Do I betrayed my parents?

It depends upon the relationship with your parents. If you love your parents then get them together. Have courage. First tell about your difficulties or the mental trauma that you are facing, and then let your parents come to a conclusion. But you say that you do care for them but your inner disposition rejects to be a doctor. Face it. One day it will be revealed. Be determined. Be polite, use a slow tone. Do not be afraid. Come whatever may. Believe me one day they will discover it. You need fortitude not to be a coward. Parents demand and pretend but at last they surrender. Even then if you cannot face your parents, then take the help of your paternal or maternal uncles or aunt or at least of a counselor. Speak to him and let him speak it for you with your parents. Do not delay. You say that you are undergoing mental stress and you feel afraid. But you cannot linger any more.

maybe you could sit down with your parents and tell them straight that you don't think this is right for you, that you are not really happy but maybe it would be a good idea to work out what you really want to do so you can give them an alternative. I think being a doctor takes total dedication to be good at it anf you havve to be happy as you get one life as far as wek jnow and it is up to you to make that happen..good luck, be happy.

Hi,do you mean you have entered a medical college for several months? And you didn't want to be a medical student before you entering it, or it was against your wish? First, i think it is a little hard to change your major once you have selected it. Since you are now in a medical college, and all the majors are connected with medicine. Therefore, even you can move to another major, it is also related to medicine. Unless you can change to a different college. In China, it is not permitted. And you can only choose to attend another college entrance exams next year. I think study medicine is a very good choice, anyway, doctors are one of the best occupations. And now it is not an easy thing to earn a living. And more or less, we have found it is dull when we study, maybe you just have not accustomed to your new college life. I wish you can get used to it and love it one day.

That's really a problem with us, my friend. Because there's a dream from our parents and want them to be happy in what they want us to be but the course is not for us... I think you need to finished first what they want to please them before you go to what course you like in life... This is the better ways to please your parents. When you became a Doctor, you may now do what your dreams to be ever since...

Its really hard right?? But if you do things without whole hearted then I don't think it will worked as well. SO think what you want to do seriously. Make sure you have your goal before you quit and say the truth to your parents. Make sure you are planning well what course you like to take and further step like what you are going to do when you finish your studies. That is really important. I suggest if you want to quit then it is better to quit while you are still new to the course. If you already there for years and then thinking to give up then I think you better pursue and go with it. While you are still new students if you want to take other path and pursue other career then better start now. I am sure your parents will agree with you but make sure like I said before- you need to prepare with you your 'future plan' and the reasons you want to quit your med school to proposed to your parents so that they will not questioned you with it anymore.(^^)

Quite a lot of medical students dropped out from medicine after their first year because they find that they don't like this subject or they just picked it up at the beginning as their parents want them to become a doctor. I think you have to reconsider whether you like medicine or not or if you have something else which interest you most. If medicine is really not your interest, I think you should talk to your parents about what you are feeling. If you just find it difficult to do medicine, I think you should seek help from your personal tutor as he might be able to offer some academic support and advice to you and this will not be too late as I suppose you just start doing medicine for one term only.

Hello rianhid36, In India too every parents want their kid to be an engineer or doctor and it becomes tougher for the kid if he/she doesnot want to be an engineer or doctor.You need to talk to your parents if you have something else in your mind which you think would be able to lead good life in future and if not than i feel you must be a doctor not only for your parents also for your better future too.

Only you can solve your problem.Try to really weigh the pros and cons if ever you will continue or not in the medical school.List them down.What are the advantages it will give you-both personal and family wise.Then reflect on your personal interests...What do you really like to do after your studies? You wont betray your parents if you will be honest with them.Remember, it is a lot expensive to send someone to medical school.

What you will study in college will affect your future greatly.If you studied a course you don't really like there is a small possibility that you will enjoy life and be successful. Maybe you should just tell them that you don't like to be a doctor,and you like to be someone else.You can also tell them the things I told you if you want.:) Good luck to your future.:)

oh no, you should tell immediately about this to your parents or their money will be useless to spend to your education. I say that you go to the course of your love and not because they are happy with it. I can understand your lack of interest in studying now, but what's the point of continuing it if you lack of learning from it, you may just ended up failing.

Maybe you should try talking that out with your parents. I think they will just understand you since you're still their child after all. They will just accept whatever decision or choice you make. But you can also try to examine that for a few more months, maybe in time you'll learn to love the course and would want to continue with that.

I'm sorry to hear that rianhid, but you shouldn't let your parents pick the course that you study in college because this will dictate your future in what profession you will get and if now that it doesn't make you happy, or it is not really in your interest then you would have a miserable life ahead of you, and as a future doctor to not appreciate your work you could end up killing people. I just want to suggest that you talk to your parents that it is not of your interest to go to medical school. It would be better for you to take a course which you are MOST interested with which you could put your heart into it, studying will be easy for you because you want to learn it, rather than you are required to learn it. I know that your parents want what's the best for you but, how can you think of the best if you yourself are in no condition to do your best at all. I'm sure your parents will accept your decision, it could not be today or tomorrow, but they will realize that it is what you want and all they can do is accept it, and support you on your decision.

Hi rainhid.I think if you really don't like the major,you must conmunicate with your parents immediately,your parents will understand you,you can change your major if you parent approve.All roads lead to Rome.you must believe when you are in other profession ,you praent will also proud of you.You are the beat children in your pratens' eye,Believe yourself,talk to them in time,hope you can happy,don't worry about it.my friend.

I suggest you should have a talk with your parents for an in-depth communication, tell them your current feelings and thoughts about your study. Though your parents hoped you to study medicine and wanted you to be a doctor,they would more incline to respect your interest and choice. Just have a try, I believe you will be relieved, and your parents will understand you in further.

This actually happen to my brother as well. He did the law course to satisfy my parents. Now he do freelance works as well when he is free. I suggest you to talk it over to your parents so that they will not push you anymore. Good Luck!

hello, If you really feel that maybe you should tell them the truth because I know they will understand it. I am also in the same position like yours and I dont also know what to do. I just enjoy it and need to learn from it because that's what I took. I dont have to waste time doing and thinking what I think is the best for me. I just have to continue what I've started. So, good luck