Dealing with Dilemma
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
India
November 27, 2011 10:07pm CST
Hello myLotters. A very good Monday morning to every one. Lets discuss dilemma. Every one of us gets into a dilemma, quite often. After all we are up against those situations of this or that. Aren't we?
So, how do we deal with those situations to make a decision? Who do you consult, if you do consult-or-do you use your best judgment? Do you expect that other people can give you right suggestions? Have they, often? I for one, mostly adopt 30-70 principle: the 30 representing the few people that I confide with expecting some useful insights. And the 70 is my own judgment.
What is your approach in dealing with dilemma?
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6 responses
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
29 Nov 11
Hi ohid. Didn't really get why that is so. Some detailing will help me understand it better.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Nov 11
I go by 50/50. I can solve fifty per cent problems/issues. For other problems I refer to my close relatives who are familiar with this and other close friends. Yes. others can solve the issue better than me also. 
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Nov 11
A child is not worried about itself when the mother/father/grand mother/grand father carries the child. The child has confidence on that person. Similarly whenever we face problems and we approach a known person who may be a relative or well known person then our worries get reduced or eliminated. That is the reason why we share good thoughts and difficulties also with others. good day.
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
28 Nov 11
Yeah, there could be certain issues that may have to be referred to someone in the family. You must be hoping that the counsel or advice received is objective. The final call though needs to be taken by the individual, I suppose.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
28 Nov 11
well I guess what the dilemma is, I have gone to various friends about different problems but I mainly go by my own instincts on what to do, I have surprised myself at times on my own good judgement and I guess that also shows by the fact most friends seem to come to me with their own dilemmas.
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
28 Nov 11
That's more like what I do too, lady! We are, I reckon the best judge of our own circumstances as well as our priorities. But consultation, certainly has value. Have the friends contributed significantly to you on some occasions to reach a good decision?
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
28 Nov 11
We must be clear about what we want. Then we must approach the suitable people. We must explain the problem clearly and listen properly to others ideas. Possibly problem may be sorted out then easily.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Dec 11
When approaching a dilemma, it really depends on what the dilemma is. I do always gladly appreciate input from my friends and family when I am facing tough decisions in my life. However, I also have to say that even more of the decision that I decide to make is because of the fact that I take a lot of time in discerning the decision that has to be made. I feel like in many situations, ultimately the only person that I can really count on is myself.
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
2 Dec 11
doran: friends & family will help us think it aloud and weigh alternatives. To that extent it is perhaps better than brooding all by oneself. In the end, of course, as you concur the best person to decide is self.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
28 Nov 11
I seldom consult someone. No need to, I know how to deal. The only thing I might do is verify it with or ventilate to someone else. It depends on what it is whom I went to but mostly it's (one of my elderly) daughters or if it's about the kids my friend.
@Pushhyarag2000 (1416)
• India
28 Nov 11
Being in command of issues and owning up the outcome of decisions taken according to one's personal standpoint may be good. Which I said I do in most cases. I wonder if there are any specific instances where some tested wisdom of seniors may do good. 
@Bluedoll (16774)
• Canada
28 Nov 11
I just want to get something up! So I put energy in it but it gets heavy. So I make it bigger and then need more energy. Yes a dilemma. It ends up looking like the space ship challenger.
Who would I trust to make it happen? Well the answer would be someone that has the experience but I feel I need to take 100% responsibility for a decision or its not mine to make though I do cherish a multitude of councilors. If I am not able to make a decision then I might consider handing it over to someone else 100% of it.
Now that is my decided course but it does not mean I will not discuss it more. Why think in terms of a split decision of example? An exception would be if the decision is not yours to make in the first place but represents a group (family) decision that is being decided by you.
