Night wants me to get back my exgirlfriend...Day wants me to hate her

@narnia007 (1051)
India
December 30, 2011 12:00pm CST
I broke up with my girlfriend about 1 year ago.It took a long time to really accept that she was not worth my love and to leave her.But still,at night ,I have thoughts about her and all my thoughts are such that I can forgive her for whatever she had done to me and should get her back and love her as before.But when I get up in the morning,I have only hate on her.My brain brings me all the things she had done to me to hurt me and she is not worth my love and I should seek a gal who is worth my love. How come there is extremities in one day from totally forgiving her mistakes and loving her to absolutely hating her.I say that at night only my heart works seeking the love.At day time,my brain works logically and over rides my hearts emotional feelings..But which one is correct.It's like if she talks to me for coming back-at night I would forgive her and accept her...But if she talks in the day,I would kick her out for the things she had done..... Have you guys felt like this...What do you say about this???
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@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
30 Dec 11
It sounds like, and in a way, this is really understandable, that you are just missing having someone in your bed at night. Me and my girlfriend are not apart, but she does do some things that sometimes make me feel that this was a mistake, but at night, when she is cuddling up with me, I can forgive her, and this makes it all worth it. But basically, if during the day, all you can think of is the bad things and how much you hate her, I say stay away. It might take awhile, but eventually, you'll find someone that you will love both day and night.
• United States
2 Jan 12
Well stated!
• United States
2 Jan 12
I've never personally experienced the night/day thing you described, but I think it's normal to have a love/hate relationship of someone who was very important in your life. Night probably makes you feel this way because you have a bit more time to think unlike you probably do during the day. If you broke up with her, it was probably for good reason, so you most likely made the right decision. Someone else is out there waiting for you, and they will appreciate you. Best wishes to you.
31 Dec 11
I never had a boyfriend so I don't know how do you fell. But,I think that you have to find another person who will love you most that your ex girlfriend. If you only think at the past, you will be with anyone who can help you in the difficult moments.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
31 Dec 11
Well, love yourself more then everything and dye for something that worth to be live with.
• India
30 Dec 11
Its quite natural to feel like that... I can say it because I have felt the same way before. Time heals everything and I have forgotten about her completely. She wa not worth my love. Actually she never deserved my love. If you really love her and want her back and forget all that she has done to you... Don't hesitate... Just give her a call. If you cant do that... Just stop thinking about her and let her go. Divert your thoughts to something else... like study or start a hobby that will keep you busy. I you feel lonely start dating again... I'm sure you will find a perfect girlfriend for you.
• Jacksonville, Florida
30 Dec 11
Its normal to miss her more at night because your time and mind are not occupied as much. I would say find something to do at night to occupy your time and mind more. Im sure its hard and I hope it gets easier for you soon!