My world just got filped upside down

By C
@ShyBear88 (16898)
United States
December 22, 2011 5:18pm CST
So today I had an ultrasound done to see my baby. Of course I was really excited to see the baby but sadly while I was spotting over the weekend I had a miscarriage. So all of my happyiness is gone. Every heart broken I all little piecie of me died at that moment Aline with out my husband there. I manger to make it back to my car with out crying I'm trying so hard to keep things together because I still have one baby left to care for that needs me. I know I'll get over in a few days I got to be thankful for the one I have right now and later one there will be another baby it just wasn't the right time for us to be parents again.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
22 Dec 11
ShyBear88 I am so sorry to hear about your sadness. Let yourself cry. It's natures way of helping us heal and release sadness. You have a good attitude and God will see you through this time of grief. Best wishes and God Bless
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@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
I am crying I've been crying. It helps a little time will help too. I have to still be a mom I got my daughter it seems what is what I need right now in my life next to husband another time will come. I'm only 23 there is lots of time left.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
22 Dec 11
Hi Miss.. I feel sorry for you... Just don't let yourself down because of this... The Almighty didn't see it fit for you to have a baby this time.. You will have another at some better time.. Please don't get disheartened... Your other baby awaits you at home, look after her... .Take care...
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@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Of course I'm going to take care of my daughter. This is something that you just get over in a few minutes. Yeah it might not be the right time but thy doesn't make the hurt go away only time does.
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• United States
22 Dec 11
This is never easy and I know how excited you where over your new baby. Today you learned that you are the mother of an angel one that will be with you always. There is not much any one can say to make you feel better but time will heal your wounds and you can focus on your little one giving her all the love you have. Cry when ever you need to and do not let anyone make you feel bad for it. Hugs
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
22 Dec 11
That I am doing crying off and one. I got my daughter still and her being here makes it a bit easier for me and my husband.
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• United States
24 Dec 11
That is the way to look at it.When the time is right, you will try again. I'm sorry I wasn't there so you could have cried on my shoulder! I'm only a email away.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
27 Dec 11
Thank but I'm doing much better now then I was. I'm almost to a 100%.
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• United States
27 Dec 11
Glad to hear it!
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
27 Dec 11
Yep.
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@maximax8 (27048)
29 Dec 11
I am very sorry for your loss Shy Bear. It must be awful to have a miscarriage.You did so well to cope during your ultrasound. I know having bad news at a scan can be very upsetting. I hope that you have a kind, thoughtful and understanding health professional. You are right that it wasn't the correct time for you. One of my friends had a miscarriage and she was able to have two daughters a number of years later. Good luck.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Thank you it's almost been 2 weeks now. I'm honestly doing better then I was at the end of last week. Some times cry a little but overal I'm moving on my husbands moving on. We are going to talk tonight about trying for another baby. My daughter and the baby we lost were both unplanned so we wanted to toss around the idea of maybe trying for another baby sooner then we want to last year when we talked about it. It's not to replace the baby we lost but because we already kid of use to the idea of another little one and I've warmed up to having two little ones with a year a part. My daughters first birthday is next month I won't more then 12 months apart with my kids. I want a challage.
@shiesse (308)
• Canada
28 Dec 11
I am very sorry for your loss, I have been there twice and truley believe that it happens for good reason even though it is a painful experience. My first miscarriage was was my first pregnancy and I felt like I would never have the blessing of a child. Thankfully that is not the case and the way I see it is that if I did not have that miscarriage I would not have my oldest son now and everything would be different. The right time will come for you and I wish you all the best
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
28 Dec 11
Thanks buy I see it as IFC I didn't have this child I'm kind of incomplete there is a part of me and my husband missing now. Sure I'll have more kids in the future bit I will never get this one baby back. This was my second pregnancy so it makes it really hard for me cut good thing my daughter is so young and doesn't know what is going on.
@MandaLee (3695)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Dear Shy, I am terribly sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
27 Dec 11
Thank you but I'm doing much better down.
@bb_gabs (205)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Its very sad to hear that ShyBear, and you are right, you still have one baby who is alive and need most of your care, maybe, it is not yet the right time to have another baby, be strong, you will feel better soon.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Yes I know I'll feel better soon. It's better to lose a baby early on in a pregnancy then later on.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
23 Dec 11
i am so sorry for your loss. i to, had a miscarriage after 3 months and though i had a daughter who was 3 at the time, it was still quite difficult emotionally and physically. it took my body a long time to recover. be kind to yourself.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
I wasn't to far alone so recover should be really quick body wise that is. Good thing we haven't been trying to get pregnant because that would be a bit harder for the both of us as in me and my husband. It's sucks but I have my daughter still the next time when ever that may be it'll be one to stick hopefully.
@SIMPLYD (75854)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
Yes my friend, just think of it that way. The other baby is waiting for love and care so you might as well focus your attention to her , so you won't feel the loss so much. Cheer up my friend. There is still a lot of chances.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Yes well taking care o lf her and feeling the pain both I need. I got to a feel a lose to get better first. I know she probably knows something is up her mommy is all blue and eddy know and them icant help it but to cry a little.
@indi15 (883)
• India
23 Dec 11
This is very difficult to handle, but you need to be strong for your baby, he needs you. do not loose hope, keep yourself busy. hope you soon have another healthy cute baby.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
You means she needs me I have a girl not a boy. You have to cry dear I can't keep it in all of the time because then I won't be healthing I can only be as strong as my emotions will let me. When this happens no matter if you have kids or not you need to feel the pain and go through it. It's a lose that all mothers just can't push a side.
@Robyn28 (385)
• Canada
23 Dec 11
Hi ShyBear My heart goes out to you. I being a mother of one I can't imagine having that baby inside you and then it's gone. When the time is right you will have another, or try for another when you feel you are ready. The number of miscarriages is pretty high it depends on the type of job you do and different factors I think it was 1 in 3 women I think. There's groups you can join for this I know some of the churches have groups for women dealing with loss. Your not alone I have friends that this has happened to them. I have no idea if it's happened to me I bled once for 3 weeks and then it stopped and I got pregnant kind of odd. Check around your town for the support groups it will help you to talk about it with other members. I wish you happiness in the future. Robyn
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
It doest have to do with work miscarriages just happen some times. I'm a stay at home mom that is my job what I do all day has nohing to do with me lose of my child. A women's body some times naturally gets ride of a baby for Manu reasons. Some times because of a baby's illness, your hormones not being the right amount, implantation didn't take. That was the kind of miscarriage I had an implantation didn't take places so the umbilical cord never attached it's self to me. All bleeding before pregnancy is implantation your actionably pregnant before implantation but most women domt realizes it till after the implantation takes and there next period is missed most women find that implantation is a mild form of there period and don't even think of it.
@neelia_lyn (1388)
• Philippines
23 Dec 11
So sorry about that, Shybear. But I greatly admire you because you are a strong woman and that you have a positive outlook. It's really true that sad and bad things happen but what is important is to rise up again and look at the bright side of it. God bless and take care :)
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
23 Dec 11
Thank. That's me I try to think positive even when bad things happen to me. Things happen for a reason and it wasn't time for this one when the baby is ready I'll get pregnant again for now I'll just wait again till the next time.
• United States
22 Dec 11
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have no children of my own so I can only imagine what you're going through but I know something like that were to happen to me I would be devastated. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Again I'm truly sorry for your loss.
@ShyBear88 (16898)
• United States
22 Dec 11
Thank you all I can do is hug my 10 month old and be thankful to have her in my life. I'm still very young so there is time for another when the time is right.