a boring or challenging relationship?

@asliah (11148)
Philippines
December 8, 2011 10:50am CST
i dont know what should i feel this time,feeling to have a boring or challenging lover or relationship,because we never see each other for a month i dont know if this relationship will only challenging me or maybe i just get bored,cant really explain,but how could you say that a relationship or lover is only challenging you on how long could you endure it?
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9 responses
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
It's a mixed emotion my dear. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder- which is not true in my opinion. Absence will make my heart become colder and drift away from love. I hope you will know and realized what's happening with your relationship before it gets too late :)
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 11
It can be either way depends on individual. SOme will get colder while some will be the other way. The one that be colder is giving the dangerous sign to the relationship anyway.(^^)
@mythociate (15594)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
14 Jan 13
I am enduring such a freeze, but the difference being that I do not even know whether I've met the lover before or not! But we are to "keep our eyes on 'Jesus' (the manifestation of the Kingdom of G*d)," who said to 'seek first the Kingdom of Our Father, knowing that all the things we need will be provided (by the actions that we make in seeking The Kingdom).' If your lover loves you & you love him/her, you will naturally support each other in seeking The Kingdom---without even paying attention to each other's perception of your own roles in The Kingdom, because all you need to see is what you need to do (& not even 'the purpose your obedience serves,' but just that you do 'your thing'). So be like Jesus as much as you can, and the lover will be as the lover must.
@toniganzon (51610)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
I hope you can endure. I long to see someone i haven't even met yet and i've been planning to meet him for more than 6 months now. Can you imagine the longing? If we really love someone unconditionally, distance is not a hindrance at all. I hope you love him enough to endure all the trials.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 11
It depends on what we did to make it as a good relationship. If we do nothing then it is possible for us to be more colder towards the relationship but we take and do some initiatives I am sure we can overcome it. If we think the relationship is challenging then it will be so and vice versa. If you think that your relationship is not what you'd expected then think about it again and take action. Every problem has ways to overcome it.
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
9 Dec 11
If you really love the person then you can wait even for years. But if the foundation of your relationship is not enough then it will probably not work.
@yejiajun (41)
9 Dec 11
you don't see each other for a month?what's the problem?you don't stay in a same city or else?i think loving must be a fruit of two person,and i know you must know it by your heart .first,if you feel boring,the loving must be tested,however,if you still love him,you should stick on it.finally,i hope you can deal with that contradictory relationship
@squallming (1776)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 11
Why haven't you see each other for a month? there must be a reason for you two to be living at different places. However, if you feel like there is some explanation should be made by the guy, you should go and meet him and talk about this. We are not really clear of what actually happened XD
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
8 Dec 11
the challenge in this relationship is not the relationship or your partner but you! You have the opportunity now to build a great life full of freedom and the change to have a thrilling relationship. You should start living your life and he is something you add, something extra. If he turns out to be boring you can delete him any moment.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
It is quite boring not seeing your boyfriend for almost a month already. What is wrong? If you want it more challenging, and if you are serious in having relationship, you should see each other often. But it is useless to say that if nobody will work for it.