I am a little hurt..Actually.

@tamirs (1808)
Philippines
December 2, 2011 2:43am CST
Do you expect you partner to support you in everything you do? Here is the story.. I started blogging and i think i will enjoy doing it like i enjoyed being here in mylot.Since i am a newbie,i ask my husband to make a google account so he can see what i am up to these days..He actually knows what i am doing but,he don't like to see my works and he even told me to let him stay out of these.. He lets me do all these but he don't want to be part of it or just read my works..That makes me really sad. He is busy i know,but what do you think? I don't want to expect anything but i am a little hurt..Actually. :-(
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17 responses
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
tamirs, It's okay my boyfriend never checked my works online too. Maybe some guys just don't like these kinds of things and they only focused with their works and other things they like to do. Even some of my friends that I invited have no interest. Some may look but no intention of going back. Sometimes I feel nerdy of having all these things. But I don't mind we are not nerds Just enjoy blogging and lotting.
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
my friends sister told her that i am like infected with some virus .. :-D Ok i will accept the virus now en,just not nerd :-D
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Find the virus and inject to your husband dear tamirs
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
nice advice jai
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
tamirs Don't worry...we are here my dear friend. Send us your link or add us in your writing sites. Who knows maybe I am also a member to whatever writing site you joined...and we can read each other's articles
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
I will fill your inbox with lots of it jai.. Believe me.. :-D
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
No worries dear...
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
and this starts here.. http://myrandommusingandrant.blogspot.com/
@SIMPLYD (77450)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Men have different interests than us women, so don't get hurt when your husband is like that, tamirs. It's just but natural that they don't want those things, because basically, they don't want things like that. And besides, you said that he is busy. Just do your your blog and never mind if your husband doesn't read it. Just enjoy it .
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
He is always busy.. :-) Guess you are right,I try to do as you say.. But surely i will be happy to see you there.. http://myrandommusingandrant.blogspot.com/
@Bluedoll (17089)
• Canada
2 Dec 11
On the other side of the coin don’t you think its nice to have something just for yourself, sure it is. Of course I’ve heard people say that their significant other can be put off when so much time is spent on that something. That figures, at first they are non interested then if you get interested and using your time generously... guess what? :-))
@SIMPLYD (77450)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
I followed your link , tamir and saw your blogs. So, does your blog pay you ? I think, men are not interested in blogs such as those informative ones. Just enjoy blogging and don't mind if your husband don't want to see them.
@Porcospino (16428)
• Denmark
4 Dec 11
I understand how you feel, because my ex-boyfriend used to react the same way when I wanted to show him something that I had written. He just wasn't interested, and I was a little hurt that he didn't show any interest in the things that I did. I didn't expect him to give me a lot of compliments or anything like that, I just wanted to share that part of myself with him. Sometimes I read some of it aloud to him, but it was obvious that he was bored and he that wasn't interested in hearing it, so I decided to share my writing with my friends instead.
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
That is what i am doing now dear.I am sharing those with friends.Good thing i have many of them to make me feel good at times like this.. :-)
@allknowing (60265)
• India
3 Dec 11
I perfectly understand you as when I was just married I wanted my husband to be a part of every single thing I did but by and by I realised I was wrong. I understood that we are individuals having individual tastes and so it would be wrong to expect our partner to be a part of whatever we are doing. I suggest that you give him space.
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
You are right.Even if we are husband and wife we still have differences..I guess i just have to accept that he is not into writing. :-D
@Bluedoll (17089)
• Canada
2 Dec 11
I’m not sure if this applies. Recently, I’ve done some writing, not much, but I may publish it, eventually. I’ve considered asking some people to read it, to tell me what they think and perhaps find the faults so they can be corrected. That’s when it hit me. Perhaps, they will be busy or not interested in what I’ve written about. I think I have to accept this because I do not expect everyone in the world to read my stuff or take it seriously because not everyone will do to their interests, state of life at the moment etc. Maybe your situation is the same? I know how it feels, you feel left out, not appreciated or maybe unimportant or something like that but maybe it is only those things for a simple reason. Non-reader. – thanks for creating the topic tamirs and have a nice day
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
That's i how i exactly feel right now blue.I want to understand him because he really is not into this kind of stuff..but,i dont know,maybe im just being emotional..
@lilaclady (28245)
• Australia
2 Dec 11
I think you are lucky, I have friends with the reverse problem, their husbands and boyfriends joined up on the internet and they seem to have got themselves into flirting with a lot of girls on line and they are becoming very secretive so I say let your husband stay away from the internet a lot of ladies would love your problem,
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
well i am happy that he stays away from fb or yahoo..I just want him to see my work..But thinking of what you said.. i am having second thoughts.. :-)
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
24 Jan 12
My ex-wife was the same way, and I have to say that it actually never really bothered me most of the time. She never really took any interest in my work online, or other work I did for that matter. She was interested in how much money I had (which usually wasn’t a lot), but that was about it. She never really cared what I was doing, and wasn’t much help with any of it most of the time, although she was always quick to tell me why I shouldn’t do something, or why something wouldn’t work. In your case, don’t let it bother you. Just keep doing what you are doing no matter what he thinks or says. Don’t let anyone discourage you. No one else has to answer to your conscious for talking you out of doing something, but you will have to answer to yourself for years to come for allowing it to happen.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 11
not at all, it depends on what i have done, if what i will do is a good thing, she should support me at all. but if what i will do is a bad thing, i think she should give me a suggestion or anything warn for me to show her care, because i am not a perfect human that always do something good, sometime i drop in a dark circle that will bring me in the darkness. so i will help need some help. i think, your husband are careless about you. sometime, you have to do something so you can get his attention, i think it will help. you should talk about it for a better relationship in the next day.
4 Dec 11
dont feel bad dear. just leave all the worries.. u just try to keep u happy.if u like to use internet much for ur happiness, then go ahead. may be ur husband taste is different.try to findout it too
• United States
3 Dec 11
Honestly I know exactly where you're coming from with this. And the best way to deal with this is sit down and tell him exactly how you feel, then work it out. The longer you wait before telling him the more over stressed the situation will be and by the time you express how you feel the entire situation will be blown way out of proportion.
@champoy186 (1638)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
Actually, that is just fine. You don't have to be sad if your husband doesn't want to read your blog. Most men are not fond of blogging. I think this is not a man's thing.
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
i think what you are trying to do is good and your husband should support you for it..that is a worthwhile thing to do at your spare time..i know the feeling can be hurtful that your husband don't care and don't have time to look or read at your works..but as long as you believe, love and enjoy what you are doing which is blogging and being on mylot and there is nothing wrong with it..just stick to it and do your thing..maybe when your husband have time he can read your works and be proud of it someday..so just stay focus and keep doing what you're doing...
@banta78 (4335)
• India
2 Dec 11
It is always nice to get encouragement and positive feedback when we start out doing something new. But don't get disheartened if that does not happen. Look at things positively. Your hubby lets you do your own thing. You have started blogging and have your own blog. Now you get opportunity to better your writing skills and get readers for your blog. So, enjoy life's simple pleasures and be happy. Have good day, Cheers!
• India
2 Dec 11
Hey tamirs, Don't feel much bad to it. I know that you husband loves you much and more and this is the reason why he allowed you to do mylot without any hesitations. Sometimes your husband will be really busy at his hard works. This may be the reason for it. Don't feel bad. We the people are here to hear to you.
@damned_dle (3944)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Hmmm... Maybe he already knows about the stuff you wrote and he is just not interested. Especially if you are writing about girly stuffs! Don't worry about it! It is normal..
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
As much as i want, but I don't really expect much from husband because I don't want to be disappointed, worst, to get hurt!... The safest thing I do is HOPE, for in HOPE - I could always welcome surprises and miracles.... We are actually on the opposite direction. I don't really wanted my husband to get involve in the net, more specifically in the social network. Though my mylotting thing is not a secret with him anymore, I always update him any interesting things that happened here. However, I still prefer my husband to keep his life privately and away from this widely network. ;-) I agree with one of the response above, some wives would really love your problem ;-) Just don't be sad, chill my friend. Happy weekend ;-)