why don't they comment back?

Indonesia
December 15, 2011 11:26pm CST
I have commented a lot on some post. I always go back to their discussion and check if my comments get response from the owner of the discussion. I have discussed this before and this issues had been a concern to some of myLoter here as well. I didn't know why it was so difficult for them to just respond to their commentator. I knew that this action does not spend our time. I tried to understand why they still chose whom to respond or who their friends were that deserve response. Guys, this is social network when we can share our opinion and ideas as well. So, why don't they show their best to people like us?
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20 responses
@ChoukseyMK (1054)
• India
16 Dec 11
every mylotter is your friend. i crossed check your profile. you got good enough responses for your most of the discussions. fake discussion is not good practice.
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
He do not have a topic without response
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
What? No, I commented on my friend post, but I got few answer from them. It is not like you ever said. Funny.
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@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Dec 11
Hi sijabatnaburjut Sorry that you had got to those discussions from the people who dont respond. I too feel that not responding back is unhealthy. But again, it is their wish. And remember they are the losers not us. Wait. When I say they are the losers, I am not meaning anything from the income aspects... this one they lose too, but I see that in case they dont respond back, they lose something that money can never get them - Friends. I accept there are times when even I do not respond back to all on my discussion but I do take care to make up with those whom I could not respond. After all we are all here for interactions and discussions... Some people have the habit of responding only to people who are in their friends list - they are justified too as we are here for a small part of our day and within that most of the time is already reserved for friends. A majority of the Lotters here are really great and they DO take a lot of pleasure in responding to all who comment on theirs. I try to follow the same but there are times when the lazy me takes over.
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
I hoped that I was not one of them. So far, I always responded to my comments that I received through my post and rated them as well. I also hoped that the lazy reason wouldn't take me over. To feel through it was sad. I knew We couldn't deny them. I was feeling more powerful when I happened to find out that my comments are replied already. Happy myLotting.
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@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Dec 11
I always responded to my comments that I received through my post and rated them Though this is nowhere written, but this is one of the most sought after traits to be a great Lotter. I wished I too could follow this convention to the word... No worries, I wish you all the best MERRY CHRISTMAS
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
It is new for me that respond comment would give good grades. I like this site a lot. Thank You myLot. Merry Christmas Thank You.
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
I personally don't comment often to the answers in the discussion that I created. It is not because I did not read it but I will only comment if I feel like I have something to say. It is not a mean of disrespect or anything but I guess a lot of people are different. Some comment to all the post while others do not.
• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
They should have known how important the response to the others were. This is a two way communication site. It seemed it's like being socialized with one to another. I knew it hasn't been always like this, at least we know how we never forget to say or express our pleasure moment or our happy time.
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@Hatley (162175)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 11
tessa those of us who are left in other words you do not think our reponses worthy of y our comment wow is that not nice to know some pf us do not rate. I personally make good money for opne t hing bu commenting back to all my friends here,so am I weird or perhaps I care abou t others feelings too.so be lazy but I will not respond to 'someone who thinks my responses are garbage as I have better things to do with my time than that. I feel for one thing you miss knowing some good people you snubbed. I will avoid your discussions as I respond to those who comment back only.
• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Hi hat... how are you doing? I knew it was hard to make people connected with what they're doing. I knew by doing the same thing to the other won't make any different, so then we're just the same. We too hail our ego and naive behavior. We give them what they, but it wasn't the case also if we didn't get back even a piece of rubbish from them. Don't be disappointed with them. Good Luck
@picjim (3003)
• India
17 Dec 11
This happens mainly with the new and inexperienced.I find some replies which i have given after careful consideration and deliberation aren't replied.Some give a best response within hours of the discussion being started and only a few responses being given.I feel they haven't read the guidelines well or even realized that only receiving a reply is not enough.One has to revert back to the person sending the reply as it not only clarifies the point but the chances of earning more are greater.
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
This kind of thought came across in my mind. I asked myself if I have fulfilled the needs of others who commented on my discussion. Then, I just got back and checked if there were comments not replied yet. To know comment not replied, I was glad to comment back on their response, because I thought that they've helped me improving myLot.
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• United States
16 Dec 11
Hi Sijabatnaburjut, I think these people don't comment back because they assume they won't get paid for their efforts, but they are soooo wrong if they think this. Some of these folks believe they get paid for what you type. What kind of job will pay folks for the work other people do? Not any that I know of... so these people need to smarten up and begin commenting if they want to make money. Mylot is such a great place for people to get to know each other through their chatting back and forth on discussions... and get paid for it too! Great! Welcome to Mylot. I've not seen you here.. so this is PQ Saying Welcome!
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Hi I hoped they read and understood the content of our discussion. This will smarten them up and they begun thinking of commenting back others response. There are type of people who needs to be summoned or told if we wanted them to know what we've been through. I hoped they got this and practice this on myLot each time they are joined with myLot. Thank You my dear friend and Happy myLotting.
• India
16 Dec 11
There are busy with there own work and have no time to read the responses to write them back. People just want to take the goods they want and leave others.
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
I knew. You're right.
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• Malaysia
16 Dec 11
Well, all i can tell you is dont worry be happy. Even if those whom you commented on their discussions do not comment on your discussion, there will always be new people like me who might like your discussion and comment on it.
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Okay. Keep my spirits up. Thank you
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@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
Hello there! I try to answer or comment back to all who responded to my discussions. I think that is being polite and a way of thanking them. Well, not all people are the same anyway
• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Yes, you're right. That not all people are the same.
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@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
16 Dec 11
I see to it to comment back to every respondent to my started topic.For me it is not fair not to let the respondent how I feel for his/her reply.Here is a give and take.If someone respond to your discussion that person contributed to your topic in any way.It is a fair action to comment them back.The more the merrier.
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
Yes, it should be like that, take and give. When you give, you must take and in opposite way, when you gave away, they would have taken. That's life
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@shrijsr (577)
• Bangalore, India
16 Dec 11
hello, I have noticed this too, infact a lot. This sort of a thing usually happen with the new comers to the mylot. They are carried away by the false impression that by creating the posts they will be paid and things like that. That is why they kep posting topics and leave it there thinking that will serve their purpose. Little they do not realize that they will get the full benefit of it only if they get back to responding for the people who reply. Once they start getting to know this, they will come back to their posts and reply. Sometimes it also happens that, when someone ask for some information, people keep repeating the same response, so there's no point in responding everyone with the same response. That way you won't get the reply to your response. That is why, before responding to any post you need to read the previous contents and responses already posted by the members. But, the experienced people here on mylot, sometimes they won't be able to turn up because of their everyday busy schedule. In that case, you need to have patience and wait for some time. Surely they will respond back once they are back to Mylot. Cheers! Happy mylotting!
• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
Hopefully they would respond to my comment. I knew it's of no use to expect much for our comment would be responded by. I felt It is have to give response once they commented back on my post, I had to write or respond to them back.
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• Malaysia
16 Dec 11
Well, all i can tell you is dont worry be happy. Even if those whom you commented on their discussions do not comment on your discussion, there will always be new people like me who might like your discussion and comment on it.
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@cmang83 (286)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 11
Hi there, i understand how you feel. I will feel sad when my comment not getting any respond from the discussion creator. But when its happen too frequent, i just ignore it and skip to other. It is not polite for those who not respond to their commentator but they are not against the rule. Just my opinion.Happy mylotting.
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
Yes, you're exactly right. Thank you for commenting on myLot and Have a nice day. Thank
@owlwings (38301)
• Cambridge, England
16 Dec 11
sijabatnaburjut, this is exactly the kind of comment which I describe below and which you should NOT expect to get (and which the Guidelines say that we should NOT give). I would usually just ignore it but, since your discussion is specifically about comments and replies, I am not "flaming" you and you clearly need to have it pointed out. The Guidelines say: "DON'T ... Thank everyone that responds or comments on your discussion. This will not increase your earnings." It also adds nothing to the discussion (whether you think it "polite" or not) and so is not necessary or desirable. By all means, thank people for responding ... BUT have something of value to say AS WELL!
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• India
16 Dec 11
value means the reputation ?
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
Hi, sijabatnaburjut, I think this is one of problem that won’t be solve to be discuss in mylot. Everyone have different oriented here. Some people come to discuss and find out new thing and other want to earn as much as they can. Sorry I don’t judge anyone, but same with you I experience the same thing when I discuss/ response/ comment a discussion, I just though that interesting discussion can go a long and long but then there’s no response anymore. At first feel disappointed, but then it’s come to be more usual because it’s frequently happen here. one day, two days, a weeks, three weeks, months.. there's no response, just let it go
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
I always tried to not miss a comment from responding. Yes, I knew I am going to get to used to what happened. I have been here for two months and not looking or getting response from the owner of the discussion where we commented on is strange thing for me. I didn't know I just wanna everything to be perfected here. May be, I have to learn from the other mylotter and be patience a bit little. Thank you.
• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Patient is very need here, follow the right trough. The discussion owner may busy and need time to response you back. Take it as have fun time even sometime feel so uncomfort and little disappointed when mylotter who doesn’t response back. When I was two month longer here, I also feel the same thing, but as time move I start to understand they who don’t want to response back and just take it easy
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Thank you red. I hope I can be as smart as you are. Thank for responding and glad to comment on your discussion or post asap. Happy mylotting
• United States
16 Dec 11
I don't worry about this anymore. I do my part and they can do theirs. I enjoy responding to people.. If they respond back that is nice. If not oh well. It makes my day run smoothly.
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
I should crossed my mind with the way you did it. Thank you for reminding me and my precious gift for your. Success be with you forever. Good Night. Thank you
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• United States
16 Dec 11
Your very welcome. take care..
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
You too
@owlwings (38301)
• Cambridge, England
16 Dec 11
Some people still don't understand that MyLot only pays them for what THEY type. It does NOT pay people for the number of responses they get to a discussion. Others, apparently, think that it is easier to earn here by just posting huge quantities of discussions (usually they are very low quality and many will be deleted). If someone does this excessively, they are very likely to just have their accounts deleted. Some people are selective about who they reply to. This may be for a number of reasons. If your response simply says what has already been said elsewhere, the D.O. may think it appropriate or necessary only to reply to the previous, possibly better, response. There is NO advantage or value in simply saying 'Thanks for responding' and you shouldn't ever expect that. When responding to a discussion, you should always read what has already been said. If you feel that you can add something of value to the discussion, then respond with something original, descriptive and of value and you should, sooner or later, get a reply from the Discussion Owner. Not everyone is here all the time and MyLot's notifications sometimes take a little while, so it may be a day or more before your response is acknowledged. If you find that a particular person NEVER replies to responses, the best thing to do is to ignore that person's discussions in future. If someone doesn't know how discussions work and don't seem to be prepared to learn, then that's their problem. Just shrug your shoulders and find discussions which ARE going to be discussions in the proper sense of the word.
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
I was annoyed a bit little. When I turned back to the owner of the discussion where I put my comment on, I felt I was trapped in empty place. I wanted to know what others might say about my comment. Aside talking earning , I do care people who don't respond to other comment even if they know that to respond that doesn't contain good reason and fact was a waste of time for them, so maybe that's why they wouldn't want to write, at least a thank you answer is well respected. I have always had many things to say when to express my gratitude. To the point, hello, I want you to say something, that's all. Where were you? I needed to know where you have been? It's simple. I hope you understood what I mean to say. My English has been very bad. Happy myLotting.
@owlwings (38301)
• Cambridge, England
16 Dec 11
I agree that there are many 'discussions' where one gives what one knows is a good response and nobody at all comes back to comment on it (not even just to acknowledge it by saying "Thanks for responding"!). At times it can feel as though one is just speaking to empty air and it is slightly frustrating. If I find that I am giving good responses in several discussions by the same person and they continue not to comment at all, I will stop responding to that person's discussions and, if they happen to be on my Friends list, I will remove them, too. I only want to associate here with people who are prepared to contribute to the site properly!
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
I hoped that they would pay attention to what we've agreed by bringing this topic into a discussion. I often stressed we were here not only for the sake of money but also for socialization. I knew that to make them understand what mylot was not as simple as we are here and discuss things that doesn't interest them at all.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 11
i try to respond as soon as possible to everything had responded my discussion.. because i always want to interact with my friends here.. but i believe everyone here had a different purpose why they come here.. and of course it can make some difference too.. some of peope here is dilligent to respond back.. but few of them did not respond back, maybe because some of the factors.. 1. they had no time anymore for respond back and back.. 2. they don`t think the respond back is still important 3. maybe the hot issues is not longer and the respond back is not urgent anymore for that time
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• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
Okay, I knew there was no way out of talking or forcing people to comment back on our response. I hope through this discussion they'd know the important of giving response to each discussion they have started for whatever reason they had.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
yes, if like me, i understand, sometimes we need a solution..so we still communicate for it.. we never did not respond, as long as we had time for it, we respond it
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
Hi sijabat, I have the same questions too, but I usually think that maybe some of them are still busy with their offline job and don't have the time yet to reply on our comments. Sometimes it takes a while for me, a week or more. But there are some who just don't care and that's a little offending.
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• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
Yes, may be they're busy, may be not. I hope they'd be getting more without responding to their comment. By the way, Thank you very much for sharing on my post and I was glad to comment on your post in the near future. Good Night and Have a nice time on myLot Merry Christmas
@taomoney (649)
• Hong Kong
16 Dec 11
Good question. We should promote a link: Select discussions --- Responded. I do that everyday when i log in mylot. I think it is a kind of respect for people share their idea with me :)
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• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
I thought we must have warning sign that reminds people who weren't responsive and dedicated to their task ? I insist us to use it like you ever said. Nice answer. Thank you
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
16 Dec 11
Its their responsiblity to reply for those comments they received in their own discussions. I always love to start discussions new and i wil check back then and then comment back to all my responders sometimes i wil be unable to reply to all comments when receive more responses because i wil start new discussions often so that i can care first for new discussions.
• Indonesia
16 Dec 11
yes it is. It does. They do have the responsibility whether to comment on for ohirr. I hope this would come up again try.
@Hatley (162175)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 11
hi sijabatnaburjut thats a good discussion point why do they do this? some are still so sure they will just get paid for our responses that we typed in and they will wait til hell freezes over as we typed those responses so if they want to make earnings they must comment back on all our responses. I feel really angry any more if I spend my valuable time to respond and I get no comment at all. now I have started to not respond to these same people as they never comment back or they comment to maybe five friends and tell the rest of us by neglecting us that we can go straight h, and stay put. if they find suddenly their discussions are not getting responses maybe they will start doing the right thing and commenting back on all their responses.they are not being sociable at all , so you are right that they should show their best to us people.
• Indonesia
17 Dec 11
You know what. I do not only respect to the time I am through but I also respect them so much as well. I have no word 'no comment back ' on my dictionary. We must respect their comment. That's a simple as that. Good Night Hatley and Bless you