Is she even a kid?

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
January 2, 2012 10:16pm CST
I had 4 days off for the holidays.. so i was able to stay at home and relax. I opened my daughter's facebook to check what she had been playing. She only uses it for the game applications like Mallworld.. So i saw this classmate of hers, let us call her J. This J created this group thing..those ones you can create on fb for your group of friends or associations..so she named after then section in second grade. She invited my daughter and all their classmates ( they all have facebook!) So i opened it and was able to view the group since i am using my daughter's account. I saw that my daughter added her cousin to fb and her cousin is not their classmate..so i believe the creator of the group J got pissed off at my daughter for adding her cousin..which i know my daughter is innocent because she does not know a thing about groups! SO that J classmate of hers, mentioned my daughter in a comment and said things i didn't know a second grader could say! It was a already offensive for a second grader.. she even mentioned this in tagalog "nakakahiya ka" and some really stuff a second grader should not say. I was appalled at this really. I mean i am glad my daughter did not read it..though i know she wont know a thing of what that J said because my daughter does not hear such stuff from us. I immediately remove my daughter from the group and i know she won't be logging fb for long time. I do not want her exposed to such. I then asked hubby about this classmate of hers and hubby said that that little girl is indeed a bit "Maldita" or snobbish and her mouth is not like a second grader and she is a brat. I then asked if my daughter hangs out with her and i am glad to know she does not! I mean i want to really spank that kid and show her a piece of my mind..but hubby said leave it alone, she has parents..but then if she has parents, those parents are not really watching over her! hubby said he kinda knew that because he sees the kid in school with the Grandma who is also "maldita" and a bit tactless when it comes to speaking. no wonder!!
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10 responses
@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jan 12
hi jazel it really pays to try t o know as much as possible about your childs play mates. its sad that girel knew stuff no child that age should know and I am sure this all came from her parents as they are the first role models for their kids i once had a playmate that my dad banned me from having as she was a lot like the hild you are talking about and I'soon became angry at her for being mean and rude to other childrenI was glad my parents would no longer let me play with gher.It seems to me that the admins on facebook should be a little stricter.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Yeah admin on facebook cannot determine the age of the user.. or if it is really a child using or not. Which is scary. So i do monitor every now and then. My daughter i am glad is smarter than i give her credit for. I asked her if she is close with that J kid and she said she is not, she usually stays with her bestfriend Kyla, who is a very gentle kid and good mannered too.
@GardenGerty (100530)
• United States
3 Jan 12
Facebook is not the greatest thing in the world and it really is not a great place for young children either. I am glad you are doing a good job at monitoring what she is doing.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
I know.. that is why i monitor her usage of it..call me paranoid lol but its the right thing to do as a parent.. i tend to even see what games she plays and who are in her friends list.
• United States
3 Jan 12
Unfortunately both you & your husband are right. Although she does have parents apparently they do not keep watch over her activities while she is online. My sister's children also have a Facebook account, but they moved the computer from my nephew's bedroom & into the family room where they go in & out of there all day long. If this girl's parents are going to allow her to be on a computer then they need to monitor her activities. It just all depends on how this girl is being raised. Apparently not everyone is as good a parent as you are. I think it's important that a child learn how to speak in a respectful & polite manner. That's how my Mom raised my siblings & I & that's how my sister & BIL are raising their children.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Agree, i was also raised that way. To respectful of others. That is why i also want my children to be that way too.. it is our responsibility as parents.
@soulist (2987)
• United States
3 Jan 12
My sister and brother - in - law do the same thing. They monitor what their kids do on the internet not just facebook. They even prescreen movies to make sure it is apporpriate for their kids. This is something parents should do. I agree parents need to monitor what is being said and done on facebook especially if they are as young as second grade, which honestly I don't think they should have one unless closely monitored by their parents like you do Jazel. Seems to me you are a good parent.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Some kids are so bossy and brat and often this is because of what they see and hear in their house. No wonder she is 'maldita' as your hubby said her granny has the same behavior as well. Maybe you should let your daughter know about it. SHe might be added to the group again and if she logged on to FB again she might see those words. Or when she goes to school J might create an issue out of this small thing while your daughter being innocent of what just happened in FB will be left wondering what's going on. It's really good that you are monitoring your daughters activity in Facebook!
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Reminds me of my female classmate in kindergarten and elementary during my years at a certain private school. I guess there really are just kids that turn out that way for reasons. Let us just be glad that we weren't raised as one and that we have it in us to not raise our children as one also. It is a good thing that you have learned about this matter in an early stage and that you get into affairs of your children at this stage. Really shows how great a parent you are. As an older brother I always make it a point to learn more of my youngest sisters friends and companions. i require that she invite them to our house, so that I get to know the attitude that my sister surrounds herself with. I am not perfect but I know I can try making her life easier and better by pointing out things she must learn before experiencing it through my experiences alone. Anyway, I do hope you keep up this good parenting and that that other little girl gets good parenting soon before it becomes too late for her.
@Trensue (5256)
• United States
3 Jan 12
I would have never let a 2nd grader on facebook. I am shocked that you thought that would be okay. You have no idea who those others are and what they might say. On the other hand your daughter probably hears all that garbage at school. We can only protect them so long.
@Lhenni (1246)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Me too, watches my daughter when doing her things in the internet... FB, youtube and some searching. I don't want my kids to be in that kind of friends too. Her friends in FB are her friends in school too... and they are so much well behaved. I know them and their parents. The girls are very good but not all the boys! ...the boys are quite naughty but not that bad! If I saw comments or chat that's not good, I replied and chat them back. I introduced my self to be the mother and I adviced them that if they don't properly behaved, I'll let their parents and even their guidance in school punished them. It happened before and so far, it doesn't happen again. I think, the school has a lot of help in addition to parents guidance too! It compliments! And yes! It all started at home. If they get enough guidance in us parents,... they will behaved anywhere. So congratulate us all guiding parents! Congratulations for being such a good mom to your daughter! Cheers!
@airkulet (2705)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Why not get this to the principal's office so that they are the one who will call the parents attention of what their daughter is doing online, kids like that should get their lesson outside the school
@SIMPLYD (80400)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
That's the most right thing that you have done Jazel. You daughter should in a way not be associated with a kid like that. She might one day end up having a quarrel with that brat. In my opinion, it is better that she be told about it, so she can avoid that girl J.
@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
3 Jan 12
Oh dear, some kids are growing way too fast! I'm in my late teens and I still don't have Facebook and for good reason too. For me, Facebook is a site used for gossip and stalking people, well that is what most of my friends use Facebook for. Lots of offensive stuff happen on Facebook and I don't think kids as young as primary school should be exposed to Facebook. Lots of cyber bullying happen on Facebook and I know some of the people in my school have posted very revealing or even disturbing pictures on Facebook. Random people might add your daughter too as a friend so be careful! That girl should be taught a lesson but in this day and age, lots of kids have been very disrespectful and taken their freedom too freely. Glad your daughter was not exposed to that girl's comment because kids aren't suppose to be obscene. I know not all families are perfect and have respectful morals but make sure you do protect your child and ensure who she makes friends with. My parents always check up on my friends and ensure that my friends aren't the rebel bunch. Like you said, some kids just need a light spank. But be careful on Facebook, maybe you can sit by your daughter as she plays games.