The Bible Says "Love your enemy"...Can you really love your enemy?

Davao, Philippines
December 25, 2011 12:50am CST
One of the hardest principles laid out by our Saviour Jesus Christ when He was here on earth, is this.."Love your enemy...do good to them that hate you", or let us say to them who have done you wrong. Honestly, I doubt if I can do it myself...but it's not that impossible, either...How about you? Can you really love your enemy?
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@stringer321 (2813)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
25 Dec 11
One big rule was said by rabbi Akiva :"love your friend as you love yourself" I'm not sure where loving your enemy was written... I personally doesn't hate back people who don't like me , I try to understand where their hate comes from. If I know I can fix that problem , I might talk to them about it and maybe we can fix it. Then we can respect each other. In the salsa club , a girl never wanted to dance with me and I told her that I know many girls have their own partners for dance and not just everyone...it's ok if that's her reason. But , if she has something else , I would like to know it and maybe I can fix it.
• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
Yeah, it is written in the Bible, if you believe in the Words of the Lord Jesus Christ. It is written in the New Testament, Matthew 5:44,"...But I say unto you,love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you..." These are the words of Jesus of which I'm sure if only being followed by the people here on earth, will result to peace and lasting happiness among them regardless of their strata in life...
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• Kiryat Ata, Israel
26 Dec 11
I think this statement can lead to a bunch of peaple that will abuse other people because they won't fight back. Do you think your enemy would stop hating you if you treat him well and love him back ? Some enemies will like your attitude and stop being so hostile , some others will keep hating and treating bad. The thing is that : if the whole society encourages good behavior and sensitivity to the others , the bad guys won't do what they do , they will see it is better to be good. A society can give you back what you give the society. Rabbi akiva ment that we have to love the others like we love ourselves , so , in that way , we will care for everyone , be sensitive to them , help each other. Both sentenses make sense if everyone follows them.
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@mammots (3295)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
the Bible is very clear on what we should do to identify us as Christians and that is to love out enemy! my heart is saying that this is a big possibility but my mknd remembers everything evil that the enemy has done against me, it remembers the pain and the hurt and old wounds open up and its like it only happened yesterday...the cycle continues:( it takes a super human to love his enemy!!! and i have to confess that i am not a super human at all:(
• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
Maybe because of our pride, our self-destructive ego that we find it difficult to ask forgiveness and also to forgive completely. But the Bible is clear. The words from Jesus Christ, Himself,"Love your enemies"...Well, maybe we can forgive and love and enemy and forget the wounds and pain in the pain, and that is possible with the Grace of God. In order to achieve that, we must have to empty our hearts with pride and self-destructive ego. But that is still a gigantic task to do, only God's grace can make us subservient to do His will.
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@mammots (3295)
• Philippines
26 Dec 11
yes i have to say that i agree with you that the sin of pride is what is holding back man from loving his enemy. we are so full of pride and too much love for ourselves that we cant let go of past hurts and misgivings:(
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@damned_dle (3944)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
It also said "A tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye..." so it is confusing which to follow!
• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
You're right...even myself, I'm confused too.
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@mammots (3295)
• Philippines
26 Dec 11
before the coming of Jesus Christ everyone believed that if someone slapped you on the right cheek you must seek revenge by slapping this persons right cheek also. if someone killed a member of your family then as an act of retaliation you must also kill this mans relative as a means to seek justice...a tooth for a tooth principle was practiced.but when Jesus came into this world and preached His gospel he changed this principle into "love your enemies as you love yourself" which a lot of people found to be very hard to follow.
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@dex833 (135)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
I guess it depends of the enemy.... But in order to love your enemy you must forgive him First, To forgive him, he must ask for your forgiveness..
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@BLTLife (337)
• United States
25 Dec 11
One doesn't have to ask to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift that is given to someone. Not an idea that requires a stipulation from the other party before they can receive it.
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• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
What do you mean, that we can just forgive those who wronged us without their asking forgiveness from us? Maybe, this is true to those who wrong us unintentionally...but to those who hurt us intentionally for reasons that they alone justify, I don't think it's easy. But I'm impressed with the profoundness of the goodness in your heart...
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• Philippines
25 Dec 11
It depends on the person. Some people hold a grudge against their enemies simply because they cannot forgive and forget what has been done to them. Others are eager to do the forgive and forget part if the 'enemy' has made reparations like asking for forgiveness or prompting the two parties to bury the hatchet. There are also people who took the initiative in the forgive and forget part. Other are willing to give one element but decide to hold the other. Personally,. It's not easy to love an enemy. Like another responder said, perhaps love is too much a strong word. As people, we might consider forgiving and forgetting the trespass but we draw the line at 'loving', simply because we did experience a sense of loss or any negative feeling because of that enemy. If a person really wants to love an enemy, there is a lot to give between two parties. The source of disargeement must be totally gone and over and each party m must concentrate on the loving part and not the disagreement. I think that the only way that at least two people or parties should understand each other.
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• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
jeanneyvonne(1462), I'm impressed how you analyzed how the feelings of animosity has been nurtured in both the hearts of the offending and offended parties. You're right in there when you mentioned about the people who are humble enough to to take the initiative to ask first for forgiveness and of course forgetting too the cause of the wound. As I've mentioned in my other comments, what makes it hard to iron out conflicts between conflicting parties is the surge of Pride and self-destructive ego unwilling to vacate the hearts of human beings...
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@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
It is hard indeed to love our enemy. I find it very difficult considering that in most cases they became our enemies simply because they have done something to us or to someone close to us that makes us angry and have created a friction which leads us to consider them our enemy. So for us to love our enemy, I guess the first thing we need to do is forgive and forget what they have done to us. From there we can start the process of loving. I have learned to forgive, in fact I no longer think or plan of getting even for all of those that have done bad things to me. But loving is a different story. I still find it hard to love my enemies. But surely if ever I meet them again, rest assured that I no longer am angry, there is no longer the feeling of hatred.
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• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
Making an enemy is not what we intend, but often we're thrown into situations where our actions and motives are being misjudged, thus these people who posed themselves as our enemies do things in their act of hurting us, a way of revenge...and what makes it worse, they exceed in their self-vindicating revenge. Thus it irks us to the point of hating them. This is also true vice-versa, we also have the capacity of misjudging the motives and actions of our fellowmen. So...the best way is to avoid making an enemy.
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• Indonesia
25 Dec 11
This is hardest thing....you should be able to control yourself. Must know who you really are. I'm a forgiving man, but not easy to love the enemy. Sometimes feel afraid of being stabbed in the back.
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• Davao, Philippines
26 Dec 11
You've got a point there, my friend. It's really hard to forgive, much more to love an enemy...Oftentimes, it's not really an act of retaliation or revenge but just a way of avoiding having an encounter with the person who hurt us, afraid that in being forgiving and close with him or her again, we're just giving them chance to stab us in the back...
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• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Loving Your Enemy is one of the Will of God. In order to love your enemy, it doesn't mean you knock on his/her door and say I love you, hug him and fill him with kisses, it's not like that. Loving your enemy is when you don't give him hatred, instead you give back compassion and love to him/her. Second of it, pray for your enemy so that he/she will be enlighten and peace will come to his heart . :) If they throw hatred on you, throw love to them . If they throw evil things to you, show them goodness and compassion . :) "Love your enemy, do good to them that hate you, that persecute you, and despitefully use you, and say all manner of eveil against you, Falsely For my sake . :)
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@lovetmyou (111)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
I know that enemies are part of life and if one wants to great things, they are usually a byproduct. I also know that some enemies are put in our life to move us away from a certain path to another destiny. Most of the time I thank my enemies for their reactions toward me, it makes me a better person. For me, the greatest joy is when you show love to anyone who have done you wrong. Yes! I can really love my enemies, but I will not forget it. Why? Because I don't want it to happen to me again.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 11
obedience is an act of sacrifice. we obey not because we love what we are doing but we love our MASTER. it doesn't matter if his task is hard or easy.. what important is.. we obey. loving our enemy is hard. because when you love your enemy it only mean you surrender your pride and accept all the insults from your enemy.
@min8esign (168)
• Indonesia
26 Dec 11
I think it is a phrase that teach us to always be able to forgive the mistakes of others for what he has done to us. but, it's really easy to say but hard to do.
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@kaichoukebz (1190)
• Philippines
25 Dec 11
Honestly, practically speaking, I can't. It needs a long process and time for me. I can forget the person but I think, I cannot forget the fault he/she may commit to me. Anyway, I am still a person and I know also how to forgive but in the right time.
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25 Dec 11
the smae message i m trying to indulge in my life but really its too difficult .............so ill help to follow u this quotation plsssssssss read the secret by rhonda bryne it will help u a lot ............
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• India
25 Dec 11
H mercedes2053 if you personally ask me I think I really cant love my enemy.. It is not possible in today's world to keep doing good to a person when he is plotting your downfall be it in your workplace/ personal life/ anywhere else.. If you do this you will be considered gullible and soon be trampled upon. The best I can do is not to hate them back , but try to ignore them and not stoop down to their standards.. Cheers :)
@ajithlal (14564)
• India
31 Mar 12
Jesus Christ says that if we love our enemies and gave them food and then it is like putting fire on their head. I think when we love our enemies and forgive their sin God will forgive our sins. I think love and happiness is for us and revenge is for God. I think it is better for God to judge who is right and wrong rather than us to hate our enemies and punish them.