I and my sister

Vietnam
January 6, 2012 1:53am CST
She is my followed sister. I love her but sometimes I envy her. Because I think my parents loved her more than me. Since childhood, she will always be forgiven even though she has done something wrong or upset my parents. Now grown up, she will always be parents for help when she's in trouble. About me, I must take care myself when I was a child . I'm not allowed to make mistakes. With them, I always must a number one person! Growing up, I have my own life. If there are difficult issues, people who help me as friend. My parents do not want to hear about the difficulties, they just want to hear me tell about the successes that I achieved. However, I still love my sister. But there are times when both my sister and my parents, I usually try to avoid another. I can not stand the way my parents loved her.
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7 responses
• Russian Federation
6 Jan 12
Hello there. Sometimes i had the same situation. I thought they paid more attention to her then me. They bought her better presents then they had bought me when i was a child. This made me so angry. But now I miss my little sister. She had to move to another town. So we see each other quote reraly. This is bad. I miss her very much. So appreciate her while she is with you. If you don't want to be in the situation that i am.
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
From we leave our family to this city. We love each other much more. However, when we gather in my parents' house, I feel hate her again! I don't know why. I always try to avoid this feeling but I can't.
• Russian Federation
7 Jan 12
the same was with me. and now sometimes i get this feeling again. It was today. she has everything that i had not. but deep inside i love her.
• Vietnam
9 Jan 12
No matter what happens, we still can not abandon his family, right?
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
6 Jan 12
Don't feel bad, this is an issue that happens in every household with children. It spread into the adult years, as well. I have an older brother & younger brother. You would think as the only girl I would get some extra attention. However, that's not the case. I stay away from my family just to save the peace. They come to my husband & I when they are in financial bind and we bail them out. I don't know why they assume we always have money, but they all do. It's truely sad to be loved for what you can do for them and not as a family member. Best Wishes!
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
Your status are worse than me, my friend. Are your brothers are jobless?
• United States
7 Jan 12
One's 44, married with children and he can't keep a job to save his soul. We live in a small community and he's burned his bridge at just about all of them. I just can't believe. I would think with a family he would be trying a little harder. My younger brother does work, they just don't spend wisely. You know bill, food then play in my book. They like to spend for fun, food and then worry about the bills. Makes no sense to me. But what do I know.
• Vietnam
9 Jan 12
It's sad for them. You must worry too much about them. I think they must change their life. If not, they'll submerge in debts.
@kath91 (37)
• United States
7 Jan 12
i have a siste. she have 19 years and i 20. before we fight a lot but over time things changed a little now our relationship is better
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
Wish you and your sister the best wishes !
@Murphee (11)
7 Jan 12
This usually happens with younger siblings. I dont think parents even realize they do it. I am an older sibling, my younger brother was babied all through our childhood. It bugged me to no end, but i got over it an realized they love me just the same. Now i live on my own and i miss them all a lot, i get to visit once a week if im lucky. Just dont take anything for granted. And look at the brightside, the first child is usually the most succesful. We work harder for our achievments. Im glad no one babied me.
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
Are you feel happy because you're the first child in family? I'm not. I don't like this. Because the first child in family must stand much pressure from his/her family.
@cotruelove (1038)
• Denver, Colorado
6 Jan 12
Sibling rivalry is a fact of life. It is always in families with more than one child. I have a boy and a girl, the oldest always thought her brother was favored. But let me tell you, she expected to get gifts on his birthday and hers, and he wasn't supposed to get any on hers. There were many incidents when she had problems as the oldest accepting her brother got any attention. She played sports, he didn't. We were constantly taking her to things and he was doing them. She wanted our undivided attention and it wouldn't matter what we did, she to this day and she is in her 40's she will tell you we favored her brother. Just wasn't the truth. We worked hard to give them each equal time, but truth is, she demanded more than he did and she got it. Nothing will ever change her opinion no matter what we tell her. My mother and her sister in their 80's were still sibling rivals. I listened one time to them argue over a rocking horse when they were children. They had another sister too. One of them claimed their mother liked them best and the other that their dad like them best. I couldn't help but interrupt and asked who liked their oldest sister. That shut down that conversation. It was so hard to believe they were arguing over something that had happened 70 years before and had absolutely nothing to do with day were living at the time. I pray you find some resolution in your mind for the sibling rivalry and let it go. You only have one sister, love her well. Blessings on you!
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
Thank you for your sharing. Maybe you're right that I demanded more than her. But I only demanded about loving, not others. Do you think that I am a hypersensitive?
@SIMPLYD (79514)
• Philippines
6 Jan 12
Be proud that you have grown so independent from your parents. Though they may not love you as much as your sister, they do love you. It's just that they are just used not to showing it to you. So you see, your sister always have troubles but she cannot solve them alone. But as for you, you have none except for that hurt for your parent may be. Just keep on respecting your parents and someday they will realize their mistake in not equally treating you as your sister. And that's good that you avoid them, so you won't alwasy be hurt seeing them good together.
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
Thank you for your sharing. Yes, i'm proud that I can solve myself problems. But the feeling about my sister make me feel uncomfortable. I still love her. I think your ideas are well for me. I won't think much about my parents' love. I should focus to my life.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
6 Jan 12
I think sometimes we see things in a way that is only in our heads when we are young, I have a sister as well, she is three years older than me, when we were young my sister used to go and stay with some relatives for about a week every year down the beach but I wan'ted to stay overnight at a school friends place for one night I wasn't allowed, now I saw this as my sister was special because she got to go away every year on a holiday, but I just found out many years later my sister used to think I was the special one because as she saw it that my parents liked me more because they kept me home, so We see different things in the same situation sometimes...
• Vietnam
7 Jan 12
Maybe you're right. Because I sometimes feel that she's jealous of me!