when you have conflicting opinions with other people

@hotsummer (10449)
Philippines
November 19, 2011 9:25pm CST
it is hard to talk to people and make a decision when their opinions or beliefs is just the opposite of your belief. sometimes there are things that you don't have the sole right to make a decision because it involves other people as well. before i do get frustrated and do get angry also when i feel that it is my opinion that is correct. but now i just do accept that people can't always agree on some things. and just accept our differences.
11 responses
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
21 Nov 11
People are going to always have different opinions. Opinions that I'm going to have to rather respect and it really depends on how much the opinions clash. If there is only a moderate clash, there might be a way to find a way around the conflict. Granted, it could be a stretch, but a stretch is far better than nothing at all. I think that for me I'm right, but for others, I could be wrong. We tend to have a skewed perspective. There are others who refuse to concede that they might be wrong or they refuse to even consider the perspective of another. I think that we are all biased to a certain degree. It just depends on how biased we are. That really makes the measure of a person.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
I can relate to your feelings, however having a conflicting opinions in a conversation can be viewed as positive communication, a healthy conversation. Others opinion may of great value as we view our opinion too. But then again its a matter of respecting each other views. Different folks different strokes but can be heard as one harmony if positively undertaken by both parties. The key is respect and don't feel about it if your view is of lesser value at the end of the day for it doesn't mean you are not important.
• United States
20 Nov 11
When two people have conflicting opinions it does become hard to communicate on terms but people can always agree upon something. Of course beliefs and certain feelings have stronger biases so it is possible that there would be some conflict but two cannot be completely against every view! Something will be shared, in some fashion!
• United States
20 Nov 11
That would be the best way to handle it is need be. I know I get pissed when I am having strong views on things as well. But,that is in my personal life for the most part. Online I simply agree to disagree and move on.
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
good day hotsummer, indeed it is really hard to deal with this type of situation. hence, due respect is really the secret ingredient that is needed for this since your opinion and decision does not coincide to other people's idea. and if respect is present, you can be able to accept that things that are not really the same in the way that you have want it to be.
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Yeah,there no so such person you are the same.We are different people with different and own opinions and beliefs.When I encounter people who have different opinion than mine,I rather not to argue and just listen to him/her.
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
I know how it feels, but when we get mad because others' opinions are contradictory to ours, it only frustrates us and even escalates the tension thus giving a negative energy and creating an argument. It is always healthy and helpful when both parties with opposing judgments listen to each other's sides, discuss both's advantages and disadvantages and come up with a great and final decision that does not compromise each parties. Different people will always have different opinions and different characteristic. There are some that has the attitude of not caring to discuss what is on their minds but there will always be the type that will bluntly tell you that your opinion is wrong and theirs is right. We have to accept that and they have to accept us. But they will have to respect us too when they want us to respect them as well. Happy MyLotting!
@wulania (1528)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
i know it hard conflicting with others, specially someone who i respect or i know personally well. but we have to tell the truth even it is bitter and annpying. but i also have to keep good communication. it is hard but i have to. and the worst thing we lost friend because of arguing, very bad idea
@AJsMom (157)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Each is entitled to his own opinion. But making a decision that will need approval of people with different belief is a tough one. I guess, each party needs a greater understanding of one's stand. We may be different in opinion but I believe that most issues can be resolved if we open up to compromises. It may require a lot of deliberation but mutual respect must be observed so that in the process no one shall be deeply hurt. Awareness of the situation and being open to all possibilities is the key to prevent conflicts. I know it's hard but that's how it is.
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
20 Nov 11
What you say is true; but when it comes to a decision, if it is matter that affects self alone I have realised that loud thinking is unnecessary and also hurts other people who are unnecessarily invited to participate. I too feel that it is always bette to agree to disagree ; only when people bulldoze their thoughts and opinions on others it becomes really irritating.
@woheri (88)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
hi hotsummer... yeah, i'm so happy if you can realize that different opinion with other people is a normal and usual thing. We all are unique another. But we have to accept that reality, sometimes our opinion could be true or not and we haven't to always fell frustrate or angry.