When do you criticize people?

@katie0 (5212)
Japan
January 4, 2012 7:08am CST
I don't think we don't have any use for criticism, it can help, but when do you do it? When you think they done or said something horrible? Do you do it to help them or for pure evil? I'm not kidding, seriously, there are people that takes pleasure on hurting other's feelings. What's your reason? I NEED to do it when I feel one done something horrible, I can't stop myself, I have to tell them.
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21 responses
• China
5 Jan 12
If someone's comments is not for me ,I think I was not going to criticize others.only when I was innocent I will go to argue,criticize other's claims and proctices.If I encounter immoral public events.I will express criticize.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Mar 12
You mean to defend yourself, that's very fair of you. Nice.
@macanan (153)
• Indonesia
5 Jan 12
i used to critisize people, but not anymore now. i just critizise people when the situation get worse
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Mar 12
That's nice. I realized I'm seeing in the other person so many times I reflect, think about it or try to fix it and I don't remember about criticising anymore.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
4 Jan 12
In college we were taught that if you are critical of others, it's because you see something of yourself there. If you didn't, you wouldn't even notice the other person. I have never forgotten this teaching and when I have an urge to criticize someone I try to remember this. With luck I do before I open my mouth.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Mar 12
I noticed as well, after becoming adult I realized that was in me. Good criticism would be just when we worry about someone we love and that they are going in a wrong path perhaps, more than that could be just a mirror
@jaiho2009 (39013)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
People do criticize - even us, unknowingly we did it. Maybe we do not mean to say bad words- or say something that hurt others feelings. Sometimes- telling the truth sounds criticism for the others.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Mar 12
Yes, we have to take care about WHAT words to say cause taking criticism is kind of hard but with the bad words might be received as some for of agression.
4 Jan 12
i use constructive criticism, something that will help someone, i would never be nasty to someone or belittle them
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
22 Mar 12
That's constructive, and even welcomed. If we speak nicely and explain our point most of people do understand. We just have to have some level of intimacy for that I think Thanks!
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@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Hi there katie0! It depends on the person that you will criticize.What I mean is that there are persons who are open for criticism and there are others who are not.And it also depends on the purpose (what that person will learn from that criticism). I only criticize when I know that that person is open minded and that he knows that I am only saying those things for her sake.But when I know that a person is not ready for it or he will be offended by what I will say I just back off for a while and wait for the right time to tell him. I think it is just a matter of timing and how you will say it.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
10 Jan 12
Hey there jordq7! Sorry for the late reply. That is true. There are people that can't listen at all, I see most of them are actually those who most like to criticize actually so if they don't like they are not having a good motive then. I listen when I hear criticism, even if I hate the person but if I have to say it I do, specially if I care. But we always have to be careful in "the way" we are going to say it, we don't want the person to be traumatized by that. But it's true, if the person is not open minded...there's not really the point. Or humble!
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
4 Jan 12
Criticism is something that I feel should be done with the greatest of cares. Granted, criticism is something that can slap us down to earth and clue us in on what we might be doing wrong. Especially when it comes from a person that we respect but there are some people who take criticism a step too far. There is criticism and then there is kicking someone while they are down. Criticism for the sake of criticism is rather done. And criticism for the little things that don't matter really is not important. A funny thing, as that if people really hear criticism a bit too often, eventually they may start ignoring it. They just close their minds to the complaints of others and that is really not something that's a good thing. I only do it when I feel that someone needs a bit of constructive criticism but most times, I keep my mouth shut. Time and a place for everything after all.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
9 Jan 12
That is beautiful. Yes, kicking when one is down is mean. And for example we should never state an obvious thing and specially a thing that will not change, for example if we see someone is obese that person surely didn't miss that and we shouldn't even mention otherwise would be just bullying. But constructive criticism can be realy helpfull. Recently I begun to write stories in English and it was really hardly criticized on the grammar, I keep studying and trying and fine people don't see that, but the beautiful thing was that once again I see how much I love it cause I thought I should give up, but once I let it go I came on writing again and now I found a beta for my fiction ^_^, and out of nowhere there are reviwers asking for me to continue. The first was painful, and then gradually it didn't hurt that much. The good thing was that I am reading even more fiction from English writer's authors, and I look up for their strange and different words in the dictionary more often. Criticism in something that I love: writing, made me grow. And I know about my creative points as in my language people were asking next chapter, that it was all about grammar on a language that it's not mine and not about being a bad writer. But either way in the end, we must decide if we are good or not, not people.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
I only criticize when i could assess that there is something that really needs to be done to improve or progress. Although to criticize tends to cause a negative impact, it is one of the best tool to emphasize shortcomings and mistakes thereby creating a constructive evaluation of oneself.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
9 Jan 12
Yes it can feel like that but when well said criticism might not hurt at all. Sometimes those who are close to us will have to say one thing or two as we might be blind to the whole picture, we also have a haaard time to see our own flaws! Your criticism actually seems constructive.
• Philippines
4 Jan 12
Well, mostly , I criticize a person not because I don't like him/her or I want to destroy his/her reputation, but in order for him/her to change and to learn from it , so that he could improve himself/herself . :) And I criticize because I'm concern bout him/her , that's all :)
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
9 Jan 12
That's good, I like people that do it for conserning, it is actually nice of you It can be preatty constructive and a real eye opener. I needed a shake or two through life and I was gratteful for those who worried and said what was needed. We kind of "get the feeling" when the person means well.
@yusfy27 (38)
4 Jan 12
i like critism,constructive critism,critism would have an impact positif for those who can use it well, it does not matter if you critize him,but any response should be in a proper way....may be it work....
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
9 Jan 12
That is also true friend, it was really rare but I had those moments that I was thankful for a friend, family person opening my eye for something I didn't see. We need warnings cause sometimes we might lost track in life.
@yaso4u (502)
• India
4 Jan 12
Hi Katie, Often criticizing of people comes when ever one gets angry or jealous on another person. These things affects you, when some one blames about you to other. More Educated peoples are involved in this things which is sad to hear. Less educated peoples were more matured and will not criticie any one unnecessarily.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
9 Jan 12
I also think that criticism often comes from jealousy as I witnessed that. When I was naive I thought about what did I do to make a girl angry or watched others going through this thinking "What she did so the other girl is talking about her like that?" Most of the times it was about jealousy, the jealous person cannot afford to leave their enemies alone, they talk about them, live their lives, watch them...
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
4 Jan 12
Hi Katie... Criticism is the worst thing... There is nothing more demoralising. It kills the will to improve... Criticise an employee and he will think of changing the job, criticise a student and he will hate studies... Criticism is kind of a slow poison... Only one positive thing about it.. If the criticism is fed in a positive manner and if the victim (forgive this term, could not find a better word) is made to understand that the criticism has the best intentions; then we might hope to get results....
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
6 Jan 12
Hi dear, yes it can feel like a victim sometimes when it's too harsh. I like good criticism, wich is a person who loves me and KNOWS me come to me and say they have to tell me something and that's for my own good, then sit down and tell me nicely but truthfully what it is to open my eyes. If the reason is told we surely can understand why someone is criticizing, now people that gossip and criticize others for no reason are just not good people, it doesn't mater if they pay taxes and go to church, a bad word can really stain or destroy one's reputaion. So many times I met the target of a gossip and the person was amazing, the one who started was just jealous.
• United States
1 Feb 12
i think you have to really gauge it on the person you are criticizing. im painfully honest and it gets me into trouble all the time but i try to spare peoples feelings because i know im sensitive to criticism myself. if i critize and it comes off as rude then i MEAN for it to but i try to just kind of hint them into the right direction and hope for the best. i dont really believe in constructive critism since it seems like an excuse to just be mean. ive trained people before and past jobs and i always found of way of not critising but being able to solve the problem with out them thinking i was putting them down. but like i said im a sensitive person so maybe if your more thick skinned it would work better on the person
• Mexico
7 Jan 12
Hi katie: I don't criticize as a pleasure. In fact I don't find any pleasure about it. I criticize when I am talking about something that directly affects me like politics, the world environment, war, etc. If I care for a person I give them some advises because I love them and I do this in a positive way and also I would criticize someone as an example to myself not to commit these same mistakes. ALVARO
• Russian Federation
5 Jan 12
Hello, Katie!! :) nice to meet you. and i agree with you. i do the same every day. when a person did something wrong i reallly can't stop or control myself. anger inside me is always coming out. lol but another reason i do it... hmm.. may be this's bacause of the attitude to the person. i love my friends.. but others.. i don't know what to say.. perhaps, they always laugh at me trying to bring me down... but i'll never give up... may be cuz of it i critisize. i don't think i'm evil but sometimes i can't even tell myself why i am doing it lol. :)
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
5 Jan 12
If someone is doing something wrong and if I know that by telling them so and showing them the right way will help them, then I will. If critisizing them will do nothing except for make them feel bad then I keep my mouth shut. It all depends on the situation and what it is that they are doing so wrong. Some things are just a matter of opinion and should not be said unless the person asks for advice.
@jpso138 (7869)
• Philippines
5 Jan 12
I criticize but not that openly as to hurt someone. I always respect a person for as long as they respect me. So when there is need to criticize, I would always find the right timing so as to insure that my criticism is more of a constructive criticism rather than a destructive one.
@Annrose21 (161)
5 Jan 12
Katie, telling them was the right thing to do. It was helpful for you and for that somebody, by speaking your heart out, you can be free from the loads of your emotions and at least he will know about what that person had done, he will know what his/her limitations will be in the future. Speaking of criticism, as for me, I am willing to accept something like this, this will build me. Criticisms are made to help you gain something near perfection.
@nickaug (21)
• Cyprus
5 Jan 12
I currently live in Cyprus and the people I most criticize are the drivers. They don't know how to drive and park. I often criticize to my friends about their driving habbits. It is frustrating how they drive in Cyprus.
• India
5 Jan 12
for me their are two kinds of peoples. 1. those who work hard to list on the top. 2. those who neither are on the top nor they want other to go over the top, thats why they always keep on criticizing.