Posing a question but not sharing own opinion/experiences

secretbear, I think sharing one's own view makes for a more lively conversation or debate. This is a quality that my posting lack at times and I am sure that yields fewer responses. Your formula makes good sense and good conversation.

I have seen that kind of discussion. I think it's the one that keeps posting some one or two liners that are often like a phrase or thought where people who wants to give comments can only say the same thing as what he/she wrote. It's as if the discussion maker just wanted some opinion. Or wanted everyone to just agree or disagree with his/her thoughts about something but with no further thought to make the discussion lively or realistic.

Hmmmm...maybe the poster didn't really have an opinion on it or wasn't sure of his/her thoughts on the matter and was probably looking at the responses to have some clarity. I don't mind the poster not mentioning their views or thoughts in the intial post but then I don't like it when they don't respond at all to the responses. If they do respond to the comments, one might get an idea on how they actually feel about the whole thing - if they are sure..not sure...not clear in their thoughts or evolving along with the discussion.

This is the scenario that makes most sense to me. When it doesn't occur, I feel as though the person owning the discussion is too lazy to to give his original post some quality or too dim witted or does not understand how things work in a "discussion". On a personal level, I feel that this type of opener is more of a poll or a yes orr no situation...what has this poster given me to discuss?

but secretbear but surely that has to be part of the whole discussion in that in a question also has to have a background as to why it is asked so would not the opinion and experiences of the discussion maker come into play in just stating his or her discussion . I mean who would just ask a question without some reason to do so and some framework to build around it first so your opinions and experiencesa would be stated before any question is asked.to begin wi th if a person makes a two sentence question as a discu ssion its going to get deleted. the discussion must have substance for us to discuss it wi th the discussion maker. I always state my opinons and my views before I ask for mylotters take on it.

ofcourse there many lotters here like that... they only want is earning not to discuss.. well after i have seen my earning at first time, i was so disappointed but eventually realizing that mylot discussion is interesting why not continuing it and have fun. right??

I have not encountered this but I do think that they should also include their personal opinion. How can you start a discussion without it?

I think it is ok either way, secretbear, because the person who starts a discussion can always work the extra information in when commenting back on the replies. That is how I do it anyway. Then I know I will have something different to say to each person who is kind enough to reply. Say don't you think it is about time I started a new discussion of my own? But as you see I am still hundreds of notifications behind in replies to my friends.

There are many of such discussions around and i believe i should be one of them as well.. lol :D Most of the time, i might not share my opinion, experiences in the open, but only in my responses to their comments. It's their freedom to do what they want and we can't stop them from doing so For someone who's not used to sharing, they won't know how to open up and share in a proper way, thus they leave us hanging half way via their post?

Sometimes people feel like giving their opinion right away will effect the way others respond. It might even keep people from responding because they are afraid to disagree. I usually post how I am feeling about a certain situation when I start a discussion but I can see why someone might not want to right away. In some situations..and if they really really wanted to hear alot of sides. The sad thing is that there are people that will be harsh if someone answers in a way they don't agree with instead of learning or taking in other opinions. This has made people leery of posting like they would normally do it....maybe that is why the mylotter didn't post their own opinion right away. They wanted people to really say what they thought.

I would have thought that it would be better for lotters to pose questions and discussions while drawing up from their own experiences. I think it 'humanizes' whatever situation it is they are trying to explain/explore. Otherwise, it wouldn't be any different from fictional stories. I think.

You know, sometimes discussion topics have no background. They are just interesting topics that come to our mind when we are sitting on the toilet at 3:00 AM in the morning for example. Okay, maybe that's just my case, but still there are times where we tend to think and our brains rather go in interesting directions. Granted, I'm sure we can form some sort of opinion give our thoughts. And in the end, many things are not based on personal experiences. Just random weird thoughts we might have at the strangest places. And I do have some rather weird personal experiences that I kind of don't want to completely share on an Internet forum. Most of those topics do not make the Internet, as personal experiences sometimes should remain what it says on the tin, "personal."

HI there, i want to share what i read at the FAQ, (coz i am new here i keep on reading it.) as you said "without having to go through to the comments." i hope i read it right and respond it right.but please note with this http://www.mylot.com/o/faq/faq8.aspx#2 we are required to read all before we comment...just to make sure that what we can say is not as what others are saying... its true that we could encounter a person who don't share opinion instantly, perhaps along the way with the comments they might share.

I am a newbie here(a month old), and I sometimes don't really give my own opinion on the start of the discussion. I haven't really thought of it that way, I just think that, sometimes, i would want to hear other opinions first before, I share my own views on this. But I guess, it promotes to let other people read the discussions further to have a better understanding of how the discussion has progressed. But I am guilty I am in a hurry and I get lazy at times,