Are you still In-Love with your EX-Boyfriend/Girlfriend?

Philippines
January 4, 2012 3:37am CST
I sometimes think about my EX's, those happy moments. Though the split ups were not that pretty but I guess if I get to see them again, I could not deny that I still would have feelings for them. Do you also feel the same way? Is it really impossible or possible to be friends with an Ex?
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@Lhenni (1246)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
In my status now, happily married for 11 years with 3 "naughty" kids... mind you! Of course I don't love them now and for sure the feelings are mutual with them *hahahaha. But, sticking to your question, just a flashback, I remember then I had 2 major break-ups with whom it's really painful to me because I let my pride to get over and I din't compromise to settle things positively. It took time to get over the feelings... still like and love them but I should not let the feelings grow inside me. FYI, it happened in different time huh! 'just being paranoid *LOL! Well, maybe because I've lack of experience in my very young age that time *sigh... glad it's over and reality is... I'm happy and quite contented now with my own raised family! By the way, that 2 major ex's of mine were my good friends in FB now. But before the heartaches they gave to me then, I don't want to be friends with them. Now it changed. They're good like me too with their family and kids. Your feelings towards them will surely been erased as times passed by and another relationship comes in! Cheers!
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• Philippines
5 Jan 12
It was actually a three and a half year relationship. Most of the time we were together so its hard to forget. I better stop staying single so as not to think about them. Its good to hear that you are now contented with your current relationship. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
well, we do feel the same way. It's really good to recall the moments that we were together, I wish I could go back to those moments cuz It's really great, even though my feelings aren't strong for her anymore :D
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• Philippines
5 Jan 12
We still cannot deny the fact that we have some feelings still with one or even more of our ex's. It gets even harder when your single again and begin to reminisce those great moment. Could it be the same for them? Well I do think so. Its really hard to just forget and put it aside.
@KrauseHome (34764)
• United States
4 Jan 12
Personally I have been happily Married almost 13 yrs. now. There have been times I have wondered if they are OK. but never to the point I would ever leave my husband for them. Most of them are still stuck in ruts that I would never consider being Happy in for sure, as my life is so much different and better now.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 12
Thirteen years is already a very good achievement and I am so glad to hear that from someone. It gives us hope that some people remain happy after all that time together. Maybe he is your soul-mate as they call it. Lucky for you. Have a nice day!
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Yes, it is always possible to have a good friendship with our ex. besides- it's better that way than keeping anger and hatred inside our heart.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 12
I think I have to agree with you on this because if we cant forgive then we can also never be asked to be forgiven by others. After all to err is just human. It also would not be healthy to our body as well as the soul to harbor all these ill-feelings for someone we used to be in love with.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
I am not inlove anymore with them the fact that I don't have any good memories with them. But I am okay if after all that they have done, we are still friends. I have moved on already that is why there is no need to hold grudges to them. For some, they still are inlove. Well, it depends on the situation in answering your question.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 12
Some of my Ex's I was still able to speak with maybe not as close friends but just casual friends. There is one Ex though that seems to have gotten away and sometimes I would begin to regret the things I should have done and stayed in the relationship.
@dhawanbm (3705)
• India
4 Jan 12
yes i do feel the same way as you are feeling right now. Its a down feeling upto your heart as you can never forget her, shes close, intimate and always provided you with loads of kisses and roses.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 12
They say that the only way to forget that person is to find someone better. Then again im not in a rush and would just like to take my time. Have a nice day!
@tabatha7 (189)
4 Jan 12
It's possible to be friends with an ex... although I haven't been able to do this. It seems like young people have an easier time with this than I do. My problem was that my last couple of exes treated me so incredibly badly, that I don't want anything to do with them ever again. Once in awhile, I think of something fun or a happy moment that I shared with one of my exes. But for the most part, it's Over & done with & I'm happier now. I've grown up a lot since I was with the last two, and I've changed a lot for the better. I learned to respect myself & to require that others treat me with respect. So I'm glad that I learned these things, but I didn't ever need to be treated that badly by anybody.
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• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Well I guess its a good thing for you. I guess your break-ups were really that bad, and if so it would be better not to be still in-love with them. It is very true that we should not allow anybody to treat us badly. The way you sound, it seems that you are quite satisfied with your current relationship. Maybe people like me who are single again think about these things a lot. Have a nice day!
• India
4 Jan 12
Its not possible to be friends with my ex... because I totally hate her and I cant stand her around me. She is a B***H and so she will be... Nothing can change that and thats the way its going to remain. I Hate my ex from the bottom of my heart. I hate her, I hate her, I hate her....
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
I guess she must have done so many bad things to you for these comments. In this case I dont think that there is a chance for both of you to remain friends. I'm sure you will eventually find someone whom you can love as much as you hate the other. Have a nice day!
@soulist (2987)
• United States
22 Feb 12
I still think about my ex from time to time, the good times we had and how me made me laugh. Because he was so important to me there is a part of me that does still love him. But that doesn't take away from how I feel for my current boyfriend.
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
I'm still Inlove with my ex last boyfriend. My first love. We been together for 2yrs but now It almost 3yrs now since we broke up but still he is the only one in my heart. I'm still not able to open my heart again because all I want is him but I know it will never be same again because that MAN is in relationship now for more than 2yrs. For me,friendship with my ex is impossible because he don't want me to be one of his friends. Even our split ups is not that bad. He decided to treat me like a stranger because that Man.. don't want to remember the good memories we've shared so he can move on and able to love with other girl. Even we had a good memories for the 2yrs we been together. It hurts so much in my heart but I accept everything because I just realized that the love he gave me is not that deep like I planted to my heart..