Do u get Offense when someone ask your Salary?

@ifa225 (11098)
Indonesia
December 27, 2011 7:31pm CST
if my family ask me about how much my salary, i don't mind at all. but if my friend ask me about it, i feel a little offense. what do they mean with asking that? only for curiosity or for comparing? how about you?
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29 responses
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
If someone ask me of my salary I usually tell them that it confidential especially with my workmates. But I tell them nicely so them will not offend that I didn't trust them and it is not right to tell them. I know they will understand it.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 12
The finance staff know every person salary and i really hate them when they do gossiping about it compare the money and th job that we do dont they have anything else to do? * sigh*
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
3 Feb 12
wow..maybe thats their another job..tell and share about their friend salary
@Lhenni (1246)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Like you, I don't mind if the person asking me is somewhat close to me... but if he is not, I won't feel offended but rather irritated *sigh! And what the hell he wants to know?! It's none of their business *LOL!
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 12
Maybe if someone ask.m e that question i would bette r to say " no comment".....lol it is irritating for me to hear that question it feels like she/he wants to know someone's privacy
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
I don't mind at all, no big deal also if they ask me how much is my salary probably I am open to that question because maybe if a friend ask me that he or she maybe able to tell me what company is there to offer me higher salary just in case. But if a stranger ask me that question, then that will be so weird and strange and I will refrain from answering too, not unless that is the interviewer from a hiring company who is asking me.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 12
Oww.i shoukd have that possibility in my mind...lol who knows in that way i can get a better job and a better salary too.. Thanks a lot for enlighten me...
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
28 Dec 11
LOL... They say a gentleman would never ask a woman her age and a man his salary... It is kind of discourteous.. Personally I don't mind if my dear and near ones asked me how much I make.. They are concerned so they ask. Sometimes somone from my field of work asks. It is only to know whether he is working with the right company or not. I hate it when I detect an unfriendly tone revealing feelings like malaciousness or jealousy or mocking... This is a delicate thing and we don't like to mix negative feelings with it...
@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
There are some questions that are considered unethical. One of those is asking for the age and another concerns the amount of salary that one receives. These are information that should remain private and should never be asked even in curiosity. Many people become unethical or can we simply say prying into others people's lives. There are always information on ourselves that we choose to remain private and that is your right. If others ask, simply smile and walk away. You do not have to entertain these kinds of questions if you do not want to. It is your right and privilege.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 12
I dont know why some of friends push me to answer that though i answer them with a funny answer they r still curious kind of rude to me i i said that is none if her business but next time i will just simply smile and walk away
@boylopez (382)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
Even in my family asking about my salary i get offense. They must accept what i have in my envelope. Thanks.
@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 11
Hi ifa225, it's okay for my family as well as my friends to know how much my salary is But it's rather weird if someone whom we are not familiar with ask me the same question. Especially those idling people who like to gossip about May be they like to make comparison among people they know to pass time lol... Happy posting
@Queen_11 (308)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
I take no offense when asked with that question. I simply answer that it is very confidential along with a grin and then I return the question to that person. It actually is confidential in my office and I may get a memo from the HR if they found out that I shared this information. Knowing the salary of someone can cause professional jealousy or office politics. Sometimes, I give a lower figure just to satisfy the curiosity of that person :)
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
28 Dec 11
My dad has asked me that alot and really it isn't his busniess! It is not anyone's business but mine! When my dad has asked I change the question or just walk away. He found out what my brother's make and told that in front of the whole family about which one made more then the other! He embarressed my brothers! My dad is a jerk to begin! I know without even asking I make the lowest amount of money of my siblings! I do becasue of the job career I am in and I am old the only single sibling! So never ask me because I have told friends off when they have asked! It is my business,not yours!
@polaris77 (2021)
• Bacau, Romania
28 Dec 11
I don't mind being asked about my salary because I don't work in a bank or in another firm or institution in which I would have to keep it confidential,so if a friend or someone from the family asks me about it I have no problem answering and telling the truth;I guess that if I had a high salary I would be more cautious and I would probably change the subject if someone asked me about it because I wouldn't want them to feel envy,but for the moment it isn't the case.
@urbandekay (18314)
28 Dec 11
No, not at all, what reason is there to take offence? You know the best manners are not to never give offence but never to take it all the best urban
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
28 Dec 11
I tend to really get a bit agitated. It is almost like people are being a bit too nosy for their own good. Plus, I think that a lot of people judge others completely by the amount of money that they make. Like it or not, that is just the way it is going to be a lot of time but there are going to really be people who are going to just fish for that information. Often times, salary can be a real deal breaker, for relationships. Relationships that you may not really personally want to say the very least, as if people are going to judge you on your salary, then it might be time to start getting out of it. It is a personal question and a rude one at that, but there are rude people out there who judge people on their money. It's been that way and I doubt it's going to change any time soon.
@airkulet (2705)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
I think for comparing also, I also do that asking for someones rate out of curiosity and for estimating how he or she can able to pay his debt. But I seldom answer if someone's ask me to
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
I don't get offended but sometimes, I do get annoyed. I usually answer the question by mentioning a ballpark figure. People ask how much I earn as some way of small talks but I personally feel that it should not be that way because like others said, it is somewhat personal. I feel that they are judging me by the range of my income. It is somewhat discrimatory, in my opinion.
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
This the question that I rather not to answer.It's a private matter to me.usually you can hear this question to those people who is not working or those people who are not confident with themselves.Even in my company whom I work we don't really ask this question,what we always ask is,how much tax did you pay for this cut off not with the salary.so annoying when I hear this question.I always reply them with word SECRET.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 11
Cause I was one of a staff in the company that I have worked. My salary have to keep secret from others at that company.
@youless (84705)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Dec 11
I will not say it is offensive if others ask the question about my salary. I just feel that it is rude and impolite. I will somewhat mind it because it is a very personal question. If they are curious about my salary, at first they should tell me their salaries and it is fair for me to tell them mine. So usually I just tell them my salary is not high to pass this subject. If they insist to know it and ask me whether your salary is up to ___, then I will tell them yes and that's all. I love China
@squallming (1778)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 11
Well, some people does find such question offensive. However, I won't get offended no matter it's my family, friends or some stranger that ask this question to me. I would closely examine the way the ask the question to find out whether they have bad intention or anything when asking such question. Some people may purely want to know about standard salary for certain jobs. So it really depends.
@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
I don't. I think it is pretty normal. People does things and asks things even if they do not have bad intentions against it. :( If a question asked offended me, i would not be answering the question and that's it.
@sjvg1976 (12671)
• Delhi, India
28 Dec 11
Hello ifa225, Yes certainly it looks a bit awkward when someone ask me my salary and compare it with them or someone else.I know i am getting salary lesser than many and higher than few which sometime brings frustration in my mind when someone asks my salary.