His father
By Ladyjeans
@bubuth (1815)
Philippines
November 22, 2011 1:41am CST
My friend is being angry on what her husband's father doing ever time he visit them because when they get married the one who gave money for there wedding is her mother and her husband's father did not give even 25 cents..Right now my friend and her husband is living with her mother's house.She told me,almost everyday her father in law is going in their house then he will say that he is just visiting them and after that he will ask for money if her husband give him a money to buy food he will say it is not enough..
She is scornful on him because it was a healthy man but his not looking for a job and he always got drunk..what's your opinion about it?
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6 responses
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
I think it's not right to hate a father. Maybe he has been good before when your friend's husband is still young. I think that they should understand him because maybe he was in a depressing situation and all he can do is to drink. Kids has responsibility to their mom and dad too so it's okay to give him money.
If it's really too much then I think your friend's husband is the one who should speak to his dad and tell him what he was doing is not good.
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@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
So that's what makes him be in a depressing situation.
He should realize then that what he's doing is not good and that he should change for the better. Because no one will love him or even care for him if he keeps having those attitude. Maybe if they start having a kid then he will be soft with his grandchild... 
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@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
you should tell your friend to look for a new step father joke.
for me the best approach would be that you tell your friend, to talk to her husband that she dislikes his father in law barging in and asking for money. then she should tell his husband to help his father look for a job.
then, make sure that the step father doesn't know that it was your friends idea.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Nov 11
Not real sure that I'm following your story correctly but the dad sounds pretty lame. No one owes anyone a living. What he gave or did not give as a wedding gift should not factor into this. The fact is that they don't owe him a thing and are not obligated to him so they should just say NO to him if they don't want to give him money rather than complain about him which does no one any good at all. They are living with her mother and her mother doesn't owe them either. She is letting them live their out of the kindness of her heart. That is the only way anything should be given.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
22 Nov 11
We have our obligation to help our parents, but in this case,if the father is still healthy enough to look for a job..i guess he is abusing his son.
Not to mention he is a drunkard...it means, he is asking money for his vices.
I know I may sound harsh...but the husband should stop giving money to his father...
@sijabatnaburjut (2171)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 11
The solution was rather difficult, moreover, he is the father of her husband. We can't forbade him to give money to his father. If we were on his position, what should we do as a child. He was a good man who understood the good deed what his parents taught him. Anyway, it's the obligation of children to return the favor in their elderly.
It's only her husband who should speak about the matter and found the solution.
@wangfei123 (28)
• China
23 Nov 11
As a son ,I feel proud of giving my father money.When a child I was ,father was my god and relyed on him.Now I am a man and have enought money to support my father, it's a reason to give parents money and I 'd love to.She must understand her husband and think her husband is a duitiful son
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