realy the friend was from mylot... thats why i said that... and i dont mean revenge. i am fed up...so will come back to mylotting soon,is what i meand. dont you read the discussion topic..? i just said my experiance... i never want to criticise..mylot. you have mistaken me. sorry brother. i am realy sorry for the inconvenience...
• Mexico
18 Nov 11
Hi lijoos: I am sorry to hear that you are leaving mylot and that you have lost your hope because of these bad experiences. I would like to know more about your story but I think that if you feel that this person avoids you and you have not done anything wrong after examining what you have done, then you should not feel guilty. Try to be honest to your ex friend and ask him/her directly what makes him/ her do this. ALVARO
@cassije74 (247)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Lijoos hi! i was surprise why "happy" is all what you want to say if your friend avoided you without any reason. Really i have a second thought how different you are to me assuming that a friend is already one part of our life. And losing that part is so sad and discouraging especially without having any reason. As for me, when a friend of mine avoided me there must be a reason behind it... Maybe he/she doesn't want to make things complicated that's why he/she rather prefer to stay away from me. Of course, i cannot stop myself from asking the reason why? but if she/he doesn't want to tell me and just say nothing i would rather respect his/her idea to make things not getting worst as it is. There are times that having friends we should also be sensitive enough for their needs and not our own needs alone. One thing i notice with a lot of several reasons why a friends avoided us is that they felt neglected in times of their need it seems we are not there for us to comfort them or instead of comforting them we add more salt to their pain, or maybe they are thinking that your friendship is just only a one way communication meaning he/she does only his/her part and we don't. Some has a feeling of humiliation when they are corrected by us. But i say, avoidance without reason is in our own way of thinking because we cannot find any reason of our friend's side. It is selfish enough that we keep on reminding ourself that they have no reason but actually they have there reason after all. It is not fair that we are not given a chance to know what was it. And it is sad thing to realize, that a friendship will just gonna end that up easily without patching things to and confronting each other to make end things peacefully. Yes, i understand you are quitting Mylot as of this moment. It is a good thing to do to keep once friendship lost or make up all things being lost by you. Enjoy your friend's company and make your life balance. Do not focus too much on one thing alone but instead around all things that you are involving of... Someday or somehow it will gonna be work fine...
@Greninee (369)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
I think you can confront your friends why they're avoiding you for no reason...I think the best way is to talk to them. I feel so sorry because you are leaving mylot. If you change your mind, you are welcome here in mylot anytime.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
18 Nov 11
honestly speaking i too feel bad if somebody avoids me for no reason.but there must be a reason to do so. only difference is that you are not aware of that thing. it did happen to me too when a myloter knowingly or unknowingly avoided me.i don't know if she is really avoiding me or if its just my imagination but we two didn;t have a conversation for long. neither she came up on any of my discussion nor did i get a response from her on her discussion.i don;t want to quote the name of the myloter. but my friend you can not force anyone to be your friend. we all are free here. if one has avoided you, that doesn't mean nobody else would accept you. you still have 236.650 other users.
@gaea23 (252)
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
I will be upset when my friend avoid me without any reason but it is her/his provocative, you cannot force him/her. So, as long as you haven't done anything bad, just go on being her/his friend. What's important is he/she have you as her/his friend. When he/she needs someone to talk to then you are there ready to help.
@wulania (1524)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 11
i feel so sad and disapointed. but we have to look for why he/she does that. may be he/she has certain reason that acceptbale, or having problem and doesnt want to involve anyone including us. so, i think your title wihtout anyreason must be changed because there must be reason there
• Philippines
18 Nov 11
Lijoos, i think for sometime you stop doing mylot beause you feel discourage witj a friend on mylot also..thats what i undestand with your situation here... As for me...for what i will feel if a friend avoid me for no reason? Of course i will feel hurt knowing i dont do anything wrong.. And after i will think whats wrong with me and asking myself how to improved and move on... Lijoos, friend may come and go to our life..whats best is if you have friend and you have time to be with them make the most of your time.. Because you dont know where they are after that..you cannot hold them too tight into your hands...nor loosen them...just be a friend..
• India
18 Nov 11
Hey my friend, Your most loving friend will never leave you for ever. True friendship cannot be broken by ay any power. That is the true dedicated friend. I will surely give the payers to you and your friend to meet again. May god help you.
• Indonesia
18 Nov 11
You were rather confusing. You said you got bored and you wanted to quit from MyLot. Why? You should have asked yourself why your friend avoid you. I won't leave mylot because of one of my friend avoid me and it's not way too big deal. I could find many more friends here on mylot. You kept saying mylot was boring and why did you join if you knew that someday you would get bored of routines here on mylot as well.
• United States
17 Nov 11
Lijoos, to be honest - When a friend avoids me without reason I feel sad. However, I realize that if I have not done wrong unto them, then ultimately it is there loss. There are plenty of pepple of friends we'll make throughout our lives; some will be faithful, while others will go astray. But I'm always open to making new friends :-)
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
17 Nov 11
How come you lost your friend? Sorry to hear so but also that you find mylot boring. Think I see mylot different as you do? Am not here to have contact with friends in the first place but to read about other points of view, mostly to make me wiser or give me something new to think about. Friendship is a complexed something. It's hard to say why it doesn't seem to work nowasdays anymore. Perhaps we have different ideas about what friendship should be? I wonder how people looked upon friendship/being a friend about 50 or 100 years ago. Did they have the same problems as so many of us have? I think you should start to be your own best friend first. If you can do so, you are full of power and you don't need anyone to fill up the emptyness you like to feel. I wish you the friendships you are looking for lijoos but most of all I wish you you.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
Hi lijoos, It's okay to feel disappointed about it. I have had a friend that suddenly avoided me as well, I tried really hard to know what was happening and why the sudden change? I did not get any answer from her but I feel there is something she's keeping from me. Whatever it is until now I have no idea why we suddenly became strangers. I felt so lonely about it but we have to accept it. Sometimes we gain friends, sometimes we lose them. Let it be this way for now.