long distance relationship

@adhyz82 (36249)
Indonesia
December 8, 2011 5:55am CST
i had a friend, who make a Long distance relationship with a man since 3 months ago..i don`t know they start know each other from where.. but now they are really seriously relationship.. but i always believe that it`s not easy for making a long distance relationship.. what about your opinion??
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21 responses
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
It's really a matter of trust and faith to make a long distance realationship to last. If they are really serious to their relationship, surely they can make it! It's really hard to be in a long distance love affair, trials are along with the relationship. But as you go through this victorious, it will be a one of a kind to be admired and inspiration to those also into this kind! Goodluck to you and your friend adhyz!
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
actually this is not my experience Lhenni.. do you had a similar experience with my friend??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
ooo...had you been married Lhenni??
@Lhenni (1242)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Oh yes, I know it's your friend. I just want to wish you too like your friend a goodluck. No I'm not in that kind of and not been. I'm happily together with my family now. Happy Friday!
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@mel0482 (283)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
In this kind of relationship, both individuals has to take these aspects...Loyalty, Faithfulness, Trust and Commitment. Of course, when you have all those, it only summed up to one thing called 'Love'. Those are the most common factors in long distance relationship, if one's put it by heart then no matter how long the distance between them two make them physically separated, the love for one another will still be there inside each hearts.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
8 Dec 11
yes,loyalty and respect each other..and like you said that respect need a trust..
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
12 Dec 11
Well I know that it does happen. I know people who met online, who lived very far from each other, and now they are married, and have a family. I do not think I could do this. How can I know someone I have never met? I just can not see that working. It seems impossible to me.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
13 Dec 11
Of course not. I have no idea who is really on the other side. How do you know that other person is, who they claim to be? You never met them, never seen them, never been around them to see how they live, how they act, or anything. But you want to fall in love over a long distance? How? That's risky. They could be completely different. I know a lady who fell in love with a guy from Australia, and she lived here in the US. She flew to Australia to meet this man, and found out he was completely different from everything he said. She came back broken and hurt. Well yeah... she fell in love with a guy she never met, who wasn't anything like what he said. But how could she know, since she had never met him? Now, I'll let other people do that. I'll pass.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
well,..its tragic story i think.. if the situation like that(based on your story), maybe i think twice for undergoing the long distance relationship like that
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Dec 11
why do you said that the long distance relationship is impossible for you?? it means do you ever try that relationship??
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
Hello there adhyz82! For other it don't work, for me, i guess its working, it has been 2 years now that im in a relationship with my man... and ya, its a long distance relationship, as they say, it is hard, we have our ups and downs, we also have some misunderstandings along the way.. this kind of relationship is not impossible, it just takes a lot of time and effort to understand each other.. Have a nice day!
@buddha3 (1026)
• India
8 Dec 11
Is the guy from ur own country or a foreigner? :) Just curious..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
@fheroan yes, of course, you need trust him..whats the cause your relationship with him is not running well??
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
@buddha3: he's a foreigner :)
• India
9 Dec 11
It is one of the most discussed topic in online world. I have read mixed responses.Here on mylot itself I have read some successful stories where two people met online and finally they end up with successful real relationship. But It is not easy to maintain the trust and loyalty level in online distance relationship.After a long time when things go right and two people somehow manage to meet in real and they find that both remain honest and loyal to each other,that leave a very positive impact on the relationship.That is an ideal situation. There are many players are also active who are looking to make fool or other short time fun.So one has to be very careful before getting into such kind of relationship.I believe if you have been chatting for long time you come to know whether the other person is serious or just playing. One must have got that sense to judge.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
do you think it`s same online relationship and long distance relationship??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 11
you forgot something Bluguy when we never know internet, we had known too about Long distance relationship.. i don`t concern about the tool, but the type of relationship
• India
10 Dec 11
No but the situations one has to go through are somewhat similar. Mostly when people talk about long distance relationship the role of internet is there.It can be different topic to discuss to which relationship we should call long distance relationship..though A couple living together and due to work or business compulsion s/he has to stay away.That is also a kind of long distance relationship but when people discuss about long distance relationship mostly they mean with online dating and after dating in real and then maintaining the commitments and promises they make to each other when they have live apart.
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@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
It is very hard to maintia a long distance relationship. The reasons are... -It is harder to communicate with each other. -There are so many temptations.When our partner is not looking there is a tendency for us to cheat.You know what I mean.:) -There is always a little worry so sometimes the trust gets lost. -It is hard if there isn't enough trust. I think the key to a succesful long distance relationship is a big TRUST.:)
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
yes.trust each other, don`t easily jealous and respect each other.. do you had a similar experience??
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
yes, trust each other is more important when two person make a long distance relationshop with distance is far away among them and they are less for regularly meeting,thats why trust is really needed
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I don't have a similar experience,but I know trust is always the key to maintaining a relationship.But both couples must not do something to destroy the trust their partner has given them.
@leanette (3002)
• India
21 Dec 11
I would not opt for a long-distance relationship unless you have met that person, you share common friends, and know him very well. Otherwise there's a lot of risk.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 11
i admit that there are many risk when you want to make the long distance relationship but it`s no guarante that all of that long distance relationship is full with the problem.. some of that story is ended with the happy ending
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 11
Long-distance relationship is very difficult. Because, physically far from each other, and can not meet at any time. But, there are some people who can undergo long-distance relationship, and some are not able to undergo long- distance relationship. Whether or not, depending on each person.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 11
yes, i had experienced with this long distance relationship and it is not good for me..i always not confortable with this situation and the end is bad for me
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
19 Dec 11
I say that it depends on the couple. Some long distance relationships will work and some will not work. I was in a long distance relationship with my now husband. I will say it took a lot of work time and money. If you are willing to put in that effort to do all that then yes, it could work. How my husband made it work and how I made it work too, we would take turns visiting the other in their home town. We would call each other almost every day just to talk and send each other notes through the mail. Then eventually we moved closer together and got married.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 11
yes i think it depends on the couple.. but for me, the long distance relationship is not good but i admit there are good couple can do the long distance relationship
• Mexico
13 Dec 11
HI adhyz: I can't assure if a relationship like this could last because it depends on the persons. It's more difficult to have a relationship when you are far away from the person you love but if both persons are mature enough to make it and their feelings are truth I think love can last no matter the circumstances. ALVARO
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
13 Dec 11
yes, it depens on every person but the situation become complicated when a distance is the problem among them
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
19 Dec 11
Yes, it's not easy for a long distance relationship to work since it involves a lot of discipline and commitment, and not forgetting the cost of maintaining it. Sacrifices are in it as well, just that we don't see it. 3 months in a long distance relationship is considered fairly new and might be in the honeymoon period due to the excitement for it's a fresh feeling to be involved in one. Most long distance relationship do not work, especially when support is needed but partners are not by their side.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
19 Dec 11
of course it`s not easy especially if the person is really always jealous.. it will make the situation become worse if both of them can`t controlled the situation among them
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
26 Aug 12
hi, actually i dont like this kind of relationship,a long distance,not because i dont have trust to my boyfriend but the feeling when he is far to me and never seen each other for a long time,but now i am trying to pursue this and try if i can make it.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Aug 12
why??because you are easily jealous to your partner??
@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
I had a long distance relationship last year, and it didn't work out, it was only good at first, but the physical needs of individuals in a relationship is a big factor, and we broke up after 2 months. It depends on the people in a relationship if they can keep the spark alive even when they are far from each other. Happy mylotting :)
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
8 Dec 11
yes, it`s not working for some people.. would you like to tell, why your long distance relationship is not running well (if you don`t mind) ?/
9 Dec 11
I was in a distance relationship.. were still together but it can get very rough. thankfully my gf is still with me althought I did things she did not like. I am never going to do it again, but being apart from her made me very lonely. Its hard with temptations being in college but if you really love someone youll be with them.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
you must say thanks to your girlfriend..she is really patient with all of your situation..it`s not easy for you and for her too
@min8esign (167)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 11
I personally say that long distance relationships are very hard to do. needed someone who really can keep the trust in each other to be able to make it work.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 11
yes, sometimes the people of that relationship must keep their miss until they meet each other.. and no many people can`t stand in long distance relationship
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
9 Dec 11
Long distance relationship is very hard, because the couple don't have too much time being together, therefore, they can't have much chance to know each other better. Long distance sometimes can bring about misunderstanding. And misunderstanding is very harmful to a relationship. Of course, if the couple are true love each other, they can conquer the difficult and win in the end. But they need trust each other and try to understandable and considerate, in one word, they must pay out more if they want to win in the end.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
yes, it`s hard because they must keep their alone...they had no friend for accompanying them when they miss their lover.. it needs sacrifice you know
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
9 Dec 11
Well since i still love my ex , witch is now like 5 years ago story , and she is now studying in germany and i live here in bulgaria , i love her more then everything , but thats my problem , but if two people love one another they way i love her , i think the distance will not be a problem , specifficly when we even talk at times and see each other once a year .
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 11
but as overall your relationship with her is OK, right??
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
hi adhyz, Long distance relationship is not easy but it depends how will you work it out There are successful and not you need patience, faith and trust in this kind of relationship. Distance is not an obstacle rather a great reminder how great love can be. happy mylotting
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
8 Dec 11
hai too bhaby.. yes, long distance relationship is really need a patience things and effort from two people who still love each other.. if we are not patient people and always never trust a people , dont make a long distance relation
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
9 Dec 11
long distances. just that there is a long distance should not hinder a relationship. because when the love is true it just has to stand at that distance. they can just be seen to be understood to love just need to love and if this love is real it will last the distance. nice day!
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 11
yes, of course it`s hard for getting or had a long distance relationship
• Indonesia
11 Dec 11
I am agree with you,long distances relationship is a bad idea if you want to make a relation with someone..it very hard to lived
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
12 Dec 11
had you experienced with that long distance relationship??
@shellster (176)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
hi! im currently in a long distance relationship too. its almost 10 months now and still we are communicating daily which was never a problem. Although, when your partner's far, you can doubt sometimes but every response i get from my boyfriend, would always put me at ease. it depends on how you handle it both. Since we have plans for our future, and placed trust and love, we are secured. The only thing, that i know is when the time comes, specially after marriage, i will see to it, that we will be together. long distance relationship is always a test of one's loyalty. i believe in this. =)
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
wow..it`s tough relationship..but you had tested that since 10 months ago, and we agree that not everyone can do like you now.. and your boyfriend know exactly how to treat you..it can be showed in your respond here.