I'm really nervous today...

United States
December 14, 2011 9:40am CST
Today my boyfriend had to go to the military processing center and get his full physical before the army accepts him. It's also the day he'll be picking his job and he'll be told 3 places he's likely to get stationed. I'm really nervous because I hope with all my heart that he can get stationed near home so he doesn't have to go away. Also, I'm nervous about what job he'll pick because I know he'd love to be in a combat job and go to the Middle East. But, he doesn't want to ever put me through that and he said his brain is telling him to do a combat job, but his heart is telling him to stick with the other job he wanted which wouldn't put him in any of the dangerous countries. I'm hoping he'll listen to his heart and go with the military police job. I really want to find out where he might get stationed too, because I'm really worried about. He won't be done until around 4 or 5 pm, so I have a long day of waiting to find out :(
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
19 Dec 11
Darn! I went to read all the responses and comments first before I put in mine so I could get an idea which one your bf chose. Anyway, maybe there's other discussions that would address this(?). I'm still trying to catch up on my discussions. It is interesting to see what he picked. I hope that day wasn't too much for you.
• United States
19 Dec 11
It ended up being a bit of a tear-jerker. They didn't have any corrections officer positions open and he ended up with Field Artillery Firefinder and Radar Operator. From the descriptions and what I've read from people in the army, this job isn't involved with direct fire and really threatening situations. I'm kind of upset, just because I'm extremely worried about his safety and I don't want anything to happen to him. When it comes to him, I'm such a nervous person because I don't ever want to lose him. I think things will work out and his 3 year contract will go by pretty fast.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
19 Dec 11
Radar operator? That a bit of good news, I think?! I would imagine he'd be in a safe building and away from direct line of fire. I think it's normal, what you're feeling.
• United States
19 Dec 11
That's what I thought too. He said if he were to go to Afghanistan, he would be in a mobile base set up miles from an actual battle. His job requires him to watch radar and see any incoming threats and if the actual infantry people need backup, I guess him and his crew would shoot off missiles or something to hit the bad guys. I'm sure what I'm feeling is normal, hearing what other Army guys say is a bit relieving and puts my mind at ease a little bit.
@rencarl (620)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
hello my friend.i also felt the same feeling when my girlfriend prepared for her departure to the United Kingdom. though we are in a different scenario, i am still worried.i can see how worried you are, thinking that your boyfriend is risking his life out in the wild. it is a very painful feeling when you see your partner moving away from you because of the demands of the job. i hope your boyfriend will be stationed near your home so that you will lose your worry.
• United States
14 Dec 11
Thank you :) I'm hoping for the best and I really want him near home. If he gets stationed far away, I'm going to have a lot of thinking to do about whether or not I'll go with him or wait here for 4 years until he's done with the army.
@gkslight (65)
• India
14 Dec 11
He will listen to his heart if he truly loves you. Have faith. All the best, by the way please do let us know of his final decision.
• United States
14 Dec 11
I think he'll end up listening to his heart just because he knows how much a combat job would break my heart even more than it is now. I'll definitely let everyone know what he chose today and the places where he might get stationed
• United States
15 Dec 11
life has a way of working out. I would be proud of him for whatever he decides and stay behind him a 100% because this is one of the hardest jobs in the world and I'm sour he is thinking of what is best for both of your future and that is hard for both people in a relationship. just have faith in him that is what well get you both threw the hard times. faith in each other. To know you have some one you can trust and re lion no matter what is the best thing and in all my life i never had that in till now. he is what is getting me thew what is going on in my life if i did not have him I'd be lost.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Hi courtknee, I do hope he will follow his heart. Not only he will get the kind he also wants, he will be as well closer to you. It's really hard to stationed in a place like Middle East especially in those countries where bombs can explode at any moment.
@liumirror (138)
• China
15 Dec 11
Although,I don't know he like combat job.After all combat is not good.I think you should let him know what you want and your opinion.Lover should communiate and understand each other.Although I nerver fall in love with anyone.
• United States
15 Dec 11
Well, they are stationing men here in the states right now, but you never know when or if another war will break out because who would have ever thought that our country would have been at war for 10 years. Just make sure that he passes all of his test because those written exams will really determine what kind of work he gets.
@davaome (1828)
• Philippines
14 Dec 11
I know that you are worried about him, but this is part of his life that he must make a decision on his own. I'm sure he has thought about it, and in those deep thoughts, he has always included you on the decision that he is about to make. All you have to do is believe in him, have faith in him that he will make the right decision for the both of you. It's ok for you to feel this way, but he wouldn't want you to worry, what he needs from you is all the support that you can give :)