to love or be love?

@scheen (57)
Philippines
November 19, 2011 10:04am CST
whoa! this question just pop out in my mind. maybe because i'm single. hehe! anyway, it is already asked by one of my friends a long time ago and still remain unanswered. now i will try to answer it based on my experience. for me, i want to love rather than be love by someone. i don't like the feeling of being selfish. it feels better if you love someone. from the lover's point of view, be honest it feels different when you are in love. i think the person who will choose to be love are those who are ugly because they require no effort at all! joke! i'm just kidding! how about you, what do you prefer?
13 responses
@wittynet (4131)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
Hello, scheen! I want to love and to be loved because I am neither ugly nor selfish. Life is a matter of choice. If you choose to love, then that is your choice. Don't expect love in return. Expect anger and hatred. I am also kidding!
@scheen (57)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
nice one. my choice is to love and yours was both? choose only one or i will be the one to choose for you. my choice for you is to be love... know why? so that we could be a match. i will love you and you will be love by me. haha! one thing more, i'm not expecting any hatred or anger in return because you will surely like if i love you. bwahahaha! =)
@wittynet (4131)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
You have made me laugh, scheen. Why do I need to choose one if I can choose both? Your choice for me is still your choice, that can never be mine. Have a great Sunday afternoon!
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
20 Nov 11
You mean: to love or to be loved I assume? I prefer none of them. It's terrible to be with someone who loves you to pieces, who sticks around you and you don't feel the same. It's also terrible to love someone who can't stand you. So I prefer to be alone, since I am able to love myself, respect myself, appreciate myself, take care of myself and know myself better as anyone else.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
20 Nov 11
WakeUpKitty..I think loving yourself and being your own best friend is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves
@markphil (285)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I always like both depending on what my heart would feel someday. The heart is the main thing that should always decide for love and not the mind or our desire. We should always follow our heart.
@SandeeE (346)
• United States
23 Nov 11
I say to love. Loving other's and helping other's in loving, kind ways bring's love into your own heart & life. So with loving other's you can love yourself as well as bring other's to you to love you back. Now there are people out there that are only able to give love but are not able to receive it. I find taht can be me at times.
• India
20 Nov 11
Love is something, everyone wants. Of course, it feels very good to love someone. But it feels twice good, when they love you back. Its my personal experience. I hope you too find your love soon. So that you will be to feel this. :) And wanting love, is not being selfish. Thats what I think.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Hi scheen, There is a saying "To love is to risk not being loved in return." So are you willing not to be loved by the one you love? It's really brings a different feeling of happiness when we love someone. But if it wasn't reciprocated it could really be hurtful too. I won't be happy loving someone who don't love me back. The fact is this, we can enjoy the basic beauty of these emotions when they are combine. So I'm choosing both!
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
20 Nov 11
Love and be loved are action and reaction situation. Why i just get people my love, why if i give them my love. Relationship need both, no one live alone, and i do not expect life without love. When i speak about love, i do not just mean human love "love people around you, your family, your friends" i mean love with its general meaning to include and not limited to love our work, nature and before all of that love, we should love our God Who created every things around us and also created love, hate and mind inside us, So we have being free for our choice.
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
both! its a great feeling when you love somebody and that somebody will love you back..if you just love him or her for the longest time. but he or she didn't want it anyway then it would really make you exhausted too and wished that you will be loved..its great when somebody appreciates what you feel for them and will love you back too....
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
20 Nov 11
scheen ... Of course the ideal is to love and be loved in return, but if you are saying we must choose..I would choose to love. I think if someone loved me but I didn't love them back I might feel sorry for them
@waya616 (149)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
I want to be loved, but I do believe I'm not ugly. I have my heart broken several times by loving too much, I think its time for me to feel that I am loved more than I love the guy.
@hotsummer (10436)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
i want to love than to be loved.but i hope if that person i do love won't feel the same love, but at least i hope the person will give me a chance to show my love and to accept my love regardless to whom the person's heart belongs.
@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
I think there will come a certain point in time that you will have to love someone with or without being reciprocated for the affection given. But in time, you will also have to choose if you have to continue doing it, more so if the affection wouldn't be returned back. I know it is so wonderful to love someone. It is like giving out the intense feeling that you feel inside your heart toward someone you admire or much more love. But in time, if you think that the affection will not be returned back, I think there is no use. By the time you reached that point, you will say that it is better to love and be loved. That is when you find real happiness.
• United States
19 Nov 11
hi scheen, i think people cannot choose to love or to be loved, because it really depends on the situation in which people cannot really control. when there is a woman who loves me but i dont love her, I cannot force my self to love her. i am in the position of being loved. inversely, sometimes I love a woman who doesn't love me back.