Without trust

By C
@ShyBear88 (17062)
United States
December 28, 2011 2:04pm CST
Do you think a relationship can survive without trust? Personally I don't think a relationship will last with out trust between you and the person you are with. Then all your thinking about all day long is what are they doing, who are they with?
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10 responses
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
28 Dec 11
ShyBear88 ..I agree with you..and I believe trust is essential in all relationships. Without trust there is just too much second guessing and can ruin a relationship..
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
28 Dec 11
One more thing...it is especially difficult when it comes to ones children. They break trusts and yet somehow parents always have to find a way to forgive and move on and hope to teach them better behavior in the future...
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Well we aren't talking about kids right now so they are kind of out of the question. But yes trust is important in all forms of relationship and some kind of trust has to be there with thunderstanding of what is or isn't okay.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
29 Dec 11
ShyBear88 ..I apologize if you were unhappy that I went slightly off topic...you have a few years yet until you have to think about my point...
• United States
29 Dec 11
It all depends on what type of relationship you want. You and Hubby Are friends And lovers and parents. You Have to trust each other. But.. if You Know you will not trust a person going in, it Still could last. It just wouldn't be as intimate. You know my vision of marriage For me. In that type of relationship There is an apathy and A ingrained mistrust All the time. But it could last. Would it be happy or fulfilling , no But it could last.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
It doesn't depend on the type of the relationship weather ts open or not or how you meet and got together. If you can't trust that person your not going to stay together for a long time. Either your going to worry about what thy are doing and that they are doing something that would break your trust or they will worry about the same thing. I know you domt have the same type o relationship as me and my hubby but you do trust the guy your with isn't going to hurt you. I don't think you would be friends or anything if you didn't trust him to a certain level.
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• United States
30 Dec 11
My guy and I are best friends and lovers. We will Never be parents or husband or wife but the connect is deep. And yes I trust him with my life. But with that said , I still could marry another and have no connection what so ever. And I wouldn't trust him. But I wouldn't worry about what he was doing, I wouldn't care. He is a husband, I wouldn't care about him Or trust him!
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
30 Dec 11
You would care if he is the one paying for everything and then all of a sun den it's all gone you have nothing at all and out on the street no where to go then it would matter. You have to have some form of trust or you wouldn't be with them weather you love them or not you have to trust the people around you as well even at a job you trust that they will do there part and you will do your part if neither do it then there is firction.
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@swissheart (6275)
• Romania
29 Dec 11
It's obvious it couldn't survive without thurst. it's the key to a healthy normal relationship. of course the other person must deserve you thrusting him. because if he is decieving...and a liar....this would mean the end of the relationship
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Trust isn't the key but it's important like any mother things in a relationship. Commuincation and other aspects like trust are needed as well. But trust much be there to make it last and help keep it going.
@lovedude (4456)
• India
29 Dec 11
Nops..everything is depends upon trust.. without trust you can't continue in relation.. even though you can go but it's not permanent it's either because for some work or some selfishness of either side..
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Yep something will cause that couple to give up and slplit.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Dec 11
I agree with everyone else, you need to have trust in a relationship. If you dont trust your partner how can the relationship be healthy. You would always be unsure of them and doubt would be there. It wouldnt be happy.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
Oh yeah never good not trust your partner it will be over as quick as it started especially if the one person that can't trust iscalling and texing or doing something all day long to check up on you. That would be annoying.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
hello, For me, without a trust in relationship wont last at all because it means that if you did not trust your boy/girlfriend then you are not trusting yourself either. You should give your boy/girlfriend a break when you are not with him in that way you will miss each other. right?
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
What does trusting yourself have to do with trusting your partner? You don't have to trust yourself that your not going to do anything to put that relationship at risk. There is no breaks in a relationship yes you womt be together every day but that's not a break that is time to yourself or time with others. No matter what are are doing that person is going to trust that you doing the right thing even though thy are not around. With out trust that person is always wondering what is going on.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
yes,i agree. If we don't give our trust in our partner there will always be dispute in your relationship. We will always think that our partner is doing something that we don't like and its not good in a relationship. Trust in one of the best element of a good and happy relationship..
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
It's not the element to a relationship it's and important one as well as some other things. Trust isn't the only one but it's important to have that trust of your partner and for then to give that trust back to you. Because with out it like you said you will be assuming they are Doug all kind of things behind your back.
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
28 Dec 11
That sorta goes without saing, doesn't it? I believe any type of relationship that means anything has to have some degree of trust, weather it's a relationship between siblings, business partners, parents & kids, friends, etc, etc... Trust is one of the key factors that make any relationship work...
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
29 Dec 11
It's not the olny reason but it is a big factor that you must have between to people. Your not going to trust someone right off the bat that is something gained over a period of time but if you never have some form of trust then it won't work nor last very long.
@kay2aT (73)
28 Dec 11
Trust is very very important! Once someone has broken that trust, you can never really trust them again. As hard as you might try to trust them again, it will always be in the back of your mind. It's possible that the relationship might continue, but it will never be one with trust in it. And when you've lost that trust in a person that you love, it destroys that love also. Can a relationship survive without trust? That's a key word there, 'survive'... a relationship needs to 'thrive'... not just 'survive'...... If you can walk away, do it. If you want a relationship where you can trust someone, then get out of that one and go find someone else. If you want a relationship where you can have the kind of love that you long for and deserve, then get out of this one, because a relationship without trust can not have true love in it either. Because if this person broke the trust, then they didn't love you in the first place, not the kind of love that is forever. I believe if a person breaks the trust once, then they are very very likely to break it again. Because they just don't care enough. Save yourself for someone who is worthy of having you in their life! Because you are worth so much more! :)
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
28 Dec 11
That is a very good advise for the youngest out there in live. That is so right I you want a good healthy relationship that last a long time you need to trust the person your with and love them like they are the only person in the world. There are going to be other important things in a relationship but trust is one of those bug key things to a long ladtig relationship.
• Jacksonville, Florida
28 Dec 11
I agree with you. A real relationship cannot survive without trust for the reasons you mentioned. It wouldnt be a healthy relationship and it wouldnt last very long thats for sure.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
28 Dec 11
Yep trust is one of those things that has to be in a relationship one of those key iteams in a relationship. There is more then just trust that you need but if you feel that you can't trust the person your with then your always wounded what if this or that. I know I cam be home all day and trust my husband isn't doing anything to hurt our relationship.