No Sense of Accomplishment

@boyuancy (1709)
India
December 28, 2011 10:46am CST
I'm a 20 year old guy and have some ambitions. I can say in short that I live for those ambitions, if they wouldn't have been there, I wouldn't have been here. When I think about them, I believe that everything will turn out to be better and I will lead a happy and better life after what I've achieved. But sometimes, it makes me think that's it's too late and I've lost everything. There's no hope for improvement and there's no reason for me to try. It is happening more often these days. What should I do?
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11 responses
@squallming (1776)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 11
Hi there, I can really understand how you feel because I feel the same too. I'm almost 24 but still working on a degree. Come to think of it I have nothing at the moment and every decision I make in the future will definitely change my course of life, to better or worse. Anyway, just work hard on everything you do and at the same time plan something in the future.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
29 Dec 11
Someone who can connect with. All my friends who cleared school with me are already doing their internships while I'm still stuck in college. They have their degrees from huge colleges, while me, who's paying almost 10 times the fee, have nothing on my hands. And it is killing me and pressurizing me even more.
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• India
29 Dec 11
i thing you are in some wrong way, do not ever leave hope in your life, however i a little hope gives rise to and oppurtunity. never tern them down other wise you will have to pay a great debts for it. grab every oppurtunity which comes into your life and make most of it. life is what you makes it.i am too like you as i am 21 years of age.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
29 Dec 11
Nice, someone who can relate to. I will grab every opportunity and create new ones if I have to. I cannot afford to let go of any. Thanks for the answer.
• India
30 Dec 11
answering here in my lot is the only reason for me. i want to make all those discussion crystal clear so that mylots will provide me more earning, any way do you know the otherways of increase our earnings here in mylot.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
30 Dec 11
One way is to share photos and stuff. Another is to do tasks. Another is to comment on responses. Another one is to . . .
@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 11
I don't know what your ambitions are. If you are now 20, if your ambitions are made a very long time ago to make you feel that "it's too late" now to achieve them now, then you must have known what you wanted to do since you were just 14 or 15. My friend, to know what one wants to do in life at 14 is amazing! I was just a nowhere kid when I was 14, just lived for today and never thought about tomorrow, let alone thinking about my life's path. You are a smart guy. I would have liked to be like you. It took me more than 20 years to make what I am today. Not as good as what I have wanted but not too bad either. It is never too late to do anything. Even if you have really lost everything, there is still time to make it back. Don't give up your dream. Br a fighter. Do it the best way you can. Persistence will pay off for you one day.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
29 Dec 11
I was also a nowhere kid and that kills me, to know that Bill Gates knew what he wanted to do at 12 and Warren Buffet even earlier. I am not that smart, just the feeling of being left behind, you want to push yourself beyond the limits and grow bigger than you ever could've been.
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@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 11
Sorry. I didn't know you are in the same league as Gates and Buffet. I was thinking from the angle of just a mere normal 20 year old's. I am greatly moved by the high standard of your struggles. It is really something that can only be handled by the professionals. But I do admire your efforts in pushing yourself beyond the limits. Yes, I will be proud if my son thinks that way.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
30 Dec 11
I so wish I was in the same league as Gates and Buffet. I want to share with you a simple piece of information: Do you know about a savant? A Savant is someone who highly excels in one area. And do you know that most savants are people suffering from Autism? This is because their brain is able to concentrate on one task, without having the knowledge of the wordly feelings and emotions. Though I don't have autism, I don't have too much knowledge of the world. I can't even properly interact with others and that has somehow forced me to live with myself. Now, that lack of knowledge makes me extremely stubborn, if I want something, I want it, come what may. So I'm extremely stubborn about my ambitions, and I want it. I have made my sacrifices and I want my results. I will make more sacrifices if I have to.
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@vandana7 (66851)
• India
28 Dec 11
If I compare me to you, I think at 20 I was knee deep in financial mess..and I certainly didnt have a computer to earn online. :) Come on kiddo, if I made it by 45 or so, you will do it faster. Cheer up. And be prepared to slog from now till 40.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
28 Dec 11
Whoa, that's a little too much slogging for me. When will I start living my life then? At 140?
@vandana7 (66851)
• India
28 Dec 11
Oh kiddo.. life begins at 40. You develop tastes and you are more balanced in your approach. Trust me, that is true. But twenty years of slogging is a must in everybody's life. Its a different issue that some struggle early on in life to save for their retirement while others struggle in old age.
• India
29 Dec 11
That's very sound advice vandana to boyuancy. Probably buoyancy has misspelled such an euphoric user name and is not getting into the right spirit! More seriously, seems to lack motivation and should do well to develop good habits to stay inspired.
@tabatha7 (189)
4 Jan 12
You are so young! You have plenty of time to accomplish your goals. My advice would be to go to school or get the training you need to accomplish these goals. Go to a career counselor. Do what you need to get "put the dream into action." However, there are other things to live for as well. Please don't get so caught up in your goals & dreams that if something doesn't work out, you will lose all hope. Do you have friends? family? They should be held dearly. Develop hobbies too, perhaps ones that are related to your goals. Like if your goal is to become a professional singer, you could take singing lessons, listen to music, write poetry/lyrics/music, etc. Goals should be important, but they shouldn't be everything. You can do this! Have faith. :)
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
4 Jan 12
I have a family but I feel no longer attached to them and want to go my own way. I have my friends but not the ones I need at this point in time. I am extremely caught up with my goals,I am not enjoying a single moment of the precious life that I have with me. I have already wasted the most important phase of my life, the teenage.
• United States
29 Dec 11
too late at 20!?come on..you have your whole life ahead of you. i know people at 40 who still don't know what they want out of life,so to have ambitions in general is a real good start. a little floating time before knuckling down is good..because you don't want to end up middle age and not breathed a little bit after school and all that.just believe in yourself and that's 75% of it right there.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
30 Dec 11
Well, I haven't 'breathed' after school at all. It has been more then 6 years now that I'm living my life out of a box. And my mind tells me that it is a small sacrifice I'm making for something big to come my way. Thanks for your answer.
• India
29 Dec 11
Hey boyuancy: you have a long way to go in life before concluding that you have not been able to fulfill your ambitions. You seem to be prejudging events even before they happened. Possible that there are some perceptions you carried and you are finding that actual outcomes don't match them. But this stage of life is for focusing on enabling yourself with the best possible education & training. If your disappointment is related to it, don't lose heart: education is just an enabler. Future life will show you ways in which you will succeed in your own way. Cheer up dude and indulge in something that helps you stay inspired.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
30 Dec 11
You are right, I mean I am not prejudging events, I fear that it will be too late and I will be left with nothing before I reach where I am supposed to.
@tatzkie23 (773)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
hey there.. 20 is young enough to know a lot of things in life. Sometimes Feeling sad and down or discouraged are natural human emotions. They're reactions to the hassle and hurdles of life. We all feel this way sometimes. I can see that it's not yet the end for you. You still have a lot of time to figure your life. You said you believe that everything will turn out to be better and it will lead you to a happy life, well you just have to stick with that. Think more positive.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
30 Dec 11
Yes you are right, I will try to be positive and believe that things will work out for me. Thanks for your reply tatzkie.
@rhan13 (3)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
you are still young and it is too early to lose hope, strive harder to realize your ambitions and don't just sit and dream instead... ora et labora (pray and work) When I was at your age I thought that it is new adventure in life and many undertakings that will come that I must overcome. Be optimistic.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
30 Dec 11
I am optimistic, and I will strive harder. It is just that, it kills me to see my peers already achieving most of what I wanted to at a very early age and me not having able to do that.
@kissylyn (25)
29 Dec 11
Were the same, I am also a 20 year old girl and these days I think I am a failure although I achieve what I am expected to achieve. But there is a certain point that I can't get a job, which for me is a failure. So depress and all. But Luckily,my parents are there keeping my spirit alive saying "Your still young, you can achieve what your heart's desire". And so, I keep on trying..Praying and not losing hope. Just pray if you believe in God, don't lose hope. Be strong! Because I believe that we can achieve more. Godspeed!
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
29 Dec 11
"I am also a 20 year old girl" . . . Well I'm a 20 year old guy. Well, I'm mostly speaking of the long run, but your POV suits too. Thanks you.
@Bellapop (1281)
28 Dec 11
Oh goodness, please don't think like this - you are only 20 and still a 'baby' - you have so much time ahead of you - you don't know what people would give to be still 30 or 40 years old, being 20 - you have the world in your hands. What matters is what you do with your time and that does not mean sitting around moping about how 'old' you are and what you haven't achieved - get up and start!! :)
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
29 Dec 11
Thanks a lot Bellapop, one member calls me a kiddo and another calls me a baby. Today's my day I guess. I should really be more careful before putting up my age in my posts.