its been half a year since i last saw my MOM, and i miss her

@davaome (1828)
Philippines
December 8, 2011 9:38am CST
my father now is currently together with my step mom, and they have 3 children. the eldest being 6 years old, and the youngest still at 1. I get to spend alot of my time together with them because i currently live with them now. From my mother's chilren we are 4 siblings, eldest being 29 and i am the youngest at 22. and amongst the for of us i believe i was the closest to my mother. All 4 of us would visit our father, during the holidays in the city where we grew up which is Davao city. this year it made me wonder what if the 4 of us could visit our mother's place this holiday. But it seem to be a very impossible dream because 3 of them and including my father hated my mother very much. She has gone to exile because for some reason, i guess she received death threats and wanted to lay low first. She must have done something wrong but don't want to go to the police, and they are angry because of that. I wish I could see her, because she is still my mother, and i wouldn't be in this world without her. I love my father and the same way as i love my mother but, i guess it's been a while since we have seen each other, and I really miss her.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
8 Dec 11
davaome ..What a sad situation..my family has had relationship problems too and it is always sad when people can't just get along. If I were you I would try again to talk to your siblings, but if they don't agree I would find a way to go on your own. You only have one birth Mom and if you feel the need to see her you shouldn't let anything stop you. God Bless and best wishes to you
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Thank you stary1, i have been thinking on what to do on this matter and i guess i will go alone in visiting my mother. God Bless you too
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
9 Dec 11
davaome ..Thank you, I wish you all the best...I admire you for doing this
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
8 Dec 11
Nothing can replace the love of a mother. My heart goes out to families that want to be together but can't. I find it sad that families are broken apart for one reason or another, often times the truth is found out after one of our loved ones are departed from us. I am reminded of a case where a father fled with his kids (all under the age of 12)because he didn't want the mother to have anything to do with the kids, as he wanted to "pay her back" for divorcing him, yet he found no wrong doing in his own behavior. The fact that he took his kids and told no one of his where abouts, shows exactly his logic of thinking "I can do no wrong" but everything that you do is "wrong." Messed up if you ask me. I hope you get to see your Mom again, before the good lord calls her home.
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Arieles, your response gives me a motivation to do go visit her, I really do want to visit her, but, i don't want to give my father and other siblings something to worry so i would like to inform them before anything else. There consent means something to me as well, but, even if they approve of it or not, i have made a decision to visit her. and i will take your advice and make sure to see her before something bad happens, hopefully not
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
8 Dec 11
Oh davaome, I can feel the pain in your post..It such a hard thing to be seperated from a parent at any age.. I really feel bad for you... Is it that you or no one else know where she is. Perhaps its not possible for all of you and your siblings are not able to make the trip but since she seem to mean so much to you, why can't you try to make the trip on your own.. I truly hope this works out for you..try your best to contact your mom...Good luck and Merry Christmas.
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
My mother really means alot to me, Most of the people consider me as a mail version of my mother, and in my childhood, i was closer to my mother than my father, but I love them the same way, If possible I will go alone if they will not accompany me.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
8 Dec 11
Hi Friend.. .I feel sorry for you.. It is too bad... I am sure you miss your Mom... anyone would! And with the dark mystery behind the entire thing, it would become such an urge to visit her... If I were in your place, I guess, I would done anything to meet her... Human is prone to making mistakes and that doesn't mean exile for life. Even murderers are treated with humanity these days... Take care buddy.. And try, if you are able to face everything, to meet your Mom... God will be with you...
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I will find some strength to tell my father, and i will do the same to my siblings, and hopefully, they will accompany me, but i guess i'm already old enough to do as i please but i would want to suggest to them my plan first so that they will know what i am up too. But, if all of them will not accompany me i will go to see her by myself.
@mel0482 (283)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
What I believe is that you will always have the right for your mother and even for u and ur other siblings to give her a visit. I can't see no wrong why a child is being hesitant to see his mom, specially if it has been for quite a while that u haven't got to see her. So, just a piece of advise to you and hope it will do some help somehow, just do what u need to do is right and fight for ur right as a son and take that stand for ur mother's sake.
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
Hmmm.... hopefully i can do that. Not really sure if i can go alone, but if my brothers and sister won't come with me then maybe i'll go alone
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
That's a good idea. Maybe they also missed your mom too, they're just not accepting it. Whatever she did in the past for sure your siblings can forgive her. And maybe she thought it's just right to leave you to spare everyone of you from the troubles she has. Hope you and your siblings would go visit her.
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
Hope they feel the same as i do. Maybe just for the afternoon a few hours with her would be OK already.
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
hi dm, This is sad but who knows this holiday season you can be with your mom even for awhile. Mothers are always be the best whatever they've done. happy mylotting
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@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
When i am able to talk to my brothers and sister, i'll tell them. Maybe they will have a change of heart, hoping that i can see her.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
9 Dec 11
Oh, I am sorry, so your mother is in danger and that is who you can't see her? Because if it is because your siblings and father hate her, that is no reason to not see your mother if you can..I hope you do get to see her this holiday season..
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
I hope i can as well. I just want to see her, even just for a while.
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• United States
10 Dec 11
Are you going to be able to see her?
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Still on it...
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• United States
9 Dec 11
Hi! OUCH! Perhaps you could visit her on your own and just be together? If she brings up the topic, perhaps suggest some therapy or just talk to a good friend who will give her the support she needs. Hang in there!
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
i'm doing my best to visit her, and if it all comes down to it i will visit her by myself. hope she's alright though
• United States
10 Dec 11
Me too! I don't know her but I just have the feeling that she will need you as everyone needs someone. Be well, safe, and happy!
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
Yup! She still your mother, my friend. Because is she was not your mother, I don't know if you see the beauty of life... There are mother's really don't care about children. They don't care if their children is in good condition or not? What important for them was their own happiness. They can give up their husband and children to make their life happy which in turns a big mistake... They are fear even our Dear God who created everything. They love money that is why are sacrifice their soul and spirit...
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
i guess i owe my life to my mother in some way. but of course whatever she did, i accepted it and of course i would say "blood is thicker than water". She will always be my mother and i love her, just wanted to see her atleast for the holidays
@zhaozy (33)
• China
9 Dec 11
You have a mother,but also his father,but your family is not together,this is really unfortunate.Think of ways to promote mutual acceptance of your parents.Because nothing is more important than this.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
I will do my best to reunite them but it seems impossible for now, i wish they would settle their differences and have a good companionship even if they don't live together
• China
9 Dec 11
Hi,davaome,by seeing your post,I miss my mother too.for we all share the memory of the mother.She is very hard-working,kind-hearted.when she was youny she opend a small restaurant,a stay is ten years.in addition to a basic monthly expences,but also to deposit a sum of the money.In 2007,they rely on many years of savings and bought a house.completed a life goal.I admire her.I love my mother as the same way as you.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
10 Dec 11
Our mother's really ment alot to us, and they are our inspiration in life
• Indonesia
9 Dec 11
I love my mother so much. I would never blame her for what she done in the past. No matter how good or bad she was, she was and is still our mother. I think in every family, there was not any good memory, not always good. Every family has been through up and downs in their family life and I think it was not fair her to be treated like that from your father and siblings. Now, it is time to forgive because we're going to celebrate Christmas. Every one has to have a forgiveness and when you have had it in yourself, you will forgive yourself. We had to understand what something happened for a reason. We agree that everybody made mistake, no body perfect in this world, not every single man in this world miss doing a mistake. Forgiving is worthy of the God.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I hope my father and my siblings feel the same way. Not just for the spirit of Christmas but for the sake of moving own and accepting the fact that she is still our mother
@marguicha (103906)
• Chile
11 Dec 11
I hope you can see your mom in the near future. I don´t think it would be a good idea to visit your mother with the reast of your dad´s family. If they separated, there must be reasons that even you do not know well. Don´t judge your mother is she is in exile. Many times there are politicial reason that have nothing to do with doing wrong things, but with thinking in a different way. Take care!