When Is The Last Time You Checked Your Friends List?
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
December 17, 2011 4:00pm CST
I know many of us here have made a lot of new and interesting friends. Some of these are people we might have become really close with even and now might have had a chance to meet, or talk on the phone with even. Maybe they now have become our close Facebook friends as well.
But then out of the 1000s of members here, there are a lot who have not been active for a long time. Many might have even been removed, or removed themselves, etc. Do you ever go thru your friends list checking to see if everyone there is still active? Maybe if they are check their discussions to see if you still want them on your friends list, or respond back to one while you are at it as well?
I know I have done that from time to time here, and it amazes me how many are no longer around. Even some of the old timers. But it gives me a chance to remaniss some and maybe post back on a friends discussion from here that I might have somehow missed.
~~TINA~~
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26 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 Dec 11
no there is way too many people there and it just takes too much time for me to do that.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Jan 12
Well, how I usually do it first from time to time is go thru looking for people with lower postings, and see when the last time they posted here. These are usually the ones I can delete first, and many times have not even gotten a chance to really get to know them yet. Then if I have time check out some of the older names I might be missing from hearing from, etc.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Dec 11
hi tina oh my I really do need to do that as I have a huge list and I have seen already some have not been here and not posted for over sixty days.I hate to delete but if the person has been here long and only a few points I figure they are not returning. if they do then okay I can refriend them. but my list does need cleaning
up.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Dec 11
Cleaning up is interesting. Makes me wonder where some of the people have gone too, as some of them I had not thought of for a while as well. Wish more people, especially of the OLD timers here would tell people they are leaving. Makes me wish some of them that have gone I knew how to get in contact with them still as well.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 Dec 11
Yes, it is interesting to see who is still around. I have removed some who were only around a short time, and then see others who are only active from time to time and miss hearing from them. I know life gets busy but it would be nice if people could update us more when they have to disappear.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
17 Dec 11
yes I did just a short time ago and found many no longer posting but it did worry me a bit about a couple whose websites are lomger operating which has made me a little concerned with what has been happening in some of their countries, I just hope they are ok, many of them students, I just hope they have moved on.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
24 Dec 11
Yes, many times when you see someone on your friends list who no longer is active, or they have closed their account here, it makes you wonder about them and why they have chosen to leave here. I often do hope that everything is OK for them, and hope one day they will remember this site, and choose to come be a part of it again.
@celticeagle (159008)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Dec 11
Yes, I do the same thing. Spring cleaning is what i call it. It is amazing how many are active but yet I don't get their posts in my inbox. For whatever reason. i let go of the ones that still don't have very large numbers and haven't been active for awhile. Things have sure changed on here.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
19 Dec 11
Maybe I should go through mine. I shut off some notifiers yesterday, but that is all I did. I did delete someone the other day .. I had forgotten about that until just now. I've not done any real spring cleaner.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
18 Dec 11
i must admit that I do not go through my friends list very often at all! I probably need to. I also have most of them marked to not send notifications so I know that I miss a lot. i need to go check them to see who is still here and who is not.. Thanks for the reminder!!
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Jan 12
You are Welcome. I know many times it surprises me to see how many have left. Even some of the old timers I had no idea they had left. But it also gives me a chance to update and respond back to a discussion if I desire of each friend listed here, and just maybe learn something New as well.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
18 Dec 11
I do it occasionally but not enough...some friends however disappeared for a year or so then suddenly start posting again....so I am glad I hadn't deleted them. There are many though I can see by how many posts they have had or not had I do delete....some are just never coming back.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Dec 11
Who has time to check their friends list? lol
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Honestly, I can say that I've never really went through my friends list on here and looked to see who is still active and who is not. Some of the people that I have on my friends list have not be active for a long time and I know that because of the fact that I haven't seen their names for quite a while. However, there are also many people that are on my friends list that are active on an almost daily, or daily basis.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
22 Dec 11
I must admit that I haven't done that. I should though.
I know that in the back of my mind, there are people in my friends list that have been gone. That I don't get notifications for their postings. I think the ones that I get nowadays are from the same group of people.
Maybe this holiday, with the free time, I'd be able to check on old friends.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Dec 11
Even if i don't have to go through my list of friends, i know who are those that are not active anymore.
It saddens me indeed that those that were not active anymore, are those that are so good in posting.
I hope they can come here once in a while just for the sake of having fun.
@Robswife2006 (1208)
• United States
18 Dec 11
Not too long ago in fact. I check my friends list every once in a while & remove inactive friends from my list. Whether they are no longer active or they just don't reply to any of the discussions that I start(even though I reply to theirs)then I remove them one by one. I help out those who help me out in return. if they don't then eventually they will get removed. I don't do it to be mean. I know not everyone has a lot of time, but neither do I. I only ask for what they expect in return. Seems fair to me.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
30 Dec 11
Personally this is a Good way to look at things and I know I have removed some for this very reason as well. I have also removed people I could no longer relate with or their posts quit making any sense. From time to time I feel like it is good to go thru our friends list, but when you see names you know have left her, sometimes it makes my heart feel Sad as well and hope everything is OK.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
19 Dec 11
I was in my friends list yesterday to turn off a couple of notifiers that I didn't want coming to my email. Rather than delete the people, I just shut off their notifiers.. these are people who continually write poll discussions and they are usually 8 or more at the same time.. I won't answer a poll, so I just shut them off.
I haven't really checked to see who is active or not. I'm glad we are friends here and on facebook.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
18 Dec 11
I have done that but not eliminated anyone. Good thing, too, because someone who hadn't posted for a long, long time recently returned, much to my delight!! 
If I'd deleted them I would never have known.
The only time I delete someone is if they spam me or say something so offensive that I don't want to hear from them anymore. It's really hard to offend me so you know they're way over the top when I do that!
If I'd deleted them I would never have known.
The only time I delete someone is if they spam me or say something so offensive that I don't want to hear from them anymore. It's really hard to offend me so you know they're way over the top when I do that!
@bookreadermom08 (5614)
• United States
18 Dec 11
I have done that twice in the time I have been here on Mylot.... it has been a while since I did it the last time so I may have to find a day where I can go through my list and update it again.
It is amazing to me that I have been with Mylot for 3 yrs, I have to say that went by fast but it has been fun and I have learned alot and even if I take a month or so off I always come back to Mylot. :)
Happy Mylotting!!!
@AgentGulaman (3546)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
Hmmm...Well for me I never do check my friends list. I just go to that page whenever I have a new friend request and/or when I will turn off notifications from a certain friend I have added. But I must admit that I do check some profiles of my friends who are beautiful and hot.
But I never go deep into the details of the activity of my friends. I just gauge their activity with the discussions that I see in the friends started tab and also when I come across their responses in discussions that I also respond to. That's just about it.
But I never go deep into the details of the activity of my friends. I just gauge their activity with the discussions that I see in the friends started tab and also when I come across their responses in discussions that I also respond to. That's just about it.
@rbjat4589 (104)
• Philippines
18 Dec 11
As for my experience, I am still new to this site and as of now I don't really know my friends online. I just add them the moment I see that they have good topics. I consider them as online friends. But I have a number of good friends in real life. They are always there for me and cheer me up when I am down. It is nice to have true friends who tell you frankly of their negative thoughts about you.
