Prenups
By jazzyrae
@jazzyrae (1745)
United States
December 1, 2011 1:16am CST
Many wealthy people get per nups basically saying If and when they get a divorce they can not take anything from each other!!! In my opinion when you get married you should trust that person and if you have to consider a prenup you are not in love because you do not trust a prenup is like saying I know this will end so when it dose you can't have anything haha. I think that is wrong when I get married it will be all in live honor and trust. What do you all think
1 person likes this
3 responses
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
1 Dec 11
I think since 50% of marriages in the USA end in divorce, that it is something to consider. Many Doctors who own their own practice as well as lawyers and business owners have had to sell their pactices or businesses in order to give the person half of what it is worth. It has ruined Doctors, lawyers, and businessmen. To me,I would rather have the person pay me a thousand dollars a month than make the person have to sell his entire way of living.
A friend of ours called up, very upset. He and his wife were running a buffet restaurant. He cooked and she did the waitressing. They both lost their jobs because the guy who owned the restaurant had to sell it to give his wife half.
That's why you have a prenup. So the other person doesn't become greedy. Many people just marry someone so they can 'clean-up' in a divorce. I would not do that to someone, but I've seen many who have. Prenup says, "I'm marrying you because I love you, not because you have money."
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
3 Dec 11
Some people marry a rich person just to get at least half when they divorce. I really think taht a person shouldn't try to "ruin" a person. It's not always infidelity. It's often greed. They want everything they can get.
If I were a Doctor, Lawyer, or wealthy Business person, I would have a prenup. I've seen too many people ruined. My husband works with a Dr. and a lawyer at a job where they assemble subway cars. The Dr. is there because his wife took him to the cleaners at divorce court. He lost everything. He now does an assembly job. He and the lawyer can only afford to eat one meal a day.
So you can disagree, but by the time you're 53 years old and seen people's lives ruined by divorce, I think you will see more of the points that I'm saying.
I didn't get a prenup. But my husband and I weere 42 years old when we got married. We weren't young. If a person gets married in their 20s and live to be 80s, that's around 60 years.
Also, prenup is the least of the worries that most women have. Many of my friends have been beaten and almost killed by their husbands. Many were "on the run" for over a year. If you watch tv, there are people that kill their wives instead of a divorce. Prenup pales by comparison.
I know you have romantic ideas about marriage. But in law and in anthropology, they'll tell you, a marriage/family is an economic unit and that's how the law and anthropology see it. Marriage can have religion as well as law involved, but divorce only has law in it. The dissolution or continuation of the economi unit depending on how the judge sees it.
So while I didn't do prenup, neither my husband nor I are Drs., lawyers, or own a business. I knew you would disagree, but I did want you to understand.
Take care.
@julianmac (396)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 11
Hi,
Personally, I wouldn't vote for prenups either. But in this fast moving world there are people who pretends to be in love with a wealthy person and gets married just for the sake of money. So, to protect what is rightfully theirs, the rich and famous tends to have prenuptial agreement. You are right. Marriage should be based upon love and trust.It's pretty strange when one recites the wedding vow with some serious doubts in one corner of the heart. Either way, life is so unpredictable and we may never know what the future holds.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
1 Dec 11
I think instead of a normal marriage certificate I think both parties should sign a form indicating what they are bringing into a marriage, infact I think everyone who even shares a place should have to do this. There are many single people paying off their own homes these days and even expensive items, this should all be spelt out so if things do not work out then you waqlk away with what you yourself bought and then anything that is bought together gets split up, I have seen so much greed after a relationships ends...
