Does giving up means you are a failure?

@waya616 (149)
Philippines
November 27, 2011 10:38pm CST
We often hear that we should always try and try until we succeed, but what if you keep trying and doing your best but the end result never meet the expectations of others. Will you give up? Does giving up also means you are a failure?
4 people like this
26 responses
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
In situations that you have tried already, not just once but a couple of times I can say that you don't fail. There maybe just somethings that don't go the way we want it eventhough how much we have tried. Just bear in mind that you've done everything, and if it didn't met up with others expectations then you must take into consideration that we are just human beings and were not perfect. And lastly, in this world you can't have EVERYTHING.....
1 person likes this
• United States
28 Nov 11
We have to understand that whatever we do should never be set out to please man. Man will never be satisfied with what one does because of jealousy and envy. Sometimes we look at it as if I do this, then what will they say or what will they think, which could be the reason for your downfall at times. Make sure that what you do is comfortable for you and not because others want you do it because at the end, you are the one who have to deal with it not them. People often expect others to do what they will never do anyways which totally contradicts the reason why a person does something. Another thing is you as the person know what you are capable of doing or cannot do, so thats what you have to look at.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Giving up doesn't really mean you failed!!! You give up because the situation told you to do so & you believe it's the right thing to do. You give up & failed not because you're weak but because you think that there's more better thing to do than pushing yourself to the limit. You give up because something or someone maybe at risk!!!
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
good day waya616, with regard to your main topic discussion, if i will going to respond on that question based on my own real opinion which comes from the bottom of my heart, i would really say that positively i have failed. however, whenever i am feeling low and seems like all the things i hold on to have failed, God never ceases to help me. as He always lend His hand on me. and He always reminds me not to give up. as He is just near me. as He is here for me. and He always tells me, giving up does not mean that you have failed. it is just, you don't succeed yet. aside from that, He always show some situation that, He has a better idea and plan for me. with that above, i do hope that you can able to cope up with the failures that you are experiencing right now. i am not saying, i am fine and courageous, as i am a weak person but God always tells me how big he is rather than the problems that i bear.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
hi there, for me giving up does not mean we are a failure. Giving up is just the beginning of success, to strive for more to achieve what you have started. The important thing is to understand and learn to accept that things that we can have.
1 person likes this
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Well there are times that you really cannot attain what you want. Should you give up, some people might consider it a failure but in my case, I just consider it as a change of direction of change of goal. You cannot have everything but you can always reach out for another thing. So when everything comes and appears difficult, then perhaps you might be doing it in the wrong manner.. If you really cannot reach such, then consider that such might not be really for you so move on and find something that you can do alternately.
1 person likes this
@menzis00 (273)
28 Nov 11
OF course it doesn't mean you're a failure. You should strive for success and try as hard as you can, but sometimes there are just some situations where you don't have any other choice but to just give up, especially if you've done everything to success... So sometimes it's even better to give up than to waste time trying to do something that you won't succeed in anyway. Save yourself some time, and when you think it's enough, just give up. It's not always that bad.
1 person likes this
@06MLam (622)
28 Nov 11
Giving up does not mean you lose. In most of the time, we give up something we consider to be less important for something we rank to be more important for us. It is therefore a matter of sacrificing what we treasure less for something we treasure more. However, if you give up your only goal, this should be considered as a failure.
1 person likes this
@devi53 (348)
• India
28 Nov 11
Even though the the word means like that don't get disappointed,One can't satisfy others in 100%. In certain circumstances whatever we done will not get its good results, it is life then we can't say he don't know anything .Time at that moment is not good for him.
1 person likes this
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
28 Nov 11
I don't think so.Sometimes i would stick to the end if that thing was possible and meaningful to me,but sometimes i don't.We should follow our heart and just flow it.Maybe something and we are just not meant to be.So,follow naturally would be the best.Have a nice day.
1 person likes this
@allknowing (61609)
• India
28 Nov 11
There is a cut off date or time for any activity that yields no results. Going after one's goal endlessly when one does not see anything on the horizon is a foolish thing to do. That will only lead to frustration and despair.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
hello my friend. i like it when you said that there is a cut off date or time for any activity that yields no results. I have college friends who failed to pass the board exam for nurses 3 times and some of them quit because they said they yielded no results. i just told them that if you have the desire to be a nurse, then do not give up. if you feel that another career is much better than being a nurse, then it is time to give up nursing and try another career.
@allknowing (61609)
• India
28 Nov 11
Pursuing the nursing career is fine provided your friend can pinpoint where her weak point is and get that right failing which she should take your advice and change her path.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
28 Nov 11
It depends on when or what you give up. Personally I think it's good to learn as much as possible. You can only learn by doing things frequently (practising). This doesn't mean you will be a great star in everything but that is not necessary. Fact is: the more you know the more complete person you get. There will always be things/situations you won't be a star at how much you practise. If this is the case you are waisting good energy and should quit/give up. This doesn't mean you are a loser or failure but it means you know what your limits are, what you are good at and what less or not. This knowledge about yourself will only make you a better, more complete person. |Remember: we all are different, there is no need we all are great at the same level and can do the same things. That is what we have society for, together we are complete.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
hello my friend. i like everything that you wrote about not giving up. it is like you are saying that we must not focus on the results but rather we must enjoy the ride. the things we learn from the experience are of greater value than the end result. What a nice response.i hope to hear more from you.
• India
29 Nov 11
Giving up in life also can leads you in success but it is rare. consider a situation as below: If your friend(the one you do not love much)is riding a bike with a good speed to overtake you and by the time you give up him. This doesn't mean that it is a failure. If you go fast to chase him sometime you will have accidents,may you will lose your life itself. So the attitude of thinking depends on the failure and success.Think differently and do differently. It will surely lead to success.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
If we still have the strength, then let us not give up. Yes, the saying holds true.I believe that we should just keep trying until we succeed. It is good that we meet the expectation of others but then, let us put in the first place our self- satisfaction with our own expectations. Giving up does not mean that you are a failure. There are instances wherein things are just not meant for us that is why they are also not given to us.If we decide to give up in doing something, let us try to evaluate ourselves first if we really did our very very best in doing the things that others are expecting from us.
• Indonesia
29 Nov 11
No, it always is not like that. Giving up doesn't mean failure. I felt giving up on thing I dealt with but I never felt seriously failure in my life. To me, giving up is break time before we step to the next level. I think every one has given up on trying but it doesn't mean they are loser or failure people.
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Even we are failure how many times ,we still to mve forward aand not give up.Because if you give up,you will not succeed in the next time if you encountered such problems or any circumstances...if you give up it means that you are thinkig that you are failure,but remember failure is key to succeed.
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 11
When we give up certain thing, it means we failed. If we have the confident to finish a task, of course we shall not give up. This should be logical enough to answer your discussion here. For me, I shall keep trying until I finish my task, no matter what result it will be. As long as I have already put in my effort in my trial, I shall not blame myself anymore for not achieving the result I want to. If I always give up and stop my trial half way, I shall assume myself a looser. I never want to be a looser. I just want to be responsible guy in whatever task I have. Then only I can expect to be success someday.
@Hatley (164755)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Nov 11
waya no indeed it does not as common sense will tell us there are somethings we just cannot do. so we try a new tack and we often then find success. the Person you must please is not others but yourself. If you have pleased yourself then I think you have made a success. some people would never admit you succeeded as they are jealous so its you you need to please.you need only meet your expectations not those of other people. If you meet your expectations you have succeeded. there are all kinds of success, small, medium, and large.My son taught me something, okay we are always told if you do not succeed try try again. my son said if you don't succeed try doing it all differently then you will likely succeed. making the same error over an over is as useless as banging your head against a wall.you will only hurt yourself and will still fail.
@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Not neccessarily. Failure is failure based on how you define the outcome of what you did. There are times that giving up is the best way to do if there is really no chance of getting your goal but it doesn't mean that you fail, it's just that it can't happen. One way or another along the journey you had before giving up, you accomplished a lot of things and that can be considered as success.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Giving up doesn't mean failure. There are times that we need to give up and stopped what we want/waiting/hoping- because we know we've done and given our best -but in vain.