Why can't I have a broken heart?

Man a long! - Man looking back at life dealing with the fallout, by not taken time for the one that love him.
Philippines
December 11, 2011 5:27pm CST
I hurt my g/f so many times. I let her down so many times. I skipped out on her birthday .I save all my money for old age to come. And she still love me and tried to make it work. I make sure everyone knew how much she meant to me, and all my family and friends. Now I am without her and I am a mess. She stood by me through it all, abuse the whole nine yards. She was everything. I missed her crying out to me. Why can't I have a broken heart? But by the time I woke up to relied it she was going. I guess in the back of my mind I though she would never leave. She is gone and I am now dealing with the fallout. Sometimes I wonder if she is thinking of me. Probably not. Women are stronger than men. She is forging on with a new life. Story of a broken love, but not heart broken. Why? What your story of love?
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12 responses
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
You have become so comfortable with her around that you never ever thought that she will one day disappear from your life. You only realized how much she mattered to you when she was no longer around. But I am wondering why you don't have a broken heart? Maybe you just didn't love her at all or the circumstances haven't been fully felt as of yet? Maybe deep in your heart you really wished her gone? While I do not want to be presumptuous, you might still be wishing and hoping for that special someone that you can spend your life with? I am sure she is still thinking about you because it is often more difficult for women to move on from a relationship not unless she has found the right person to love.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Comfortable yes, wanted her around on my turn yes, I was only thinking of me first at that time. That was my way of thinking, just as long as I was not cheating on her, she would understand work was what we need to do to have a better life. Well I had money but no girl. About a broken heart, always guard my heart from falling in love. I love her but not in love with her at that time. So you see what was on my mind. It was me first, money and sometime her. That was the deal when we start, that we would work hard to get what we wants in life. But thing change later on. What you think?
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Is there no way to communicate with her again? Can you not woo her back into your arms? Maybe she is only waiting for you to make the first move? If you love her, then by all means make the first step. Love cannot easily be forgotten and I feel she still loves you but is just waiting for you to do something about it. Think it over and act...
• United States
12 Dec 11
It's okay to have a broken heart, and it's okay to grieve about the break-up, but eventually, you will have to move on from that person. It can be hard, and it is hard, but you can do it, and you will.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Yes!They say a broken heart make you stronger after grieving. I don't want a broken heart and I don't want to leave. Because I don't like start over. Yes! we move on. But there only one thing. We waste so much times with a person we thought would be together for life. All I can say man plan change, but God plan never change and I Hope I am in His plan now. It hard but fair.
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• United States
13 Dec 11
Well, you didn't really waste time on the person that you fell in love with. Just call it a learning experience. Sometimes you have go through several Mr. and Ms. Wrongs before you find that Mr. or Ms. Right. You can't imagine how many guys I went through before finding Mr. Right. Well, at least I hope that he really is Mr. Right.
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
13 Dec 11
As a woman, I must admit that I'm glad that your girlfriend got a backbone and left, but, at the same time, I'm sorry you have a broken heart. Remember, as I have learned, that there are many fish in the sea. Just try to treat your next lady better.
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I am the man I once thought, all work and no play. It was back in old days. The ladies today are looking for more. Yes, I found out the hard way. I thank God everyday for her. Now it's less work and more plays. Yes, we are back together better than ever. I will say this, now we are together everyday 24/7, this is the first time in my life I can say I am happy. I left every thing behind and move to Asia with her. We travel together to different province and City. Hard work paid off. I still work harder then before, a different kind of work. Everyday I pinch my self, when I look at her, it's like the first time all over again. Yes, there are many fishes in the sea, but none like this one. They say it's good to be late but not too late. You see, I went back for her and everyday I thank God for her.
12 Dec 11
I can relate to your situation right now. I am broken heart too. My girl is right now is so lost. She always get mad at me. She always angry to me i don't know why. I told her that if she likes me to stay to her life but she tells me that, yes she likes me, she stays in me. But right now shes angry to me. She always mad at me. I dont know what to do. I dont know what to say. I only knows how to love her so much. Be strong my friend.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
My situation is ok now. Rember lives will always have up and down or you would say it a broken heart. If you and her in love with each other set down and talk. Not at each other but to each other. how can you say she is lost . She is there with you. What ever she say to you when she mad, if she right in what she saying, you must do what it take to make it right with her. If she is the problem, set down then and talk about it. You said you don't know what to say. Get some book and read about family problem. Look for something in other books the talk about why girl always mad. Be Bless that she is talking some don't talk tell it time to end it.
@nezavisima (7419)
• Bulgaria
12 Dec 11
should not hurt their heart. Do you know how much it hurts when the nearest you forget your birthday. You know how it felt then. once asked her how she once was hurt if they would not do so. ask why you can not have one heartbroken because he was afraid to love again because it is afraid of being deceived, it is afraid of you, and dare not let you back inside. To some women are much stronger than men and are struggling with vschko to end. story of love always hurts no matter what the f. nice day.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
My heart say she here today and going tomorrow or Mable going today. On guard. Birthday is not important to me. I am not into that, it's just another day. For some peoples it hurt when you forget that special day. Forget my birthday it ok just another day. You see not all peoples are the same. So be on the same track in life and no one get hurt. Most of all share your dream and vision with each to see if you two are on the same road, if not,some were on this road will be heart broken and broken plan. Plan together so no heart will be hurting at the end. You two will just go your own way and wish each other well. Don't change half way down the road. Stick to the plan. And you will be friends for life. Live and let live!
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
maybe you are just not that ready for such emotional relationship. I am 21 years old and I had never had my heart broken. I know it sounds weird or something but the reason is I don't open up quickly. And if I do let my guard down, I still put aside a part of me for myself.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Mable you are right, I don't open up easy to anyone. Always standing guard on my feeling. Some tell me to let go and open up, to what and get hurt? I see peoples so broken heart tell they can't eat or go on with there life. You are not weird just live a little longer. About me I call it protecting my self. But from what?
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
11 Dec 11
Well, you never really know what you have until its gone. For me, my story of a broken love is happening now. I've fallen for this guy who is already taken. And I now for a fact that it could never be us. And what sucks the most is that I know he feels the same way.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
My friends! If you know he/she was already taken, why would you fall in love with that person? Sooner or later someone will get hurt. Because two is a couple and three is a crowd. Now if you did not know that one thing. Thin again before you fall in love, get to know about that person not only know them. If you knew he/she was taken, then you would be the one hurt with many lonely days and weekend. If it was the other way around, You will not be happy. Why because someone in this threesome will be hurt. Ether way you know it,I know it, and the other person know it. Most of all God know it, will not last. Just be happy and free. The time is short. Live each as it was the last one. Just my saying! What about yours?
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
I actually think we, women are weak. It's the man who are stronger and doesn't even care when they hurt women's feelings. But life has to go on for us, even though it breaks us we have to face the world again and accept that sometimes nothing last forever. My story is not so good at this time. But I;m finding ways on how to get out of this painful situation.
@weige27 (49)
13 Dec 11
Hello,i'm a chinese,i moving in it,you are happiness that have a girl which is beautiful and love you deeply and really.i admire you,you should not let she alone and leaved you,it difficult to find such a girl for you even everybody in the furture.i'm a single body now,i love a beautiful girl and send some mensages yo her,but she seldom reply me,it make me sadly,flatly and boring now,i don't know what i can do next,i afarid of she has her lover,can you share your views for me,thank you,i expect you can find another girl which you really love```````
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
12 Dec 11
We will get to know the worth and value of someone once we lost. I hope you will get to find her and make her understand and believed that you want her more than anything.
• United States
12 Dec 11
Reading your post, I see that you know exactly how you hurt your girlfriend. It looks to me as though you were testing the strength of her feelings, almost daring her to leave. That is a form of insecurity, you were saying (in effect) "It's going to be hard to love me, I'm not going to treat you well" and then waiting to see if she would stay through all the neglect. Here's the thing: A relationship that lasts does so because both people have respect for each other's feelings. You found that out the hard way- you lost her respect by not showing her any. A woman will put up with a bit of random disrespect here and there but it gets old very quickly. If your girlfriend has a solid sense of self, she has realized that her worth as a person will be better recognized and valued with a different guy. So a bit of advice for you, my single friend, the next girl will disappear the same way unless you develop some respect for her and make her see you as someone she likes being with. Treat your woman with the respect she deserves.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
12 Dec 11
Well bro its all your fault You were a lucky guy, reading your discussion I almost wept out as my girlfriend is not that caring I hope I have such a loving partner as yours.