Is your life the way you thought it would be 5 years ago?

@curmont (343)
United States
November 22, 2011 6:08pm CST
I was always told to make long term goals, you know where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years etc. I've been looking at my life and realized my life is nothing like what I thought it would be like 5 years ago. 5 years ago I was in an unhealthy relationship that I had at that time been in for 10 years. I had just had my 4th child and I swore I knew I never would even consider having more children to the point I had my tubes tied. I lived at work basically and my career was of the utmost importance to me, most of my goals revolved around promotions at work. Now 5 years later I am married to the man of my dreams, I am having my tubes untied so that we may share a child together, I quit my job and work from home and I couldn't be happier. This got me thinking does this happen to a lot of people or do their lives pretty much go according to plan. Please share your experience is your life anything like you envisioned it 5 or 10 years ago?
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
My life is not what I had envisioned 5 or 10 years ago. I have achieved some things in my life but it is not quite what I actually wanted in my life to happen. I am happy anyway but maybe it will be more happier if I what I have dreamed of before came true today With this topic you made, I was reminded with my school days where my teacher would the whole class to answer a question... How do you see yourself ten years from now?
@curmont (343)
• United States
23 Nov 11
That is exactly the same thing I was reminded of it is what jogged this line of thinking. I am thinking that most people are not able to accurately predict how there life will be in 10 years and I am wondering why they always ask this. As high school kids of course we will dream big and probably unrealistic and when we realize we can not live up to those expectations it can cause depression.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Very true... When I experience failure at some point of my life. I used to think I was only a few steps away on achieving my dreams but I blew it. And then there's sadness. I think so it can cause depression if we think about the answers we give before.
@dfollin (12780)
• United States
23 Nov 11
When I was a child too I was told to make long term goals when I grow up.I had a petty good childhood and I thought that my adult life would be something like it,peaceful,not the best,but it was nice. But,being adult life gets more complicated.I had made goals to get married and have a family.So,I thought my life was on the right track.It didn't work out I did end up with children and no husband or father on my kids to help me.Society's outlook on things changed laws that made it even more difficult for me and some people,not all people in society made life harder which caused me some medical problems that are permanant that make life difficult. Then,my life turned more then before to God and I met someone that I married and we added to the family.My life was good and we felt we would grow old together,raise our kids,enjoy the grandkids for a bit over 7 years.Then it turned again to not being how we planned.My husband got cancer and passed away. Since then I have tried to get our(myself,kids and grandkids)lives back on track,planning and making more goals,but we keep hitting brick walls.However the most important thing is that "Everything Happens For a Reason".....God's reason and things happen in His own GREAT time! :)
@curmont (343)
• United States
23 Nov 11
I am so sorry about your husbands passing it is always hard to lose someone we truly love. It sounds to me like you are an extremely strong woman and your family is lucky to have you. I am sure with you to guide them you will all find happiness on this earth as well as in God's kingdom.
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@dfollin (12780)
• United States
23 Nov 11
I try to stay strong.Thank you!
@beamer88 (4267)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Unfortunately, it hasn't turned out the way I'd have hoped it would be. A little more than 5 years ago, I thought I had this great plan of earning enough to buy a house of our own. I had a high-paying job and had a business on the side that was also doing good. Then things just happened. I mean, in less than a year, the company I work for suddenly bellied up and even owed us a significant amount of money. My business followed suit. Sales was drastically going down. And I also made some really bad financial decisions. Things really took a turn for the worse, literally a 180-degree turn. The amount that I've set aside turned into almost the exact amount I owed my creditors. Those were really tough times. I got my second wind now and we're doing better again.
@curmont (343)
• United States
23 Nov 11
I am glad to hear you are doing better. It is crazy how things can change on us so much so quickly and we never see it coming. I think that it is great that you have not let it hold you down and that your continuing to work on your goal. Best of luck to you.
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
29 Nov 11
no, but there have been a lot of changes, and deaths in the last year
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
Nice question!This is usually asked on job interviews. Well not all of my plans materialized. I thought I was too idealistic. But i think it really happens to some people like you. You are so blessed. But I'm still thankful I got what i wanted small things such as owning a laptop and small business. I think I'm a work in progress. Five years is not enough for me i guess to accomplish those dreams. Apart from that, my life-long search for the man of my dreams has not yet come. I'm still waiting til now. Maybe i lacked also courage and confidence to take risks that's why my long term goals are still far to reach.
@Gram13000 (443)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Out of everybody that I kow and grew up with I can say that I have never seen life go according to plan. the only way that can happen is if your fanily completly dictates your life then it might be predictable what you are going to do. But most of the time you never know where life is going to take you.
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Am I where I thought I would have been 5 years ago no. I thought I would be fishing up college this year have no relationship with any guy for a long time. Well things turned out different but all for the good. I stopped going to college found out that the guy I liked in high school liked me too. We ended up dating for 3 months then getting engaged and staying engaged for 3 months then got married a few months later found out we where having a baby. I didn't think I would be a mom at 23 what do you know I hav a little girl that I'm raising with a wonderful man that I have know for years. Funny how thugs work out.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
23 Nov 11
WOW what a nice question...Well May 2006 I was working for an airline as a Special Services Agent..dealing with those customers who purchased tickets in access and up to $10,000 upper class, so you can imagine when people wanting and needing everything since paying that type of money...I know I would be also... But anyway the company moved my entire department to our homes Yep worked for the company from home...they set everyone, phones computers everything...then in July 2006 I found out I had B Cancer..operation in August...haven't been back to work since. but the thing about that is that the company has since moved all operations to the home country..UK...But I am doing well... I am a survivor and I am blessed..so never thought my last 5 years was what I thought it would have been.
@trm820 (222)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Five years ago I was living on the streets. I had a severe case of depression that got me so down to the point I just didn't care, even thoughts of my two daughters (who don't live with me) couldn't seem to bring me out of that rut. Why? Because every time I tried to come out of it something would come in my way. One time I lived with someone, cleaned his house for room and board, well I was looking for work and right when I found something, he made me leave his home, so I was homeless again. Now, I am with someone I have been with roughly nine months and I love him. I found a job and I am suppose to be starting next week. I'm also going to return to school when I am able to. Even though my girls don't live with me I don't want them to give up on life the way I did for awhile. I want to show them that life is worth living. :)
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
23 Nov 11
Honestly,the life here is what i expected 5 years ago.But when i had such life,i thought it doesn't seems like what i thought.I didn't happy and i feel tired.I know there are many opportunities in big city,but i bear lots of pressure.So what i wish now is get rid of this and travel around the world.This is what i should do at this age.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
it is not like what i have expected it to be, actually. I think that i often have assumed too much and worked too little on my life. It is just not even close to what i have envisioned myself 5 years ago. I really thought i would have settled already, or that i would already be somewhere else in world, working and enjoying my travel at the same time.