Still in Love or Just a Thought

Philippines
December 27, 2011 8:21am CST
i am already married, but keep on thinking about an old love. that is a love with nothing in return, a one way perhaps. Can i get over it? Its always on my mind... am i already feel nothing about it? is it just a thought? can you help my lady girlfriend for this questions?
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12 responses
@chiyosan (30000)
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
i think that is just a thought in your head... you are not sure of what you would want to have, perhaps there is a confusion as to what you could possible have with this person who is not your husband...
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• Philippines
27 Dec 11
a thought that would always be a thought coz it may not happen. and really saw a smile on her face... might be a great chance of love ahead is there.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
Hi mmgonzales, I think it's just a thought. It's normal for us to think about our former BF/GF. Even the past suitors we have. Sometimes we also wonder what if we end up with the person, what kind of life we will have with them. But then we'll realized we are married or we already happy with our BF/GF. So you shouldn't worry about it - if you're married and you love your husband it just means you're only curious about that person.
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
wow. i like the last line, maybe it is the curiosity that matters and all the ifs and buts that it has already not with the person. But Love is a thing that maybe already finished. anyhow all is being move on since marriage was already there..
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
True. You have moved on already and just curious about what has happened with the person. If I were search for him in Social sites. That will stop you from wondering how or where he was now. I've did that before and when I found out that the guy seems to be happily married and have kids already, I stopped wondering how he was.
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
Actually as far as i know. the man was already married with one kid. he is not on any social sites but one of my dear friend who happen to be his wife was there. they are happy and my friend is always happy.. its just a thought... and it wouldn't last..
@airkulet (2705)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Hi MM tell your friend to forget about her fast and work on her present relationship. She already married and still on one roof there is no reason for her to think about her fast, and besides just the thought of it is already a sin, you could advice her to stop her feelings for others
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
She is currently happy with her new relationship. Its just that it comes to a Point that a sudden thought came and the person Was with that thought again. Maybe she already well adjusted to her current relationship.
• India
28 Dec 11
If the person who you're thinking about is your first love...then it will be a little difficult to forget about him. Cause the first love is always hard to forget. People say that you are a very lucky person if you get to marry your first love. In other words be with your first love forever. If you're married to someone else its best that you forge about the past as you will be putting you marriage in jeopardy. Don't try to spoil your marriage and try o concentrate on making you marriage a successful one. You don't even know if that person about whom you are thinking about is thinking about you and even knows that you are thinking about him. Try concentrating on some hobby or do some house hold chores so that your mind gets diverted...
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Very well said my dear friend. But according to my friend the person She marry is her first love. The 2nd one was the past and the one with whom she just think... Her story for the two men is complicated..and i cant tell what happen.... Maybe a thought can be label as inlove for some but not for all.
@squallming (1776)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 11
Well, thinking back the past doesn't mean that you are still in love with that person. I loved four girls so far although this is the only time that the girl responded my love. Sometimes I will still recall the other three girls before this one but I'm sure that it is just a memory of our feeling. It does not mean more than that if you don't want it to. You are total control of feeling and belief. Try not to convince yourself to wrong thing because you can change how you feel.
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Yey to that squallming. Because you find yourself to the one that will love you Most... I will tell to my lady girlfriend to be much more aware of her feelings and belief..
@lajonez (478)
• Poland
27 Dec 11
I think if you can't stop thinking about this person it might be 2 things... 1: you're still in love 2: you just had a great time with that person and now when your life changed you might want to go back to other time, but if this is the case with time it will pass, when you'll get costumb to new circumstances.
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
I will tell that to my lady girlfriend lajones..so that she will know if she's still in love or cant remove him from her mind because of good memories. thanks a lot.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
27 Dec 11
I think it can be hard to get over a love that has ment a lot to us. Even if we may be married. The good thing though is to keep on growing in love to your husband. Strengthening your relationship. And that can reaffirm to you that you made the right decision.
• Philippines
27 Dec 11
I am a always at mere witness how a love was keep on growing with her. honestly her husband is her first love. a crush that starts from the beginning of friendship. and after they made it through and now being inlove to each other day by day..
@fsuma86 (364)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Hello there! I feel for you! I also felt that before but the song Stitches and Burns helped me a lot. Listen to that song and try to feel the difference. Thanks!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
28 Dec 11
I saw this horse the other day when I was taking my daughter to her dad's. It was leaning against the barbed wire fence so strongly that it looked like the fence would cut him. He was trying to get the grass over there when there was the same grass right there at his feet. It made me think of the old saying "The grass always seems greener on the other side." I think that the biggest thing that has us hold on to things like that is the fact that we glamorize what it could have been like in our minds. The truth is that it probably wouldn't be anything what we thought once we were there. I try to appreciate the here and now. The things that I have in my hand..the things I could lose in an instant. it helps to push the "what ifs" away if I focus on the life I have and the things I want to accomplish.
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Well,that is only on your mind just your mind keep thinking about the good experiences in your life.. Just happy moment for you so you do not have negative thoughts..well,you are married already so you just inlove to the partner of your now..
@vandana7 (66120)
• India
27 Dec 11
Our mind plays strange games. It tells us we are worth everything and we believe it to be so. We find it hard to accept that others dont like us or want us. Especially if they wanted us at one time. One sided matter is essentially mind play. So the sooner we return to reality the better off we are. Because we might end up doing or saying something that is completely irrelevant and can lead to unnecessary misunderstanding. Hope your lady girlfrind realizes that.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
27 Dec 11
Hi, mmgonzales and I'm not a lady girlfriend . I don't think you are in love or anything, it is just nostalgia. When you have a family, you tend to think about the past.