Wanted Girl friend.

@bulastika (5967)
Philippines
November 23, 2011 8:23am CST
I'm really surprise how people meet in internet and fall in love. Although theirs so many cases of bad experience by online dating services. theirs also other who really find true love via internet. Do you think its worth the risk posting and hoping to find a mate online? I mean is that how desperate single women right now? Do you think a man like me can be successful if I try this one also?
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21 responses
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
25 Nov 11
if you wanted to get a girl,i suggest to you not to look a girl via internet. many of them telling lies. i know, some people find their love via initernet, but i think it is too risky you know, you dont know them well and you trying take a date with them. i just want you get the best, i think it is better to look a girl not via internet. try to look in the real directly, it will have bigger chance to success. yo can find the girl like you want, different with via internet, you can be tricked by someone that using a fake photo. so you should keep away from this.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Yeah lots telling lies like deliar? lols.Yeah. Its really hard to find true person online. In fact even that person is true. She will have hard time accepting that I'm true also. In short theirs always doubt in the air. That why its really hard to find trust online. Its much easy to find trust in convenient store. lols.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
26 Nov 11
Sorry, i am not a girl.. like you said, searching a mate via internet is just like gambling, you dont know how your cards, and you dont know about the future. it is better to avoid it.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
I don't know were did you get that impression but I never said that your a girl. When I said like deliar. Its the word "the liar" that what I meant. I'm not saying to you but rather the subject we are discussing. Because you said many tells lies. That why I said like deliar. Its suppose to meant the girls that your saying.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
24 Nov 11
I would never try that. I would need to know the girl a little better BEFORE I date her. I'm going to go out somewhere with some crazy person? No. I want to know you are a good person BEFORE we go somewhere. I think meeting online is crazy. But... I know people who did it, and are married now. So, perhaps it works for some. Not me.
• Canada
24 Nov 11
But, if you get to know someone online, then they put up a load of information about themselves. Yes, they wouldn't put up some sort of crazy detail about them, showing how they're crazy... but they wouldn't be telling you about that when you meet them, either, so what's the difference?
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
25 Nov 11
I'm thinking more along the lines of someone I know at work. I know them. I know how they act. I know what kind of person they are. I know how they react when something goes wrong. Or like someone at like a church group, and what type of person they are there, or what kind of family they have, what type of friends they keep. All of this stuff can give you some concept of what kind of person they are. I think one of the biggest problems we have in our culture today (US culture), is that people think the best way to meet someone is at a bar, or at a night club. And in that situation, you are right. They can put on a fake mask, pretend to be something they are not, and then you have absolutely no clue what kind of person that is. You have no frame of reference, to see if how they act around you, is how they are in the rest of their daily life, because you've never seen them in their daily life. Then you give your heart away, or marry, and wake up to find this person is totally difference from what you thought you knew. Well duh, you didn't really know them to begin with. And online is the same thing only 100x worse. You can fake anything online. Anything at all. I've seen people who went to meet some guy or girl they met online, only to find out they were married, or had several other 'partners' on the side, or less malicious, just were totally different in general, than their online persona.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Totally agree with you andy77e. The person is only true when its guard is down and not when its wearing their mask on. Sometimes you will know a person best if you just around with that person. Not talking. or flirting. Just being with that person character shows.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
24 Nov 11
Well, today's technology can help us in this field, but ... I recommend in the Internet world, always careful!
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
Yes ? you have to be careful because a lot of spammers are there. So you dont know whose the fake or right guy.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
@albrello Yeah. I do agree. Care and Full of it. lols. in 100 people I talk online 101 can't be trusted. Lets face it. who will going to give their real name on the first chance of chat? I guess none. @chrisanto Spammers? I don't understand what the connection of spammers in a dating sites.
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 11
Its normal an experience to be bad or good but well if its good nobody complain if its bad everyone will do :) Anyway i dont know these dating sites whatsoever :) 1. You are asking the women how desperate they are ? thats a strange thing to ask :) (or otherwise if not asking its offending) I find myself desperate at times and i think women or not everyone are when they are alone :) 2.Nobody stop you from trying, and people never loose from trying . If yo u try and fail - ok who cares , but if you try and actually do it then its worth it and you can be happy . Sometimes you got to risk to get something :)
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Try and try until you realize that what your doing is plain stupidity I guess? lols. Actually I'm describing my dog. My dog keeps on jumping trying to reach the doorknob. even though I know he can't open it. But he keeps on jumping every morning when he want to go out. lols. Anyway. I guess its hard to find real person online. I rather not going to risk it. but thanks for the advice.
@UmiNoor (3673)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 11
My uncle met his wife online so I think it's possible to find true love online but you must be careful with fraudsters. If the person you're communicating online starts to ask for money or material stuff, you can bet that the person is a fraudster. It has happened. Just be extra careful, that's all.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Thanks. Yeah I know. but I guess its never going to happen with me. Because right now I decide to be realistic. I don't mean that finding someone online is unrealistic. But for me the risk is just to greater than the reward. Beside for four years I don't have a job. If I can find a job. I guess I can find true love also. lols.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
It is a lonely world. many good men are taken, or gays. women are left with no choice but to go where the market for good boys are - one good source is the internet. hehe :D You will only know if you would be successful in this if you try it. so sign up and try to find some good girls out there. you should be careful though because not 100% of those women you will meet are sincere. Best to you! =)
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Thanks. But I'm not that type really. Maybe its the last resort. But the way thing right now. I prefer to have a job than to have anything about relationship. Its all expense. lols. Life is short so we only have few years to get rich. lols.
@Porcospino (19931)
• Denmark
24 Nov 11
I found my husband on the internet, we have been married for 2 years, and I know from experience that it is possible to find love on the internet. On the other hand I have also had some bad experiences with the men that I met on online dating sites. One of them was completely different in real life and our date was definately not a success, but I am very happy that I didn't give up after those bad experiences because in the end I found my husband.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Congrats. I think theirs always love inside the net. lols. Its hard to find true love online. But once you find one its going to reward you. I'm happy to see real life truth story online love. That goes to happy ending. I'm not that in hurry. I'm more on looking for a job than to find love online.
@Christoph56 (1508)
• Canada
24 Nov 11
Well, I've been on online dating sites for a while now, I've dated a bunch of women, and found a few girls that I've been more like best friends with, now. I had some freaky times as well, don't get me wrong, but that will happen, no matter what. At the same time, my sister, and a best friend of mine, both got married to someone they found through online! Seems like it really can help! Really, it's almost better then finding someone through the real world, because you get all sorts of information about them, before you even meet them! You know what they like, what they don't like, who they are, where they've been, what they want to do with their lives, just from reading their profile. It really works out. Plus, today, finding someone in the real world is a bit frustrating. If you do things like go to clubs and bars, then you have no idea who the people are, and they don't know you, either, so it just boils down to attraction, which turns into, one night stands. The other main way you know people is through your work, because you see those people everyday, but starting relationships through work is a problem, employers don't like it, and if it doesn't go well, both of you are really messed up. Online is far safer, and, it works.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
I'm happy for you and for your sister. I know what you mean. But in my country it still taboo if you got married because of someone you meet online. But its seem in each country theirs some difference culture and openness. Beside if it destiny then its going to be destiny. No matter what.
@cherriefic (4813)
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
If you are always on line and comfortable with finding a girlfriend on line, why not? Most people find their true love from the internet. Maybe it is a good idea. Just be careful though. There are a lot of fake people on line and you don't want to end up with one.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
I think it will never going to happen that I will going to meet someone online. I'm sure with that. I have hard time trusting people that I meet in person. How much more people I meet online. But its a good thought. But I don't think I will going to waste my time with this kind of fantasy.
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
May I just say that women are not the only ones who look for love online, even men do that. And that is not desperation. Desperate, in my opinion, is when you meet someone and you never leave him/her alone and you try to convince him/her that you are 'the one' However, in the case of online dating, I see it as using available resources efficiently. You have an internet connection, you have social networking sites, there is a probability (no matter how small) of you finding someone you'll love eventually. There's nothing wrong with that. You see, love will come your way whenever it's meant to. I believe that out fate has been drawn already even before we are born. I know love will come and I don't care if it comes personally or virtually (online). I think we should open our hearts and our minds that love may come in many different ways.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Love moves in mysterious ways. lols. Anyway. Its not a dating site if its only women that goes to dating site right? Its needed two to tango. Lets just not concentrate in one side. theirs also great risk. As I said some even got abused after they meet their date online. That's why I open this thread. Because even with this kind of risk still many women join and meet up with their suppose date. The only reason why I emphasis women simply because I don't give a damn if he got rape by she unless that she look like nothing human. lols. But women get rape because of online dating and still many go and meet their date for me is kind of desperation don't you agree?
@nezavisima (7417)
• Bulgaria
24 Nov 11
always have a friendship is very difficult. because not everyone can be your true friend. Haro found many friends in the net and I am one of them. I love to sit and to write with people that I trust. but it is very difficult to find a true friend. anyone can be successful just be yourself Have courage, faith, courage and most of all confidence. nice day!
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Yeah. that's true. its really hard to trust people online. But if that person is as beautiful as you. I think they will going to have hard time not trusting you. lols. A horse can run a hundred miles nonstop. Can carry loads twice its weight. Can be vicious if threatened. But if theirs no one rding that horse. That horse can't do any of those I mentioned about. Behind every great man theirs a great woman.
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
just try to know them first... before going into a relationship... just be careful... and just be patient... coz someone out there is really meant for u... dont rush... love will find you...
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
I'm trap in a five mile deep cave. I don't think love can find me their. lols. yeah. Its true. But don't worry I'm always careful. And don't worry. I'm not going to fall to this one. Just thinking how others been successful with this one. But I'm not a type who going to join this kind of frenzy.
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
I ever slightly considered using online date site to find a girl friend. I have searched there are date site that offer service without charge or with charge. But, I didn't have any idea how it work ? I am now having a girl friend. We are not meet through online date site, but my father gave me her number and I was interested in her. Hoped our relation continues well.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Good luck. But since you said your father give you her number does it mean you don't still meet? So its means she is not physically your girlfriend just text mate or something like that? Or you really have meet already?
• Philippines
24 Nov 11
Yes this is true now a days. I have a friend who is already desperate to find her right man and she try her luck via on line dating. It takes a risk but its up to the person to take good care of herself and the responsibilities, trust and honesty attached to it. Well at the end your patience will really paid.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
So what happen to your friend? And what site did she use? And how long did she use the online dating site? Information is really important in this kind of online sites. Because some sites is just another front of you know what. But still theirs others who is really good one.
@ramonah (213)
• Romania
23 Nov 11
I think you can keep your options open, although in my opinion you might have many deceiving experiences you might just have good ones too, or THE best one :) I've seen it achieved, it's possible, even with people from different countries, even different continents and cultures.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Yeah I guess. If she is beautiful and smart in real person then why not. Lols. Smart enough to dumb me. lols. I think many will going to mistake the trill of being in love. Lets face it. If someone suddenly become your best friend online even though you don't know that person will you going to fall for it? I'm not. I'm not that type. Maybe I will just going to play along. But if I know that person by going out and hang out. then maybe.
• United Arab Emirates
23 Nov 11
I know a lot of friends found their spouse on the dating site. well its the trend now... you can try this but also be careful when going for online dating. sometimes if you are on the same location like one of my friends she meets with them and gauge them if they are genuine or just see if they can find something that would interest them as a person. there are loads of deceiving info and images on the net but remember that there are also some people who tries their luck. i suggest you find a site that friends recommended it would be helpful. I don't think that doing this is out of desperation. for some probably but not all. goodluck in your search!
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
Before when we are in college we do this kind of thing. Not a dating or something just YM making friends and make up. But usually what we do is that we told them that we need to meet in elevator in third floor of this mall. But what we do we just going to pass by and check what they look like. If we don't like what we saw. We just simply walk out. lols.
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
It is too risky. You don't really know that person eventhough you have been chatting for some time online. The cyber world and the real world are two different dimensions. But, if you really want to know more, then you should try it! You might be like those lucky couple who had found the love of their lives. There's nothing wrong in trying. Besides, experience is the best teacher. If you succeed, then congratulations but if you fail, then it's a new lesson learned.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
They say its called destiny. But the only destiny I know is a cable channel. lols. I'm not that desperate and I'm not that serious to go on this online thing. I'm just happy that some just been happy with the outcome. But me. I rather want to have someone who I meet than someone who I know online. Beside you don't have any idea if that person is even real or not.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
It's too risky nowadays but I am amazed how some are lucky to find someone online with a good heart. I think not only the desperate single women are looking for love via the net. Personally I would not risk dating or loving someone whom I only online, I don't easily trust someone online especially those that are expressing interest on me. I don't visit online dating sites too coz I feel I may only get to see desperate guys too. No offense to those who have met their husband or wife online.. as I said some are really lucky to be married with someone they knew online and turns out to be good person.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Me too. I only trust person who I can see their expression. I judge people through their facial expression and the tone of their voice. But I guess that is the reason. Why this type of dating will not going to work for me. I'm not a type of person who going to go to you and ask your name or something.
@svjomboy (876)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
If you are going to find mate online is be careful maybe you can meet some scammer or else a lier, try but dont trust until you know him better.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Of course I will not going to fall to this thing. I'm just curious how this things works. But my security features are high. lols. I'm a type of person if I going to trust that person. I need to know that person a long time. That's why you can say my house is on fire. Even if I smell smoke, feel the heat, but as long I don't see my house on fire. I will not going to believe you type of person.
@julianmac (397)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 11
Hi, Sure, why not? You can sign up for one of those online dating services. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, when the right time comes, the one meant to be will appear. My friend met this girl in chatting and soon they became love birds. Now, they are happily married and expecting their first child. I don't think women are that desperate. Probably it's just that they are being careful in choosing the right one as their life partner. That's exactly how we all should be.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
I'm not that type who will at this moment. And I'm more like a conservative type of person. So I don't think its going to work for me. But I'm just happy that others do get successful with this online fling. But same time worried especially to does innocent teenagers who just to carefree and end up being abused.