Feeling Bad, I didn't buy A Expensive Gift For My Mother

@Hazelme (649)
United States
December 19, 2011 3:24pm CST
hey myLotters, I feel really bad today because I don't have a offline work, I'm focusing in my education, so the only money i earn is through the one i save and make online, It's not a lot. So I bought my mother a perfume, tennis shoes because that's what she always uses, she never wears heels or anything. And I bought her really nice Royal Prestige 6 pieces set. While my mother left to the mall with my aunt, my sister came and show me the big gifts she bought for my mom a mac laptop,plasma tv, and she said she even bought her a new stove and refrigerator. She's married, she doesn't work at all. She made me feel bad because she told me "you're gifts stink might as well don't buy her anything" she made me feel really bad.
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@beki710 (949)
19 Dec 11
Your sister is really quite cruel to say that. Christmas isn't about who can give the better present it's about the thought that has gone into it. I can't afford much this year and have got my mum some simple jewellery to replace a necklace she really liked but broke earlier this year. I'm sure your mum will appreciate whatever you get her. Ignore your sister she is just trying to wind you up I'm sure. I'm sorry that it's got you feeling down. A virtual hug to make your feel a bit better
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• United States
20 Dec 11
I'm a strong believer in what goes around comes around... she will be sorry she was so cruel.. who knows what will happen... maybe she will have to buy new appliances for herself when they suddenly quit working. God don't like ugly. That's just how I feel.
@anweshak (32)
• India
20 Dec 11
hey Don't get upset for this reason.A precious gift is love.Love is the ultimate gift which is far better than any valuable gift.Always remember this word "I give you my love more precious than money".Your mother will always feel proud of you and study hard to fullfil their dreams.That will be the most valuable gift to your parents.. Have great winter..god bless!!
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
I agree with you, answeshak. The greatest gift you can give them is being able to show them that you have not failed them, that you grew up a matured and respectable person, and that their hard labor of getting you an education has paid off. Continue with your studies diligently and make her proud in the end. Love is not manifested by material things. Love is an emotion, hence, make her feel your love.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
20 Dec 11
Oh my I feel sad about what your sister told you. Gifts doesn't matter at all. You have bought nice gifts for your mom too. The only difference is that hers are more expensive. What's important is that you even if you don't have an offline work you still managed to give your mom a gift from your own pocket and you worked hard for it. Whereas your sister, having no job, might just get the money from her husband. No matter how small or grand both your gift will be, I am sure that your mom will appreaciate it.
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Thank you for your response, yes i know i shouldn't be sad but at the time when she told me that it just got to me, and I started to feel bad. I bought my mother gifts with my heart but my sister seems like she only cares about the price.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
20 Dec 11
that is kind of rude. giving gifts is not about competing. do not feel bad. it would be sweet if you give a love letter to your mother with your gift.
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
I agree with you my friend, ever since we were smaller she always compete with me but for me that's ridiculous because i have other goals. I want to continue my education and I like working online typing. And she never even got to college she had bad grades all the time and her easy way out of there was to marry. She's very competitive with me, she always try to show up to the world that she is better than me, but i don't mid when she does, i am myself. Thank you for your response.
@06MLam (622)
20 Dec 11
Don't blame yourselves for what you have got for your mum because you have tried your best to prepare her this present! What matters isn't the amount of money you spent, it is why you have given this present to your mum. If you are a catholic or christian, you might have heard about this in the Bible. One wealthy person has given a poor person with a lot of money while a poor woman has given all that she has to the poor. Obviously, the poor woman who has given all she has to help the others is more appreciated by god. This is quite similar to your case. Therefore, just forget what your sister has said as I think she was quite mean to have said that to you. Cheer up!
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Yes, i have heard it from the bible thanks for giving me that example it is really true.
@ckciasigurl (1718)
• Vienna, Austria
20 Dec 11
hi hazelme i think that giving a gift it is doesn't important if it is expensive or not it is important that it came from the heart, and you have a gift and we all know that giving a gift by our own hard working is much appreciated nevermind your sisster because your sisster is maybe show off.
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Although shes my sister and I love here even though she made me feel really bad, she is a show off with everyone in my family, maybe that's why she made me feel bad.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
20 Dec 11
Wow I don't know what to say! a gift is a gift its something you give because you care! the money value has nothing to do with it! I tell you what, money can buy power and status in society but no one can buy love because is not for sale!
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
I agree with you, She doesn't show my mom to much love she just buys her stuff.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
20 Dec 11
your sister is not a very nice person to say something like that. Your mother knows your situation and she knows you don't have any money. As long as you give from your heart that is all that counts.
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Yes, my mother knows my situation and she knows that it's hard for me to earn money. And i know she will appreciate my gifts because she been wanting some tennis shoes because hers are old already.
@SydneyJ (903)
• United States
19 Dec 11
The holidays are not about the material things that people buy for each other. At least you put the little money you had towards a gift for here and that should be what counts. I would say what you got for was quite a nice gift as for your sister who kind of went over the top.
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
She did went over the top, but i guessed the reason why she bought those gift was to show my mom she loves her since she never says "i love you" to her only once in a while. I feel embarrassed for even being sad.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
19 Dec 11
oh hazelme, one thing mothers do is understand...I think it would embarrass your mother if you had bought her expensive gifts, she would know your position. It is not the cost of a present it really is the thought and you know if you just give your mum special treatment that would mean so much more to your mum...
@Hazelme (649)
• United States
20 Dec 11
I agree with you Lilaclady Thanks for your response.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
3 Aug 12
My apologies for the late reply on this, but between school and health problems, I am 8 months behind on posts right now. I think your sister shouldn't say things like that. If she has a major source of income, she should be expected to get better gifts. After all, it is the thought that counts and many parents would rather receive a gift from the heart instead of from the pocket. I see no reason you should feel bad for living within your means! I hope that you have much success in your life!
• China
31 Dec 11
This is really pity , but anyway your have expressed your truly love your mum******* . Just speak to you mun and saying I love you . In the meaning time ,you also can amass enough money and prepare in advance for next time. :)
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
29 Dec 11
I think your sister has mixed up the meaning of Christmas with buying expensive gifts! People say it's the thought that counts, but I say it's your capacity to give. Your sister may be well off, and these gifts that she gave, even though expensive may have not affected her financial situation. Your gift on the other hand, has more impact as you don't have any offline income to draw from.
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
Don't feel bad, Hazelme. As the saying goes "it's the thought that counts". Being your mother, she will definitely accept anything coming from you as a daughter. She will understand. Don't compare yourself to your married sister. She may be able to buy these because she has her money and of her husband's. As long as you bought those from clean living, that's all that matters.
@globaldoc (860)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
I really think that the price of the gift is not that important to parents. It is always the thought behind, not unless the price or the amount of the gift is insultingly small. I think it is the giving, and specially giving something that the parent needs so terribly would be the most important factor in a gift to be given to a parent. Of course not unless you are one of the richest people in the world, and you give only a few cents worth of gift. That is a different story.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
21 Dec 11
Your sister was very rude. I'm sure your mother is well aware of your situation and will appreciate your gifts all the more for it.
• United States
20 Dec 11
Don't feel bad Hazelme... you have given her a gift from your heart.. this puts me in mind of the woman who gave the Lord all she had.. the Lord looked upon that as a precious gift because she gave it from her heart... your sister must have either a lot of money or a good credit card.... for her to treat you that way is unforgivable! You give those gifts to your mom and you hold your head high because you gave from your heart. Your sister needs to take some lessons in humility! Really .. this makes me mad with her for treating you that way. I think your sister is just trying to make herself look good...
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Dec 11
Giving a gift should come from the heart. it does not mattwer what the cost or expense may big or little. the expenser is not what matters most. It is what you feel for a person and how you show it to them.
@brownny (66)
• China
20 Dec 11
sorry for that but you sister couldn't say like that its also your mother and life its not competetion she were lucky to have an husband who could provide her everything you did what was according to your earning at least you did steal that money, you couldn't rob a bank , i do understand you like its so unfair but you need to be strong work hard and try to get more opportunity one day life will smile to you, be strong
• Philippines
20 Dec 11
wow you are lucky but its ok if you just only bought your mom a perfume and tennis shoes but its ok but your sister give your mother a gift and its thesame because you two is just thesame and just say your to your mom a i love u.