Fell in love the second time around

Philippines
November 21, 2011 8:59pm CST
We started this relationship the time that I was on the verge to move to another city. It was a bit distant and the time we parted it was a longing feeling to be together. After months of working out a long distance relationship, I tried to be tight on the bond that I started stalking. The time came that he became so sick of my distrust on his part. Time came that he met a girl and right before he was about to move to my place he decided to end it all up. I was badly hurt, but their relationship with the new girl ended too soon and he came back begging for my love. I have moved on yet part of me still wants to be with him. It may not be that great to ask for an advise but I would love to hear your opinions as well.
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@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
22 Nov 11
I may not be the best person to give advice about second chance because to me it's like closing a door to the past and I never open it again there is a reason someone is my ex I always start new. date new person. relocate if I can afford it. make new friends. regardless I forgive or not, I never rekindle relationship once it's over before it's over, though, usually I give it all that's why when it's over I don't want to rekindle it true I am not free of mistakes. but that's why I don't want to make another one by accepting them back this may sound cruel but so far I have saved myself from many more disappointments I can't say this is the best to do in your situation I really hope you will give it much consideration before giving him second chance
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Iv'e already moved on. I love my single life after him but he came back like a baby crying and he just can't help it not being with me. I'm not a fan of second chances either but I'm just deeply troubled. I fear that I may not find a better man. He used to be the worst person I knew after what he did but maybe if he will hurt me again then it would not be that painful because I know I can move on to this guy easily now. I'm now expecting for a new relationship not to last but why not give a chance. I guess i will not lose anything now.
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@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
22 Nov 11
yeah that's something I can't do I mean giving second chance expecting it won't last to me I'd rather not give it at all, but again that's just me I believe people can change, but so far I've never seen one changes for the better maybe if I do then I will be more willing to give second chance crying man LOL not a fan of that either well wish you the best anyway
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
22 Nov 11
ooopps missed it ok it's unfair men cry too :)
@SIMPLYD (76557)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
If i were you, i would give him another chance. Not before weighing things up and testing him a bit more of his sincerity in coming back into your life. Good luck my friend.
22 Nov 11
testing him is a good idea.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
I have tested him during our first month of relationship but not now. I think it would be best to leave it as is. If he broke his promise then I won't hesitate to leave him instantly. I'm keeping my pride though everyone thinks I lost it already for giving him a second chance. I can live without him. I know that, but deep in my heart I still love him. I have left something for me now. ^^
@SIMPLYD (76557)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
At least you have given him a second chance. I hope it will work out for good.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
You know i am also at that stage but you are much luckiest coz he is begging for your love again. And he knows to himself that he still loves you more than others. On my side its better to ask yourself if you still love him so your heart can decide and i know that it will never go wrong as love is concern. But if you use your head there comes so many reasons which you make confusions. Now if you think he do more good to you and still you love him why don't give him a second chance otherwise you know him well. And one more thing you will know to yourself if you really love him and need him. You can do that in order for you to test also yourself. Just rely to what you feel or in short into your heart desire.. But with a little wiser than before coz you know him well. Ok takecare friend,,,goodluck.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
I appreciate your comment my friend. I'm now wiser, I believe. It was such a blessing in disguise that we broke up. It was then I realize my potentials as a great person on my own. I'm giving him a second chance yo test myself too. But, this time it's him who's paranoid of losing me. It's the other way around now. The tables have turned. :)
@alexlin (20)
22 Nov 11
Hi Meeksilent I prefer to give him second chance. You know a lot about this guy and you keep a long time relationship with him, it is better than begin with other strangers. The worse result is he hurt you again,if so,i think you can cover easily. If he realizes his mistake and chooses to together with you, he will behave better than before. persuade yourself first and never repent, because it is a inconsistent decision.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Thank you for giving me enlightenment. I do agree too. Hope that this risk is something I won't regret. I guess I become to numb to get hurt too much again if he ever fool around after this.
@svjomboy (876)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
for me he hurts you before and now he want to comeback with you? no way, find a good one and forget him...
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
I'm giving it a shot. I hope I will not rregret it. Everyone deserves a second chance too.
@reicheru (50)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Good day! Well it must have been hard for you during those times. Being left by someone you love is really difficult. If you've been having a second thought if you will bring back together, all I can say is that you just follow what you're heart says. The brain (hypothalamus) is the one who controls our emotions & feelings for someone, hunger, thirst, etc.. But there are just some instances that you're heart overpower your feelings , you can really feel what your heart says, I just can't explain it, but I believe that following your heart is the safest way. When I was in my review days for our board exam, our reviewer says when you're in doubt just follow your heart. But before you follow your heart ask first for guidance, to GOD. :) Have a blessed day! I hope this spiritual advice will help you. By the way, just wait for the right time when you decide for something. ;)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
thank you for that enlightenment. I ask God too to guide me whatever may happen on this second chance he has given us. I hope that the past may not be the hindrance to build another good relationship. It may not be too great that the past have been that bad but maybe this is a way for us to be stronger.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Hi there meeksilent. It is great for you to have moved on already. I feel it is the best that you have known how you are able to cope when you are not together and it gave you a chance to assess the very situation you are in right now. Yes you will always have that feeling that you could have given him the chance. but i think the blame is not to be put on you alone. He is begging for you to come back to him because the love he started did not last... and i wonder why? Maybe you should go and talk to him first and see if you and him would still have things to reconcile. when you talk to him in person you would see if he is sincere or if he is still the person you loved in the first place. I am always okay with second chances, but it should happen for the right reasons.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
actually i'm experiencing something similar :D cut things short, 2 things 1. Make sure of your feelings towards him. Is it truly love that you feel for him or is there something else 2. Make sure "HIS" intentions are sincere and there are no lope holes to what ever he is telling you.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
funny, i'm having a similar crisis as well. Long distance relationships are really hard. most of the time they don't really work out. i would advice you to first, make sure about your feelings towards him, then second make sure that his intentions are clear. i myself have been in a long distance relationship, it was only good at the beginning cause we both promised that we will be strong and make our relationship work. and as time passes by, she told me that she found someone else. the feeling at that time was very painful, she broke my heart and crushed it to a million pieces. i worked abroad an i couldn't work properly, good that i survived. after a few months, i finished my contract and came back. then i heard from a friend that she was single again. i have feelings for her but i dont want to rush things yet.
22 Nov 11
hi:) if you still love him better that you gave him a second chance, because you will regret it for sure if you didn't and you realize that you still love him. all I can say is Goodluck for both of you!
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
well, follow what your heart desires my friend.if you think it will make you happy to be with him again, then there is no need for you to ask for our opinion.but try to seek God's wisdom first if you really want to make sure if he really is the one destined to be your better half.
@kearkear (259)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
Being in love is such a wonderful feeling that hard to speak in words. Actually we experienced the same situation. We had also this kind of long distance relationship. But after month we broke up. It was really a down moment for me that cause me to transfer work. I's almost moved on with that experience and suddenly he tries to win back my heart. I have given him another chance. And for this time presently, our relationship is very strong. Giving second chance is not bad, as long as the love that you have for him is still there.