What if people hate you?

Philippines
December 12, 2011 10:25pm CST
I'm wondering if how does it feel to be hated by everyone? Have you guys ever experienced being hated, bullied, spreading negative talks to, and the like? I believe that every person has his own kindness, and yet has his own imperfection. It's just the way people perceive you as an individual. Or probably you guys started with a wrong foundation, or maybe someone has spread pessimistic rumors about you. And I'm also wondering, if it's happening to me as of the moment :) We'll never know who talks behind us :) What you guys do if these happens to you?
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15 responses
@jjzone44 (917)
• United States
13 Dec 11
No matter what we do, or say, or who we are friends with, or not, someone is going to have a difference of opinion. And because of this, they are probably going to talk negative about us. I think you provided the best response in describing your question; you asked if it is happening to you at the moment? That is the question, and the answer; if you don't know about it, then obviously it does not matter. If you know someone is doing it, does it really need to make a difference? I know people talk positively, and negatively about me, that's just human nature. I won't let the positive comments go to my head so that I develop and ego and a sense of infallibility. Conversely I won't allow negative comment to bring me down, or make mee feel like a failure. Never dwell upon the opinion of a person, whose opinion you do not value.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
That's the spirit! Never let anyone bring you down. I agree with you. That's the human nature, everyone has to say either negative or positive.
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13 Dec 11
I think everyone at one point in there life is hated on. Sometimes even the nicest people have the unfortunate luck of being teased for no reason. In high school I wasnt hated but there were people that disliked me because of diffrent factors. The thing with me was I wasn't really good on communicating so I wasn't the kind of girl you could talk things out with.. I let the peoples negativity get to me. Sometimes it happens to us sometimes we do it to others. I just think we all also go threw being talked about whether we know about it or not. Honestly how i see it people will always talk. There's always going to be negative people out there. So its best to just go about your life and try to ignore all the drama.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
People really tend to say unkind things if it's not according to their desire. That's what makes life. Optimism and pessimism. The best way would be ignore those who and what doesn't help. I admit, I talkback if I hate someone. :) You have a great idea girl.
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13 Dec 11
Thanks!..That is so true. I completely agree with you. Thats what stinks about first impressions, its lasting. People get the wrong idea of us at times and go from there. They don't take the time to try and get to know one another. Well I would also have to say the same as you, I dont stay quiet. Some people just know how to get under our skin.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Hahahahaha! I totally relate! :) I talk as much as I want if it's very intolerable! They dont even think that differences makes more interesting! :)
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13 Dec 11
it feel hurt really bad. last year, some people displeased with what i did(although what i did isn't too bad i think.)... they spoke ill about me in front of my mother... my mother got really sad at me. she told me all what they said to her, i was crying so hard. i couldn't believe people that i trust could betray me so much. but now is over, me and them are good now.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Ow :( that made me sad. But nice to know that all is well now among of you. There are times that people becomes exaggerated to one's error. I can't really imagine that they happened to talk alone with your mother? It hurts double.
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13 Dec 11
when she told me, her eyes was so glassy. i felt so helpless.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
If I we're in you shoes, I will feel pathetic too :( The fatal feeling is very upsetting. I'm proud you guys found ways to be okay.
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• Indonesia
13 Dec 11
What if someone hates me? I wouldn't mind if someone hated me or spread bad things about me. I would come to them and asked why they hate me. No, I wouldn't ask. I just watched and notice if their action were fully reasonable refer to why they hated. If I found out that their reasons were correct according to their opinion. I just let it like that and try to prove to them that I wasn't a guy like they ever thought. Surely, they have reasons why they hated me so much. I myself never hated other if I didn't have any specific reasons to why I hate them. Sometime, you deserved to get hated by.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Sometimes, you really can't help being skeptical to every reason they have. As they say: "Dogs doesn't bark if they knw the person well."
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• Indonesia
14 Dec 11
Yes, you are right. I believe in what you say. Thank you
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
As it is saying, we cannot please all. Someone might love us for our character but someone also may hate us because of our attitude. If someone might talk to us negatively we would not take it so seriously as we know that we have our different focus and most of all before someone knows us we really know ourselves. Those keep on talking are the person who do nothing but talk. So better don't mind them.
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
I'm sure everyone has an experience like being hated on. But there are certain people like PGMA who immensely hated by the Filipinos. hahahaha! Just giving a best example of HATRED. They curse, tease and etc... But look? They just ignore!
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• Philippines
13 Dec 11
If they bother themselves to the hatred of all people they cannot sleep well. Maybe there is doctor also helping them to overcome such..
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
13 Dec 11
I guess I would rather not know. I like being liked. There are some peope that I know don't like me and I honestly don't care. I do care about the people close to me and if they did not like me, I'd be terribly hurt. Just random people... I am ok with them not liking me as long as they ignore me.
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• Philippines
14 Dec 11
Really, if someone dislikes you without knowing any reason we can't help but question. A times in life, that we unconsciously know we're hurting people. You'd only know it, once they say it. People may hate us or something, but it shouldn't be like annoying.
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@mohkanari (1957)
• India
13 Dec 11
I have experienced hatred by some persons frequently in my life. Many of them tried to defame me. I never tried to fight against them. I go forward by my own natural living style. I never bother the losses brought by them. There is always new ways and new world with new contacts for a person with good heart.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
I love the last line! People whose more open with a kind heart. If we give our attentions to them, they'll take more ways and steps to mock you. Let them be sick of their twisted works.
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
13 Dec 11
Well, there are different kinds of people in this world, the there are different opinions in different people. Of course, we can't please all people, and there is no need to please all of the people. I have found some people who are really annoying. To these kind of people, i just try to avoid to communicate with them. Of course, i know there must be some people who don't like me, or even hate me. But what can we do with this? I think just let it be. Because if you spend so much time in thinking of how others think of you and how to deal with it, then how can we focus to do other things. I think we just need to hold our principle if we think we are right.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
OMG true that! :) Thinking of how to cope and please them are just a waste of time! Why not give your full attention and focus to a more sensible thing? And to people whose worth your appreciation? We have no choice but to let it be. Well it's normal to be talked about but it's beyond abnormal to shed some immoral stories.
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@jsmalong (109)
13 Dec 11
If people hate me it is their problem and not mine. For as long as I say and do only good things and doesn't step on anybody, I am at peace with myself and the world. Worrying about the negativity that some people throw on you will not add a single second to our precious lives. Ignore and just pray that someday soon those haters will see the light.
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
ho CG, Well I don't give a care to those people they can say all what they want to say or do I don't care if they hate me chances are I can hate them too........ happy mylotting
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@kicysmile (213)
• China
14 Dec 11
hi chescagarcia,when people hate me,at first ,I will feel very sad,and then I will think about this thing.If it's my fault.i will feel not so angry about this people.If it's anybody who hate me fault,i will hate him too.Today when I call somebody who is my company customer.his company was indebted to our company,so I call for money,he angry about me, I am so unhappy about this,I hate this kind of person.
@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Dec 11
hi chescagarcia oh someone is always low rating someone so what is new about that? If they talk about me and I do not know it so is it going to worry me, hardly,.and if I did hear something like that I 'would remember what a wise aunt once told me if they are talking-about me then they are not hurting someone else.So as I pass it off as someone who is unkind and does not like to see anyone else happy.So then it rolls off my shoulder and I am not at all hurt by it.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
14 Dec 11
Hi chescagarcia, I don't know about the word "hate", but what I do know is that we can't please everybody all the time. Regardless how much we think we are doing the right thing or saying the right thing there is still going to be someone who is not please. I know for fact there are people who don't like simply because they don't know me...See people seem to make conclusions about people withour even knowing them or anything about them..It sounds crazy but its true. So really I just try to be myself and live my life accordingly and not worry about what others think..people will be people and its been like that for ages..Just be yourself and live your life. Have a good week!!!!!!
14 Dec 11
In college I was hated and bullied by my classmates and some of the teachers because I refused to be like them who are negative, who likes to talk about other people and find strength in numbers. I, on the other hand, was a loner, indifferent, nonconformist and do not mingle with them. I guess the best way to deal with haters is to just ignore them and not let their taunts and bullying affect you, live your life and how you see the world. At some point in your life, you will encounter haters but just bear in mind that haters are people who dislike you because there is something about you that they wanted for themselves. One thing I noticed about haters is that they are insecure people and would like to mask their insecurities by bullying others. My advice is, if you can, stay away from these people, or transfer to another place or office because if you fight heads-on, you can't really win because they will taunt and hate you even more. Or if you can't leave, just ignore them the best you can, haters will grow tired of unresponsive subjects.
@bostonphil (4399)
• United States
14 Dec 11
You are talking about me. I live in Austin, Texas which has a very rich and wonderful music scene. I did a master's thesis on the music scene. I got ripped off by the music community and others. I have watched other persons profit from my work and ideas while my own life went down the tubes. There has been a smear campaign against me for way too many years. It is too late for a civil lawsuit but there are several government investigations going on. The persons who ripped me off hated me to begin with but now they hate me more because of the criminal investigation going on. It has all been very hard on me.