How do you feel about parent's who have double standards?

United States
January 1, 2012 11:06pm CST
I think that as parents we shouldn't have double standards. That it's important for us to mean what we say. And for our children to know that we live by what we say as well. I think that this will give them more stability as well. I also feel that children who are raised this way will have more respect for their parents. How do you feel about double standards?
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@BLTLife (337)
• United States
2 Jan 12
"Do as I say, not as I do."
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• United States
5 Jan 12
Yes that is a perfect example of a double standard. I think that when parents say these things to their children, they are really setting themselves up for trouble. Children then grow up confused not really knowing what they should be doing. If parents want their children to respect them then they should be saying " do as I do and as I say."-with of course the proper example set by their parents.
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
3 Jan 12
Yeah parents who have double standards, saying one thing, and doing another, they are going to really be sending mixed messages to their children. Children do learn the vast majority of their habits from their parents, but really there are going to be a lot of times where they are going to really get the good habits from the bad and when children see something different from what is being said, it really does send a rather bad mixed message. It is rather bad with those kind of double standards, as it only is going to cause children to mistrust what they are being told and rebel a lot of the time. If parents don't mean what they say, if they do not really going to have an easy time. Then again, there are some people who do not learn. There is a lot of hypocritical behavior going down with parents.
• United States
4 Jan 12
I agree that having double standards send mixed messages. It really isn't good for children. They become confused. And they are definitely more likely to rebel in the future. I think they would also be less likely to respect what their parents tell them.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
2 Jan 12
this just mean that we should be firm with what we want to teach the children... when we make room for some hole that can ultimately cause our children or others to know or see that we are not serious about the standards we set, then it is where our standards are compromised.
• United States
12 Apr 12
I agree with you. It is very important that we set good standards and rules for our children. They may not appreciate them when they are young. But hopefully as they get older they will appreciate what we have taught them. We definitely don't want our children to think that we are not consistent.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
2 Jan 12
i don't think a lot of parents realize they are teaching their children by what they do, we are monkey see monkey do creatures and this starts at a very young age and sometimes it doesn't even surface until later...parents should lead by example.
• United States
12 Apr 12
I definitely agree with you. We do the things that we see to a great degree. Our kids will follow and do what we do. We want to set a good example for them. I know that for me doing this is very important. I want my children to be a great part of the community and to stay out of trouble.