Best Friends - I don't have one.

India
November 21, 2011 6:08am CST
I am actually lack of best friends, I never had any best friends. It was just in school when I used to tell my parents that. He is my best friend and he is my class mate. Now I don't have any of them. I recently wrote a blog post about this, you can check my blog, Money Making Boy, from my profile. Do you think having best friends is really important in our lives. In this world where no one trusts on anyone is best friends still exist there? Do share here do you have any of your best friends?
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@paland3 (64)
• Hungary
22 Nov 11
Let's make it clear: You don't have close friends, or you don't have one special bestfriend who can fill this special post? 'Cause i think if you don't have only one, actually you have 2-3-4 best friends, and that's absolutely ok. But if you don't have any close friends, that's sad, and should do something about it. As said before, no man is an island.
• India
22 Nov 11
I do have close friends but I don't call any one as best friends. I don't have one and I think no one have one now. Those were actually in our schools only. After I left no one is there whom I can call a best friend.
• Hungary
22 Nov 11
Yes i see it that way too, but i don't think it's a problem. There are three-for people you meet every week, call with news, and tell your secrets. Maybe your love is your best friend, who really knows everything about you, and that is beautiful in that way.
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
It works for me because I am not the type who can easily share my problems with my family. We have big problems almost everyday and when I share my problems with them it will only lead to bad so I share my problems instead with my friends or sometimes on my bestfriend alone. I have a bestfriend and she is younger than me. She seems matured because I can get the right advices coming from her and I make sure I am there whenever she needs me. Although our communication now is through texts because we are busy we still text each other when we have problem and each of us are making sure we can help each other. I need someone who understand me, who will accepts me, who will not criticize me, who will tell me the truth. Of course my family can do that for me, but I do not want to add to the burden of some problems that are arising almost everyday. I make sure that I will add to the solution to the problems, rather than to add another problem. On the other hand, I am here for someone who will treat them as they are, as the person that are willing to help them in a little ways that I can and I hope that my bestfriend is proud of me existing in her life because I am happy to have someone like her. I feel blessed and thankful.
• India
22 Nov 11
Thats really good having a good friend, who listens to you when no one is there. But do you call here a best friend? Why? I don't think anyone is best friend here. I had in my school, but when we left no one is my best friend yet. So its actually not much value in my life. I have some close friends but I don't call them my best friends.
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
I call her my bestfriend because we have close relationship. Like we know each other in pieces. We gave each other's trusts and we help each other. I have many friends too, I have lots but I only give my full trust to one person closer to me. I know she will help me and defend me in all times because we rely on each other. However, you need to know that a bestfriends can be your worst enemy since they know your weakness.
• United States
21 Nov 11
I think I've only really had one best friend in life, and I've moved quite a distance from her so our relationship has kind of lost the shimmer it used to have. We still keep in contact, but long distance relationships are hard, especially with differing time zones and schedules, and talking via webcam just isn't the same. Having a best friend is pretty important, I think. I'm not exactly known for being extremely social and I have a really small social circle, which is really the only socializing I do on a frequent basis. Even with some of my introverted tendencies I still crave the contact of a friend who really gets me, and who I understand just as well. It's a deep connection that I don't get with family or anyone else, and it's good to have at least one best friend to confide in for any matter in the world.
• India
21 Nov 11
Best Friends, I had them until my school but as we all moved on got busy with our lives we didn't really cared of each other. No we all are best friends of each other.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
For me it is important to have a bestfriend. Sometimes we have personal problems that we cannot tell our family and that we only share with our bestfriends. Having a real one is really hard to find, most of the people are very pretentious. 'Though what I noticed was when someone has started his/her own family - their wife or husband becomes their bestfriend.
• India
22 Nov 11
I think you don't need any best friend if you are real to every one. If you treat all your friends as your best ones then it is more good than having one best friend. Think?
@shibham (17025)
• India
6 Dec 11
Hi... I have also no best friend but its not hard to me to live without one. Actually i wish to live lonely. Have a nice time.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
i don't have a lot of friends too. I am kind of lonely sometimes because i do not get to spend time with the people i want to be with, like friends because they are busy. i have a few good friends, and well i cannot really say i have a bestfriend - someone i can call and someone i will be helping out each time, all the time. unlike others who have someone always there - someone who got their back all the time. hehe
@reejuh (33)
25 Nov 11
Having best friends matters a lot. I mean, for me, I do have friends and I enjoy being with them. I'm lucky to have them. We share common interests in life. Even though at times we don't meet our free time but when we gather on some occasions, we always make history of great fun! Make friends and discover how many people loves and cares for you. Don't worry much on trust because when you are with good friends, it grows deep and you realize your'e on the right track! :)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
I once had a best friend, and it turned out that she's not a true friend at all. She did not understand me, and never tried to listen to what I had to say. I realized that "best friend" is only a name we assign to someone. Some would just call someone a best friend just for the sake of having one. Having a best friend is not mandatory at all. Having true friends are more important - ones that you could turn to in times of need even though you don't often communicate with each other anymore. It's normal to have friends who come and go. We need to live our life after all, and we shouldn't expect all of them to stick around all the time. I don't see the need to call a friend my best friend, perhaps it is because I already have someone to turn to all the time and that is my twin sister.
• China
22 Nov 11
Although I am lack of best friends, I insist that it's really important to have a best friend. when you feel alone, you can find your best friends to share your feeling. A good friend can help you overcome many kinds of difficuties, which is resource you can use in social
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Nov 11
Sometimes life drifts people apart indeed. Do you want a closest friend? Maybe you should open yourself more at least until you find one
@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Yes, we need to have a best friend, if you don't have a partner yet in life. But when you have someone to whom you can share your life with, he/she can already be your best friend. In addition, God can be your best friend too. He is one best friend who will always be there for you whenever you call Him.
• United States
22 Nov 11
I have typically always lacked close friends. It's been difficult because my sister hasn't experienced the same lack, so I have felt jealous of her at times. I have had a few "best friends," but I feel that we could have been closer, and the friendships didn't last that long. I think it's sad that some of us struggle to find close friendships, because close friendships are needed to help us learn and grow.
• China
21 Nov 11
hey,friend! I really agree with you because I also think it's very hard to get the best friends. some people say they have many friends, yes, they are right and I agree with them. But I can say they can't the best and real friends. the best friends for me means you can treat them like your sister or brother, and they also can treat you like sister or brother.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
21 Nov 11
I've never had a best friend and would never want one. I am my own best friend, and have never been let down (by my best friend!) I don't want a best friend because I have never needed one. Sure I have friends, but they are just casual friends. Only those people who are insecure, who can't make up their own minds, and who search for appreciation, need or want a best friend. For what its worth I'm a 78 yr old male.
• United States
21 Nov 11
I have two best friends, but one I rarely talk to anymore. It really saddens me that I don't communicate with my really close best friend as much anymore but I guess that's how life works because now he's employed and we have very different schedules! My newest best friend is cool though and we aways hang out! It feels so cool to have another good friend who although doesn't have all my interests at least we have a lot in common! If you don't have a good companionship with your friends, all you should do I locate someone with similar interests as you and just build up the relations on those interests! Then you two can become very close buddies!
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
No man is an island and no man stands alone. I truly believe in this saying, because I am the kind of person who is 25% dependent on friends in terms of emotional advice, empathy, and consent as well, if you may say. For me, friends are the people who, just like families, never leave you at times of despair and sadness. I have myself experienced this, and before I wrongly rejected my family for a guy, and after all the drama, they have still accepted me for who I am, and it made our relationship and bond even stronger. Even with the gaps, both communication and time, we still manage to talk and chat for a little and make up for all the lost moments.
@Mashnn (4503)
21 Nov 11
Best friends are important but not having them, do not make you lesser in any way. You can make your family members or cousins your best friend, which to me is even more important. In most cases, friends will be there for you conditionally and once they decide to leave you, you be left wondering whether they were really your true friends.