Does age tell how mature a person is?

United States
December 13, 2011 6:15pm CST
I don't think so. this question always seem to come up when an older man hooks up with a younger woman. I wonder why? For more years that I can count I have been told that girls mature faster than boys. so why wouldn't a guy who never ' grew up" find that he loves being with a much younger woman. And it isn't just men. some women still act like teenagers when they are way over 30.So I say this so called telling number many hide has nothing to do with maturity. Your thoughts.
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@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
14 Dec 11
No, not at all. Age is only a number. Look, I may be old, but I still think like a kid and act like a kid. Nothing wrong with that. Besides, I know when to act normal and when to act crazy. I do have an understanding. I think the old guys that go after young women are not bring to be young again. They just like looking at women in their 20's. It does become a little off when I see that. Let the young girl have her own life with someone she would be compatible with. Old men and young women have nothing in common.
• United States
15 Dec 11
I beg to differ , they are both kids. He just happens to been a kid longer. They can have plenty in common from music top film to activities . Typically the young woman wants to be treated well and the guy wants to fave fun. If they get together and Can make it.
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@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
15 Dec 11
I don't know. I see it differently. I know there are those young girls that go with older men because of financial gain. And that's what that is all about. But, a young girl should not be with an older man. Like if the girl is 20, why would she bother with like a 50 year old, unless she was getting money, for. He has absolutely nothing in common with her. And he just like what she looks like basically. And he cannot keep up with her. Age difference makes a big difference.
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• United States
15 Dec 11
A mature woman of 20 would get so upset with the games men ofd 20 play and would look for an older man. I know when I was in my 20's I didn't even think about guys my own age, I had nothing in common with them And they had nothing in common with me. So it isn't always about money. I do agree many are gold diggers but not All. And a heathy 50 year old Can keep up with a 20 year old.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
you are talking about all different issues here. age and majority age is only a guideline, just you turn 18 doesn;t mean you are mentally that age and suddenly you went from a kid to and adult over night. adults usually mature with age but that is only on something thinhd adults still can do stupid things thought of as being childish. middle age crisis is the term psychologists use for people who are of a certain age yet want to act or be younger, or are very dissatisfied with their life. women too now known as "cougars" I don't like that term but it is the popular term for women who go for much younger men. Psychologists say these people are trying to relive their youth.
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• United States
14 Dec 11
And I say they Never " grew Up" That is why they Can hook up with someone so much younger. And I don't see anything wrong with that. I know I will never grow up .I knew that by age 16. But that's ok. I hate the term mid life crisis. It implies if a guy Finally goes for what he wants it is a crisis! Oh no, he Can't be happy now. His life is set.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
mid life crisis is much more than that, I am going through one now, because I look back at my life and I don't think I did half as much as I wanted to. That is the true midlife crisis a reflection of what you have done with your life and you are not satisfied, it has nothing to do really with other people's thoughts of you but it could play a part in it. With me it is me who is not satisfied with what I have done with my life.
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• United States
14 Dec 11
Then I had my mid life crisis at age 16! At that age I thought I had done Everyhting I could and the rest was downhill.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
15 Dec 11
Oh no...I don't think that age symbolizes maturity at all. I have met a lot of people in their twenties that have a much more level head than others I have met in their 30's and 40's. I don't think that maturity can be based on a number either.
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• United States
15 Dec 11
Add me to your silly 40 year olds!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
15 Dec 11
Me too....silly and fun is sometimes different than mature though. Sometimes choosing to be silly and have fun is a sign of maturity that people don't think about. How many people are comfortable enough with themselves to be that way in their 30's and 40's? "We all put our pants on the same way" is a saying I have always liked. I think a great deal of maturity can be just realizing that much out of life.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
15 Dec 11
"not being" was supposed to be between "than" and "mature"...opps..sorry.
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@ShyBear88 (17638)
• United States
14 Dec 11
No maturity and age don't go hand and hand. When and older man or women is in a relationship with a younger men or women I think ita fine as long as they are of legal age of what that state says is concent to have a mature relationship with another mature person of there same caliber.
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• United States
14 Dec 11
Agreed. As long as both are at least 16 , it is ok . I mean if he/she is 16 and their partner is 26 , I think it is ok. 16 and a 46? They would have to wait a few years.
@ShyBear88 (17638)
• United States
15 Dec 11
Ten years or more is a big jump for a 16 year old. At least for me that is too big of a jump for that age five years is more comfortable for me to physically see.
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• United States
16 Dec 11
when I was a teen I thought of guys 20+ older. But a 16 year old and a 36 year old would be sticky but a woman of 20 with a 40 year old is fine!
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
14 Dec 11
Hi Sarah... I'm 29... I don't look 29... They still say that I look as if I'm 22 or 23.. And those who talk to me, feel I'm 18-20... LOL.. Well, that is how it used to be before a few days... Now, I've lost my charm... Anyhow, maturity is not related to age... There are many factors like exposure to world, readiness to accept one's mistakes and forgiving others when they're wrong... Wisdom is complicated... Its true that girls get matured sooner than boys.... :-)
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• United States
14 Dec 11
I didn't know or could I tell your age when we staryted talking here! And I feel your charm isn't lost , just hidden... for now.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
14 Dec 11
:-) hope it is true... Maturity comes through wisdom, which comes when one has been through troubles. One who is safe at home within 4 walls, will stand immatured in front of the one who has been out and away from home. Exposure to the real n cruel world makes one understand facts about life. The need to tackle with things sharpens one's knowledge and brings wisdom.. This wisdom combined with values like truthfulness etc makes one behave like a sage in troubled times and we amuse,'oh how matured he/she is...'
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• United States
15 Dec 11
Wow! That is wonderful.
@Rick1950 (1565)
• Lima, Peru
21 Dec 11
Well, I've read that the physical age not always develops together with the psycological age. There is a famous psychologist whose name I forget who has developed a table that indicates the mental development must have a person according to their age. It means that there are persons who can't mature related with their age. I think there are a lot of men who fall in love with young women. We have the case of Picasso who falled in love several times with young women. The poet Goethe falled in love with a teenager when he was older than 80. The girl rejected his proposal.
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• United States
22 Dec 11
They were artists, they are drawn to beauty. I can understand. It does make sens why some never " grow up"
• Canada
19 Dec 11
In sone ways yes, in other ways no. I am with a man who is 35 years older than I am. We were never typical for our age groups, and really don't notice the age difference.
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• United States
19 Dec 11
Forgive me my dear friend, I Totally forgot about you two! I guess to me the age difference doesn't come to mind! You are one of my friends who is happy and married. Besides in many ways you are more mature than I and I believe I'm old enough to be your mother!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
16 Dec 11
I've always been told that I look young for my age. Which is blessing and a curse. Of course I would want to look young, but in my career I've been passed a few times because I don't look 'mature' enough. Mature meaning not 'responsible' enough. Thus I always have to work harder than everybody else as I would prefer that my actions speak of my being responsibile or my mature-attitude. Age is just a number.
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• United States
17 Dec 11
I look young but I still look like I would know things. I get many people asking me questions. The problem? some time I can't answer their questions.
@Jphunk (72)
• South Africa
14 Dec 11
People tend to get confused with maturity and past life experiences they had encountered, however we seldomly learn from our mistakes therefore maturity can't be based on just that. Age have nothing to do with it either. In my opinion being mature is you know how to have your fun, laugh about it, create a perfect balance with work and play, but being responsible and can distinguish the difference between what's right and wrong :)
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• United States
15 Dec 11
By That definition , I was mature at age 10! I still know how to get my work done And then have fun. I can still be silly!And serious.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Dec 11
So if Mr. Wonderful is younger, I guess he's actually younger in the head than in the body. lol
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• United States
14 Dec 11
No if Mr. Right is younger , it means You are actually younger.
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@rokudaime (339)
• Australia
14 Dec 11
Shalom! Hello my dear friend, it's been a while since a came back to myLot. I have been busy lately with jobs and all. ^_^ Anyway, regarding your question. My answer would be NO. A person can already be in his/her 30s but acts like he/she is still on his/her 20s or worse, acts like a teenager. However, there are those who are in their 20s yet acts like that of 30 year old man/woman. My point here is, a person's maturity would not depend on his/her age but on how that particular person has lived his/her life. In the end, a person's maturity would always depend on the experiences that he/she had in life and how these experiences made that person who he/she is in the present. Learning from the experiences makes a person mature as these experiences will teach him/her lessons far more practical and efficient.
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• United States
14 Dec 11
Shalom! My dear friend and me are perfect examples. I'm old enough to be her mother but she is more mature than I Ever will be! I used to say and it still fits that I may grow old but I will never grow up. Isn't it great? This year Christmas is a day of Hanukkah! We will be celebrating at the same time! if I don't hear from you , Have a Happy Holiday!
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
14 Dec 11
Chronological age and emotional age or maturity are two completely different things. Technically my brother is an adult. He is 27 years old, but completely immature. He still lives at home, does not know how to survive on his own. My husband's sister who is the same age is the manager of a chemical company, lives on her own and is hoping to get a promotion to regional manager in the next year or two.
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• United States
14 Dec 11
Exactly!
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
14 Dec 11
I have had this experience, sadly, lately. The woman I really like, who is turning 30 this year (I'm 35). She really immature because her parents don't treat her like a grown up, both because she is an wheelchair, not heterosexual and for other reasons. So, no, I've learned age is not always an indicator.
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@taura2p (349)
• Romania
14 Dec 11
I think that age does not matter when we talk about maturity. What makes you more or less mature is the events you go through, the experiences you gain during your life. I do think that girls are more mature than boys, too. It's just the way we are. But I also think that in love age does not matter. What matters is the way you get along with the other and the things you have in common.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
14 Dec 11
I do know alot of men that can't grow up. It seems like women do. And I don't think it has a thing to do with age.....its all about who they are!
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• Philippines
14 Dec 11
I often hear someone telling, act your age, but I don't see the point in that expression since the ability to act with age depends entirely on your physical integrity and health. True maturity comes from having a broad understanding of what is correct and strong willingness to do what is good without being tempted to do other less important activities.
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@kicysmile (213)
• China
14 Dec 11
hi sarahruthbeth,I think mature is no direct impact on our age,maturity is along with the growth of the age one individual experience incease,had more comprehensive knowledge to the view of the thing,
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
I have to agree with most of the people who commented already. Age is just a number. I have seen most older men and women who still acts like a kid. Although they are matured already and know the difference of right from wrong, you still cannot tell sometimes whether they are young or not, especially if it's not showing from their physical looks. My parents are a good example
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@Mashnn (4503)
14 Dec 11
That is partially true. Most people I have come across act they age but there still others who act way below their age and others acting way above their age.
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• United States
14 Dec 11
I agree! I don't think age has anything to do with it. I've known teenagers who have been literally through hell and back with everything in their life. They were only 15 and 16 but they were more mature than someone in their 20s. I guess that's because of the hardships they had in life and learning to overcome them. They didn't let the stuff get them down, they just bucked up, kept their head up and overcame the obstacle. They were super mature. So maybe maturity should be based on what people have had happen in their lives instead of age. I see women around here who are rich and grew up rich. They are never mature.. or if they actually are mature...they don't act like their mature.
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