I feel silly...

@koperty3 (1877)
November 20, 2011 9:34am CST
Well I'm bad mood and I don't think that it will be better. I will try to explain situation best I can. Since few months I was looking for my best friend from my younger years. Th reason why I just try to find him is that I miss him somehow and I wanted to know what happened to him all this years. Also I would like to ask him if he could be on my wedding. My and my partner want to get married. We haven't exact date but first I wanted to find all my friend and people I care for. Well with finding my best friend was mistake. Finally I found him on facebook and I was so happy. I asked him how he has been and all that stuff. Well first he didn't include me to his friends. After I told him about my partner and me and what happened to me all this years he stopped write to me. Well I will not write to him again. I feel silly that I was so happy when I found him. Silly me. I thought that we were really good friends. I was mistaken. Well did such situation happen to you before? If yes please share with me. Maybe I will stop feeling silly and angry.
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@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
It is very normal in anyone's life that there is this OUCH feeling have to be expected and accepted when a friend is about to marry soon. The feeling is bitterness of loosing all the great times bound for future because everything may be limited already.The scope of affection varies on the depth of friendship, as some goes, a jealousy part will be driven at the moment one has to change direction of life. The feeling is not bad, very normal especially if that person has greater feeling of loosing you. Usually this happens when 2 great friends from opposite sexes are not meant to be a couple for lifetime but only as friends. The cry feeling of an anger being alone as being left and compromised instead being first served and attended. It is like a child who was crying because her balloon was stolen or the important thing in her life was lost. A fast- wakening and alarm that she even cannot explain and admit the reality unless been explained of good reasons and security inorder to stop crying. Do not feel bad about it, the great thing you have done and never can be replaced is that your effort to look for your friend whom you treasured also. IF ever there will be someone in despair or mad, I guess your friend because, maybe there are a lot of things he wanted to express to you but he was not given that chances and all have to do is regret.. in shock maybe he is, but I know you are very important to hi m because his actions speaks for it .. HAve a great time d
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@koperty3 (1877)
20 Nov 11
We were never meant together. We were great friends. We understood each other. People said about as that we are like brother and sister. I really cared about him. I put effort to find him. I just don't understand what happened to him. That friendship was so important to me. I think he doesn't care. He doesn't want to contact with me. I will not write to him again. Why should I?
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
Sometimes, we have to accept things no matter how painful it is.. As to any, like yours, for your treasured friendship for him cannot be equal as his treatment for you, for reasons we cannot answer unless he shared it honestly with you. Maybe the long time both of you had parted, had changed him for a lot of things that maybe he feel depressed, embarrassed, or an option for him not to share with you maybe because he feels something in himself as a failure unlike you that he sees you are feeling happy about life now. If you knew some of his problems before maybe it can help you understand his actions right now. Think of this, same as a reunion, somehow most of the people attending the reunions are those who have success in them, and less those who have worst expectations.. I guess, what happened is a sign for you to stop worrying after what have you done.. This earth is round in shape, just give him space to think over, and sooner you gonna cross path again.. just move on with your life now.. anyway.. your priorities now must be attended.. Just pray for him.. and let time heals even you have no idea at all of his reasons for such doings.
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@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
20 Nov 11
I think he cares for you, you were great friends..There are such reasons he might think as right for him but in effect not right for you being a true friend for him that presently affected your communication of friendship. Think of this, this effort of yours to search for him and carry him in your important day is a very blessed gift a friend may be flattered at all. But, though he acted differently with you? just understand him and the more you will be blessed, meaning, maybe our Lord had foreseen you cannot rely for him in long term like couple that is why he sent you someone now in your heart to rely with the rest of your life. Life rule is that there is nothing permanent in this world but change. Both of you have own lives that may have changed for better, and if he rejected your offers, it is not your losses at all. This event was a calling of God for you to reach him but he refused that, so it means, God had visibly shown you what to expect and though matter how painful it affected you now, I think on his part much painful for him regretting you that moment, the guilt is in him not in yours. The losses is in him, not in yours.. Maybe, he has many pretentions in life that he is not in the right mind now.. I just hope, he gonna explain all these to you soon,,,
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• India
21 Nov 11
Well you should not feel like this, you are not one for which he is not replaying to you. May be you both have been away for so many days that you guys don't feel the same friendship as before. He might have found new friends, which made sure that he forget you. It is not about your silliness you are just a human being and he is not talking to doesn't mean you will make him talk to you. You have to live this life. You are getting married now. You should move on in your life. Your life would not stop if just a man not replay you. Just keep on doing your work, your job was to invite him, now its his job to be there or not. If he replays then its good and if he don't then awesome.
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@koperty3 (1877)
22 Nov 11
I have my life and my partner. Ok we were friends before but as I see he is something else. The case closed. I would never contact him again. I don't need it.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
20 Nov 11
Why did you think he still was your best friend? You did not speak to him since years. If you don't speak to someone for years, if you don't know where that person is, he/she is NOT your best friend. That best friend just existed in your mind. The great news is that you already knew that and now you are ready to get married and start a real life. No looking back, no need to do things in name of the old friendship. I wish you all the luck in the world.
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@koperty3 (1877)
22 Nov 11
Well to be honest I did not think that. I thought it would be nice have him on my wedding. I think you did not understand. Anyway I wish you nice day.
• India
21 Nov 11
don`t be feel silly my freind.... just welcome your coming life with happiness. and congrats my freind about your marriage i wish you will have a great life ahead.....
@koperty3 (1877)
22 Nov 11
Thank you so much. Have a nice day.
@wulania (1528)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
never feel silly or blame you self becaue of such litle thing in your life. get angry doesnt solve your problem. see someone you know well and discuss your problem, at least you are not alone. it is much better than you are alone and having problems.
@koperty3 (1877)
22 Nov 11
Thank you