Mad then defend...

situation like these are difficult to handel, i too some time fall into the same situation, and two of my best friends are fighting for some reason and the moment they turned to me i felt disghust because among them they put a uestion that nizam who is correct me & me and both for me are same, and that question is difficult to interpret i took the one side and others started yelling at me....hell..

LOL, that made me chuckle. I can be one of those people who complain to a friend about the hubby and then when they say something negative, I then start defending him. I also have had friends that have vented and then turn around and defend the person they were complaining about. LOL, I think it is in our nature. What do you think.

Yes....my boss is that way! It's okay for her to talk about others but when you say something she defends who you are complaining about! Of course I feel like when I say black she says white etc.....no pleasing that woman!

I think it's that they've disagreed with what you've said rather than instantly jumping over to defend the person they were mad at. I hate it when people ask for your opinion then when you give it, they jump down your throat. Why ask if they don't want to hear it? I'm wondering if they are seeking collaborators rather than third-party opinions.

Yes, and i think it is normal. Even though you are mad at a person you still care about them and care about the way they are seen by others. I certainly would be defensive. I think it is normal. It does seem odd though doesn't it? But such is the psche of most people.

simply, how peoples creates idiotic situation. i mean they are fighting with other person and they are for opinion and all of the sudden when you favours or oppose them they starts barking at you, yes it did happens with me lots of time,in schools, in collage and now in office. in offices the situation sometimes goes from bad to worse.and sometimes it gets even worser they it can becomes yours job threatening as one of the employed made a serious nod of complaing to the boss.

Yes! I have had that happen and seen it happen so many times! And it seems to happen a whole lot when it is a spouse/significant other talking about their other half. They complain to high heaven, but if we say what we think they turn around and defend them and get mad at us in the process.

Yes that has happened to me, and I'm starting to realize that it's always better to keep my opinions very neutral when being included in a discussion with family or friends, so I don't offended either side. though I'm not gonna lie sometimes it's really heard not to share my brutally honest opinion because I'm normally a brutally honest person so it's not easy for me to reel my completely honest opinion in and be neutral instead but believe me it's best But like I said sometimes it's best not to choose sides or give opinions that are one sided neutral is the way to go, and there is an art to being neutral and giving opinions to friends and family without offending either side lol I'm becoming much better at it thank goodness! because I don't like being pulled into drama, and then being turned against after sharing my honest feelings on an issue, and left hurt and confused emotionally in the wake of some conversation that I didn't ask to be apart of in the first place Not a situation I want to be put in so keeping a neutral opinion has become my way of dealing with awkward conversations, and situations like that. Just don't ask me to be completely honest because I WILL LOL.

I gave up giving my opinion and now i try to keep myself to myself, as that way people do not ask my opinion and i dont have to put up with people that i know are two faced to their other friends.I try to take a back seat when people are going on about other people, as i do not want to really know.

It happens to me sometimes, when i'm mad on my sister and i'm asking him about what he is thinking about this what she did, and i might even call her stupid but if he'll go too foreward with his words then i'm defending my sister ;) I really think it might happen to everyone when is about people we love...

Yep that has happened to me. I should have just held my breath, or just skipped that discussion. It’s easy to get pulled into people’s lives and then when you learn the dynamics of their relationship, you want to just scream. I mean why complain if you don’t want to hear what they people have to say? We don’t have to be right, but we might have some insight to the problem and the op doesn’t want to even consider what we say.