Facing Worries And Troubles
November 26, 2011 2:34pm CST
Sometimes we pass days and days in lonliness not because there isn't anyone living with us but even though we live with family members we feel lonely and bewildered. We carry with us a heavy heart and we sigh deep. However we try to speak out we do not feel that intimacy with anyone. Life at times offers bitter experience. Sometimes we may gather courage and share our worries with someone and the listeners betray. They may listen quietly but without any expression. They may never offer any suggestion but asks us alone to ponder and see. There are some who listen but take everything unto negative and simply discourage us. Often we may find a situation that we have to face our life all by ourselves without any external support. Some may make us feel belittled or they may boast over their happiness or success. And we may feel a sense of regret for having shared. All that we can do to overcome is to shoulder our responsibility with serenity. Human greatness is facing life with positive alternatives. We should firmly believe that deep within us there is something devine and when we appeal to it it comes to our aid. We have to be aware of our conditions and analyse them as a third person observing. We must think over the pros and cons. We must suggest to ourselves an alternative to overcome the situation. We must ask for guidance to God whom our inner self longs to see or experience. Sometimes we have to just smile over our own conditions. And just rise up with a calm and self confident attitude to face it with peace. The first step is to assume an attitude of quietitude and a deep sense of peace within. We cannot buy, we cannot borrow peace, but when we seek God or the inner guide we do find that peace and wisdom. We have to trust in our inner power. If we have a firm will success comes to us.
• United States
26 Nov 11
It seems you already knew the solution to your deeper trouble, and inner worries, and you knew how to encounter them at the end of the discussion already. So, you only give us advise instead of ask people's advise on this discussion? I may agree with all your saying here, but it is always easy to say, hard to make it happen.
27 Nov 11
I see life as a roller-coaster. Nothing is ever permanent whether it be bad times or good time. We are going to get to move on to our next experience. As a Zen practitions I practice the art of meditation and focusing. When things are bad, it is because I consider them to be bad, but if I focus on then and really "breath" into the experiences, then they quickly transform. It gets to be easier to bear at the very least. In Zen there is a space of the void, numerically represented by 0 (zero). Where we do nothing and be everything. Using our minds like a mirror to refect that which is going on in our life. Noticing if we feel sad, angry, nervous, tense etc, but doing nothing by watching. When a state of being is fully watched, it will change, providing that we do not try to change it. This is the state of the void or at 0 reaction. It is a difficult state of awareness to get into, but through meditation, it is perfectly attainable. Our conditioning to alway seek to be better tends to get in the way and has to be dealt with first though. _Derek
27 Nov 11
I totally agree with you. when I feel loneliness I always seek God thru prayers and usually reaa those encouraging and inspirational bible verses, every time I do that I feel intimate conversation with God. God is a good listener and adviser to me. God always with give me a right path to faces all the difficulties in life. God loves me because after the intimate conversation with God , my heart feel so great And GOd always give me peace inside of my heart..
27 Nov 11
You've made some very valid points, srjac0902. People feel alone at times even though they may have thousands of friends on Facebook and they may be among family members and friends because we're always on our own. When we die and buried in the earth, we don't bring our friends or family with us, we will be alone. Alone with God. That is why it's important to find peace within yourself and God. I always seek peace with God because only God will be with me when everyone else forsakes me.
27 Nov 11
Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts with us, srjac. I always find it beneficial to learn from other people's ideas and experience. "No man is an island." But, there are times when I feel that it is better to be alone than to feel lonesome and lost in a crowd - time to be alone with God and with myself in order to focus on ways and means to solve problems and enrich my life and soul. Yes, I agree with you, faith and a firm will are the keys to success. God bless you my friend.
• United States
26 Nov 11
Hi srjac0902, thanks for sharing. You bring out some good points. There are things that we face daily. I would also like to add that the Word of God says to "Take no thought" about those needs that God promise to supply. We should face life without worry. Worry may damage your health, cause the object of your worry to consume your thoughts, disrupt your productivity, negatively affect the way you treat others, and reduce your ability to trust in God. __There is a difference in worry and concern. Worry immobilizes and concern moves you to action. _Jesus assured us that if we do our part, we need not worry, for God will provide. Your statement: Some may make us feel belittled or they may boast over their happiness or success. __Takes me to James 1:26. I pray to keep a tight rein on my tongue to make sure that I am saying things that build up others rather than tearing them down. __Be blessed !
26 Nov 11
This is a long preach you give. I always wonder why so many people feel lonesome if they believe in god. Should that god not be enough and brighten up your life and taken away all your sorrows? If not there is no reason to believe. Then better skip god and start working on yourself. I think that is where this all, life, is about. Improving, developing yourself. Working at yourself, the decision to do everything which is in your power to make yourself happy everyday. The whimping, praying, hoping is useless, nothing will change if you wait for someone else to rescue you. And if you understand what I mean you did find wisdom and happiness and you will never be lonesome again.