i love a man who is impossible for me

December 16, 2011 9:23am CST
well,when i met him at first time,i fell in love with him.he is my boss and he is much bigger than i am.but because of the age,i know that he can not like me as well as i like him.i do not know him and he is so mysterious that i am very curious all about him.i think i have loved him already. he is handsome and he is a single man so i want to look after him.but,he just think that i am a little girl and i felt that he can't love me !but...what should i do? i can not control my love about him!
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@Soniasony (1827)
• India
17 Dec 11
There are lot of assumptions in your statement.Just speak to him about this frankly and get to know the truth about what he feels about his life and then about you and how much you love him and all that ..Best of luck
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17 Dec 11
thank you sooo much
• Philippines
17 Dec 11
There are things which your think are impossible for you. You just have to put one thing in your mind. If he is for you, then he will become yours regardless of anything; but if he is not for you, you will not have him in any way. If you really want to have him, just pray. God knows the best for you.
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17 Dec 11
thank you !~
@francesca5 (1344)
17 Dec 11
in reply to 3honor you say he is cold towards you and you think him very fragile. so you see a cold outer person and inner vulnerable person. and you seem to be a bit lacking in self esteem yourself. sometimes men who seem cold on the outside and fragile on this inside can appear exciting, and a challenge, but he is 31 and unmarried, and that may be because he has issues about commitment. i think you may want to mother the inner fragile man, but this is fraught with danger, as people who are fragile on the inside can build up quite strong ways of protecting themselves, and the chances are he would never let you close to him. being attracted to men because they appear fragile on this inside is not good, it may be a sign that you are also vulnerable inside, i would, if i were you, deal with your own self esteem issues, and look for a problem free nice man.
17 Dec 11
well,you maybe is right.and i think time will go and i don't know what will happen to us....well,i will be fine....yeah....oh,god..
17 Dec 11
Age difference is not a problem in love.But my suggestion, be sure about your feelings for him. It could just be a simple admiration and not love. How could you love a man if you only know a little bit about him? Try to know him well, what is he as a friend and as a part of the family? How do he react to situations? What are his point of view in life? Do you have the same goal in mind? Your feelings I guess is based on what you are seeing in his outside appearance.. Love is not based on shallow things nor in physical attributes but on deeper things.
17 Dec 11
well,thanks a lot.i think maybe time goes by,i can calm down....
@tang888 (23)
• China
17 Dec 11
A pretty girl fell in love with a man.you have right to love with any men.now he knew that you love him .he is old .but he is single .so you may talk with him,you talk any thing with him.and you help him doing housework.you do your job with him .and time will go.He maybe fall in love with you .you will be happy.I think you may try you best and you maybe will be succeed.Good luck to you.
17 Dec 11
thank you for your wishes and i hope i can touch him
@Hatley (164074)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 11
hi xushuoyi welcome to mylot.how much older is he than you? a huge age difference with the man much older seldom works out. You are young and need someone your own age.okay he is handsome but do you really know anything at all about him? handsome does not always mean he is a nice or good man either. I think from what you have told us you have a sort of hero worship and really this is not going to go anywhere so just be a friendly employee and look else where for some one your own age.I think you know this is not a good thing. and he probably already has a woman friend his own age. I think you should forget this as a bad idea really before you get badly hurt.also in a lot of companies inter fraternizing with employers is not smiled on either.
17 Dec 11
maybe he is 31-year-old,and i am 21~~
@squallming (1777)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 11
Did he personally said that he can't love you? Anyway, regardless of whether he said that to you or not, you can still pursue you love. Now you have two options here, either to make him fall in love with you, or to quit your job and look for another. Of course, I would advise you to at least try before you give up But, remember to take it slow and steady, talking to him, having meals and so on, organizing corporate day out etc. Build your relationship through time. If you know how to do it, it shouldn't take long. Reminder: He is SINGLE!!! Good luck there mate^^
17 Dec 11
no,he didn't say that he cannot love me.but,i felt that he cannot love me.i think he maybe love the real woman,and not a girl of 21.....
• Romania
17 Dec 11
I think that you should ask yourself what do you care more about: your job or this man. I think having a relationship with your boss could cause you problems at work. Your expectations are unrealistic, considering you want him to love you. You seem convinced he wants a serious relationship. A man with his status and looks can have any woman he wants. If he wants you, you'll find out. But I think you should ask yourself what really matters to you.
@succeednow (1638)
• Singapore
17 Dec 11
Hi xuxhuoyi, From what you described about him and your reaction and his reaction, it seems that you may not be falling in love with him as you thought. Looks like you are infatuated with an older, mature and good looking guy! In my opinion, there is no such thing as love at first sight. Perhaps it was attraction at first sight. Love is two way process while attraction can be one way. I hope you see what I mean. The best approach to this relationship would be to tread carefully see if this relationship can develop and blossom with MUTUAL feelings for each other. Otherwise you may find yourself disappointed and dejected which can lead to depression. So please be careful. Good luck and happy mylotting.
• United States
17 Dec 11
Please don't take this the wrong way, but it seems to me that you are just in love with the idea of him. You've said that he's so mysterious and that you're curious about him. Doesn't that mean you don't know him that well? Can you actually love someone without knowing much about them? Find out more about him first. Handsome and single means that he's available and good to look at, but doesn't say anything at all about his emotions, maturity level, goals in life or anything that someone would need to know in order to fall in love with a person. I know this is a cliche' but is still true, "not everything that looks good to you is good for you".