new relationship

Philippines
November 18, 2011 5:06pm CST
Do you think I am doing the right thing? My ex just broke up with me two months ago and now i am having new relationship with a guy that I barely know. He's a bit serious and talked about plans but I am scared that one day my ex will come back and will have to leave him? Am i doing the right thing? I think i am not ready for a serious relationship. I don't want to hurt anybody or give hope to them. I just though that he wasn't that serious but the last thing i know he talked much about plans. Gosh, what would i do? I am beginning to like him but i am still trapped from my past. Got really confused.
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16 responses
@jereen (8)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I think you're confused because you still love your ex. or your not totally over him. The best thing to do is tell the new bf about your situation and how you feel towards him and the ex. Anyways. ex is ex so you better not think about him anymore :D
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• Philippines
19 Nov 11
You better settle your true feelings towards your ex Bf first before entering into a new relationship... In your case you are too scared enough to trust another guy,, so for you to find a new & better relationship you must find to love your self and be certain about your feelings with your new BF to avoid hurting his feelings
• United States
19 Nov 11
Well discuss this with the your new man first! You should tell hm that you still have meager feelings for your ex and at the same time you have feelings for him too! Then, you nee to conclude your decision because no man wants to split his girl! You've got to determine whether to wait again for your ex, and risk the same break up situation, or you can remain with this new guy and try something different. If the new guy comes off to hard, or he doesn't seem like he would be a totally good match with you, then don't waste his time by actually wanting your ex in the background!
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@waya616 (149)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
You are not ready yet. If your past relationship still confuses you and your'e not really over it yet, it will be unfair to this new guy. Take things slowly, there are many fishes in the sea.
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@svjomboy (876)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
hello friend dont make your new boyfriend like "panakipbutas" but some said you cant move on if you dont have to make new relationship. What if your ex-bf would comebacl to you what would you do? you will be able to hurt your new bf?? think about it before doing anything, and make sure you dont hurt feelings.
• United States
19 Nov 11
No harm intended here. Why do you even hold out hope for this man who dumped you? Why would you pass up a chance to be with a guy who could be all you ever wanted. The ex dumped you and your waiting on him to decide to take you back. I would hope you felt you deserved better treatment than that. If a guy dumped me I would never want him to think he could ask me back. I know I am wort more than that. This new guy of yours take your time to get to know him. You can have all the feelings in the world. Just get what you deserve out of life.
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@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
19 Nov 11
I don't understand why you are confused. Does it matter if you just broke up? What is just? The right time for a new relationship is when you think it's right not when others say/think it's the right time. Since you already say you have so many doubts and thoughts the time is not right unless you are willing to live and to take chances and just like to enjoy your life. Perhaps you should ask yourself why you want someone back who dumped you. If he would come back he will dump you again.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
18 Nov 11
maybe you could be honest with this new man and tell that you are still getting over a broken relationship, I am in two minds with this, I understand how you would not want to hurt this man but sometimes the only way to get over a broken heart is to move on and meet someone else but like you said you don't want to hurt this new man, just be honest with him, sit down hold his hand and explain how you feel...holding his hand is important I was told there is a definite connection when holding hands..
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
New relationship should always be treasured because this is the part of relationship where you can be happy as you can. You have to treasure and give value to your relationship to make it last longer.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Having a new relationship is not good if you are only using this guy to fill the gap in your heart. Be true to yourself. You still love your ex that is very clear and you are hoping for a comeback. Why not moved on first before having a new affair.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Nov 11
I think it is good that you are seeing someone soon. Just tell the new guy that you want to take things slow and don't want to rush into anything serious right yet. He should respect you and give you time and be patient with you. If he's moving too fast then break it off with him and find somebody else who will give you space. As for the ex boyfriend, I don't know why you would even consider taking him back since he is the one who broke up with you. I wouldn't even give him the time of day. Keep moving forward.
@sunli123 (540)
• China
19 Nov 11
Hi, tess_quinain. It is so good that you are in a new relationship now, and he is quite series about this relationship. So my suggestion is that you can try to get along with him seriously, know more about him. As to your ex-boyfriend, he has broken up with you two months ago, are you still waiting for him? I am not saying bad words about him, but he must have his reason. Anyway,the past is the past, and we have to lok forward and move on.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Try to be honest with your new guy, I think he deserves to know that you are still trying to move on with your ex. You should weigh things up. You could have giv yourself a break actually but since the new guy is there already try to shift your feelings with him. I don't think your ex will come back, he was the one who broke up with you. Maybe he also have a new girl.
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
You got yourself in quite a situation. You should resolve you feelings about your ex first. It's ideal not to be in a new relationship especially when you still harbor feelings for your past love. I think the best thing to do here, is talk about this to your current boyfriend and tell him the truth. If he really understands, he should give you time to think things over. If it doesn't go well, you two might break up but you have to face that. It's better to tell him now than fool him for long.
@bagarad (7641)
• Paso Robles, California
19 Nov 11
I would tell new boyfriend you are still trying to get over old boyfriend and it is hard for you to trust again. Tell him you like him, but want to be fair to him. Just explain you want to keep to being just friends until you can come to him with your whole heart. There is no need to rush into a new relationship. Take the time you need to grieve the old one. If you are friends with the new one and he is patient, you may find yourself falling in love with him. But please get to know him better first. I'm not sure what you mean by serious and "plans," since that can mean many things today. I think people hurt less in a break-up if they have not become intimately involved and save that for marriage. Meanwhile, as friends, talk about the things that are really important to you in life and make sure you don't disagree on any of the really big issues. If you do, then you know he won't be the right one, and if you are still just friends, no one gets hurt too badly.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
For me if you not confuse there is a way you need to love so if you said he is then it is if you compare to your ex you find more good now you can't do it is not right.