No one responds to my discussions

India
January 3, 2012 1:36am CST
Have you ever gone through a phase when no one responds to the discussions you have started? I'm going through such a phase and it is very annoying. It feels bad when people don't respond to your discussions as previously I used to get a lot of responds to my discussions... Please give me some tips so that people start responding to my discussions..
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31 responses
@sjvg1976 (12672)
• Delhi, India
3 Jan 12
Hello russell_21, There are several reasons for your discussion not getting responses and the most prominent one may be they don't find your discussion to be interested one.Try to be more descriptive and try to be more realistic on the discussion.Make as much friends you can and involve in the interaction with them its sure once they will identify you and know you by your user name definitely they would come up to your each discussion.
• India
4 Jan 12
ok... ill work on interesting topics....
@phillyguy (2984)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
hi russell I checked some of your discussions and honestly I noticed most of the time you only comment back to 2 or 3 of the responses and sometimes you didn't even reply to any of the responses..like this discussion of yours http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2615173.aspx?p=2 you received many responses here and most are really good responses but you only reply to 3 of them..that will "turn off" some of our fellow mylotters and if they noticed that is always the case in your discussions they will tend to ignore your new discussions later on. This is really important for you too because through commenting back you will earn more and you will be more familiar with our fellow mylotters if you have longer conversation in your discussion. Adding some friends also helps since some of our fellow mylotters don't have much time to spend in mylot and just check and response on the discussions of their friends. I believe Putting your discussion in the right interest and giving it the proper tags can also helps. And of course an interesting topic and an interesting title is also important if you want your discussion to receive many responses.
• India
3 Jan 12
I realise my mistake as i have not responded to the responses in my previous discussions... i will surely work on it and see to it that i reply to the responses. I have to make the effort. I will also make more friends... thanx...
@phillyguy (2984)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
you are welcome I am glad that you understand what I am trying to say it will really help you not just to earn more but to meet new friends and enjoy the interaction with fellow mylotters. Just enjoy yourself and follow some of the tips given to you in this discussion later on most of your discussions will get more responses.
@phillyguy (2984)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
oh my thanks for the compliments really appreciate it ..as I always say I feel good when I can share what I know and if that can help someone in some ways that would be really great, it's my way of saying thank you to those fellow mylotters who encouraged and motivated me when I was about to quit mylot when I was really new here..really appreciate it..thanks3X you made my day
@SIMPLYD (72899)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Don't feel bad my friend. I do have some old discussions that have no responses. After seeing them not yet responded even after a year, i requested them to be deleted.
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• India
3 Jan 12
I never knew that you can delete your discussions....
@sjvg1976 (12672)
• Delhi, India
3 Jan 12
Hello SIMPLYD, But i doubt if Admin can delete those discussions which don't receive responses as i don't think its a valid reason to delete any disc.
@SIMPLYD (72899)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Hmm, i think i have to try again and really see for myself if it was deleted. Actually, i didn't take notice after. So, i might as well try to have one deleted again , for reason - no responses.
@djbtol (5501)
• United States
3 Jan 12
Yes I have often received surprisingly low participation in my discussions. The answer when that happens is to keep prodding and poking. I recommend you get busy responding to discussions started by your friends. Help your friends be aware of your efforts on mylot.
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• India
3 Jan 12
Yes I have to make a lot of friends on mylot
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@Hatley (151910)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jan 12
also do comment back to us who respond as otherwise its not really a discussion until you do comment back also you earn nothing on the responses we made as we typed them so we earn but you type good' comments you will earn really well
@phillyguy (2984)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
hi hatley that's one of the things I told him in my response..not many members (base on the responses here) will think of that as one of the factors in not getting many response but I believe (base on my observation from other members who also asked about this problem)) that it is really one of the main reason why his discussion didn't get many response because members already notice that he is not commenting back to the responses in his previous discussions..I hope russell will take our advice
@rusale (648)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
You should create an attractive title and a discussion which makes sense. Try to make a discussion where mylotters can give opinions to have sharing of ideas to make the discussion keep going. Try to create it in a friendly manner and remember to create a discussion where many of the people here in mylot can relate. Make a discussion in a good manner to convey the attention of the mylotters. This discussion you've created is really good. This makes mylotters attracted to your discussion. I hope my opinion helps you and have a nice day mylotting. Happy new year russell.
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• India
3 Jan 12
Happy new year rusale...I understand what your trying to express... Now onwards I will surely implement whatever you said and create interesting discussions...
@rusale (648)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
Hope you'll have a good time here in mylot and always feel free and enjoy here. Have a nice day.
@owlwings (37680)
• Cambridge, England
4 Jan 12
I looked at all 20 of the discussions you have started (your profile says that you have started 21 but only 20 appear when looking at 'discussions started') and NONE of them have no responses, though a few only have one or two. If a discussion is to earn the name of 'discussion', you should always make a point of replying to ('commenting on', in MyLot terminology) the responses you get. If you simply say something like "Thanks for responding", that effectively closes any further discussion and doesn't add anything at all. You should always try to actively promote your discussion by having something more to say which encourages those who have taken the trouble to respond to say more. If you don't (or can't) do this then you should ask yourself whether the topic was worth discussing in the first place!
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• India
4 Jan 12
Yes boss... You have explained your point of view in a very nice manner... I really appreciate your effort... Yes i have two to three responses in my discussions but I expected to get a lot more... I didnt know what I had been doing wrong... so i started this discussion... The things that I have learnt so far are that I have not replied to the responses and have not made much friends... Also some discussions that I started were not that interesting. I will work on the ones I know.. If you feel I missed out something... please feel free to mention....
@Hatley (151910)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jan 12
hi russel __21 one hint do you faithfully comment back on the responses you did get in your other discussions? if not people get teed off after awhile as I know i do to respond and respond to some people's discussions and never get a comment back at all from the discussion maker.so sometimes I just do not respond and if you did this to a lot of people they might just decide you did not want to really make a disscussion and comment back and make it a real discussion.think about it if you have had a lot of responses and you did n ot comment back at all you missed making good earnigns and too you could have pissed off a lot of users who want comments back on their responses.
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• India
4 Jan 12
Yes I understand that I have to start commenting a lot. Thank you for the tip my friend...
• Bangladesh
3 Jan 12
Dont worry buddy.. Its may happen. Its very simple that people do not have idea about your topic and they dont have much knowledge about it. Here, every one is trying to discuss and share. But if the topic is too hard or if we dont have any idea, then we cant response. May be you start a topic with a very new things, then it would be problem to get response as most of users will not be familiar to that. Dont think that you will not get response. Still I have lot of posts from where I get response and comment though those are 2-3 months old. So keep patient and do my lotting. Cheers
• India
3 Jan 12
Ok... I'll work on starting discussions with simple topics....
@buddha3 (1029)
• India
3 Jan 12
May be the topics u now started didn't have much to respond to. Or maybe none were interested in them. But it's very unlikely not to have any response at all. My worst record is I got just one response to a discussion. and best is just 14 hehee:) don't worry I've responded now! let's drag this conversation till 100th page lol
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• India
3 Jan 12
Your absolutely right buddy... lets take it to the 100th page...
@areskya (398)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
I ever faced the same thing as you. It was happen on the early time I join at Mylot, I feel so shy and annoyed at that time, but after I thought more. It is caused of I'm new here and don't have any friends yet, my discussion is not specific, too bored and not good enough to be responded. So, I tend to respond more discussion and make few new discussion. I'm trying to conveying my discussion in the most simple, interesting and clear one to be understood other. Keep trying and you'll be better
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@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
i think what you can do is to make people want to respond to those discussions. more often, i see or recognize that people responds to the discussions that are more personal where they can give insights, or their suggestions or opinions about a certain situation or event. =)
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@Olleenz (3400)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
Sorry if I didn't respond to your discussion. It can happen if: 1. I didn't understand your topic or too heavy 2. Your discussion not catch my interest Note: this apply to everyone, not just you ... If you need some tips, I can give some but not guarantee can work for you 1. Attractive title. Some people need that 2. Don't make too heavy discussion 3. make a lot of friends. Sometimes your friend can reply your discussion easily (your discussion came to their email directly) 4. When you respond/comment, do it in fun way .... a lot of people like that I hope these gonna help, cheers
• India
3 Jan 12
thank you...Olleenz... It helped a lot... Will try to do whatever you said... thanx once again
@Olleenz (3400)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
Hey .... I'm not professor in here, just regular guy ...
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
As a friendly advice, I have these tips to you: 1. Widen your interests so that you can post discussions on varied topics. You may want to observe top topics on the "today's top", "recent" or "hot" tab so that you may have an idea what topics interest most of the mylotters here. 2. Post discussions with headings that clearly indicate what issues you are raising about. Your description should indicate a short narrative of how you were able to come up with the issue. There are also issues that need clarification or limitation of the scope of the discussion. Your judgement on this area will definitely be appreciated so that you can receive relevant responses. 3. Get acquainted with the discussion guidelines so that you can be properly guided on what and what not to post. 4. While mylot admin has liberal stand on the writing style, I find it necessary that discussions be well-written for clarity of thought. Sometimes, I get confused in the middle of the discussion when I read ineffective sentence structure. Hope these help.
• India
5 Jan 12
Yes... Now I feel a little bit confident about myself and will be able to start more discussions which are interesting... I think I've figured out what the problem was and most probably rectify it...
@wolveren (1525)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Dude, you have more responses to this post than me when I was at the same situation at some time ago. Not sure if it's all about luck or people's interests at one point or another. But having no responses to your posts doesn't really mean no one's reading your post. It only means maybe when some of those reading your post just doesn't have anything to say at the moment and later on just totally forgets about it altogether. It happens. Since you're new to mylot, you will have one of the best digesting experience here from real people. I know I read a lot of the posts here and just digest them, and sometimes I just don't have anything to share. Rest assured whenever I get the chance I will read your posts. cheers.
• India
4 Jan 12
Thank you for your support wolveren... Thats a nice point you put there.. people maybe reading my discussions and may not be interested in responding. Now the only way to rectify this is to start interesting discussions... :-)
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
3 Jan 12
I am new here and it is ok if your discussions are not being answered at first. I think that people have to get to know you some. and I see that you are some what of a new user as well. Dont let it discourage you. It will pick up. Keep a positive outlook. Plus, it does not hurt to start a discussion with, "no one responds to my discussions". :) Have a great day. :) :) :)
• India
3 Jan 12
thanx
@zaahro (749)
• Indonesia
3 Jan 12
I am so sorry Russell, maybe bcz your discussion did not appear on my main page. I'd be gladd to respond your discussion. Umm... try to use an interesting topic, sometimes I use a silly subject to attract my friends to respond my discussion.
• India
3 Jan 12
Thanx...
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
3 Jan 12
well, yes sometimes it happens that nobody responds to one or more of our discussions..it's okay if there is one but if there are more of it..we feel kind of sad or annoyed about it..it is a common and normal reaction and feeling for us..i have one discussion that don't have any respond..it feels kind of sad when nobody cares to answer or reply to discussions we started but for me i just don't expect a lot and i condition myself before hitting the "start" of my discussion that if ever nobody replies i won't feel bad about it but i will just move on and start other discussions later and in the future..i guess it depends on what you start or talk about if it is interesting or if a lot of people can relate to it..but don't try too hard to please people just so you will get a respond but just be yourself and just say, share what you feel and want to talk about...that is all there is to it..
• India
3 Jan 12
I'm a very emotional person and I tend to get hurt soon and become sad. Wish I was more like you...
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
for me, my feelings would depend on how important the discussion is and how bad i really want answers to my questions. Thankfully, my advice seeking discussions have always been responded. I don't really care how many as long as i gain more information. To avoid that kind of situation, I start discussions that everybody can relate to. Talking about your life alone is rather boring, unless if you had a really interesting story to tell where many people can learn a lot from your experience. Whenever I start discussions, I always prepare myself for situations like no responses or flames. Then I type down. I don't really mind if no one responses because I enjoy writing and expressing myself while getting paid for it, even though it's just a few cents. If earnings were based on how many responses you get, well, that would be the time that i get depressed when i don't get many responses.
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
22 Jan 12
Good day russell_21, I think the most important thing in getting more responses to your discussions is to make sure you put in lots of tags so the discussion will come up in a lot of different searches. Also make sure when you post a discussion you are asking some questions to people have something to answer to you in their response. If someone reads a discussion and they aren't asked for their input in some way then they don't have anything to say to you. Another way to get more responses is to have a lot of friends on your friend list. And make sure you have your notify buttons turned on. That way you get all of your friends discussions and they get all of yours, in your email box. That way your discussion gets read at least by your friends and then they can respond to it. I had a friend on my list of friends that started too many discussions for me to keep up to her so I had to get rid of her. I don't want a friend that just keeps posting and posting discussions and doesn't have the time to comment back to my responses so make sure you do that too. Let me know you took the time to bother to read what I posted by commenting something to me. So make sure you post things that people can post back by answering a question you post. And make sure you tag them good. Cheers and happy mylotting my friend , chris
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 12
Hi Russel... I know how its feel at the beginning I made few discussion who attract only few response from others member. I had to admit myself I am not really good in making the interesting one. So I spend my time here try to find discussion I capable to answer and interesting one. I find its not easy to making discussion that's can attract many response but I think the longer you will getting better in making one, like this one made it into mylot digest . There is certain fun when you can made a discussion that's entered the digest because its mean your discussion is popular .