Having to move back with my Parents...

@beki710 (949)
January 6, 2012 5:49pm CST
Even though we are barely into 2012 I'm having a pretty dreadful year so far. 2 days before Xmas me and my boyfriend discovered the flat we were meant to be moving into next week had been let out to someone else in a paperwork mix up. We found another place earlier this week and put in for it. Because of people at my boyfriends work messing up his references (they sent them to the payroll department over 500 miles away that have never met him) so they were late they had let someone else try for the flat as well, a single occupant. The landlord was given final choice and chose the other one, the only reason being that "couples move on too quickly" despite us saying we were looking long term at that place. My contact ends on 14th and my boyfriends on the 21st. We cant renew either of our places because they are year long contracts, mine is too far away for him to get to his work and his is too small for me to move into. We can't find anywhere else in our price range our that is suitable so it looks like we have to move back to my parents. I really appreciate the offer from my parents but I don't want to be there at all as it will lead to arguments and I know my boyfriend is very very uncomfortable with the idea of taking charity off them as he's been fine by himself for over 10 years. I don't know what to do or where we go from here, I'm worried it's just going to lead to us arguing which it already has done. If anyone has been in this situations I would really appreciate the advice!
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• United States
7 Jan 12
I had t move back in with my mother after I had my daughter. I lived there for a short time and it was fine. Right now if I lost my place I would go back to my mother with no problem. I could see if it were strangers. If your man is uncomfortable have him stay in the shelter and see which he would like better.
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@beki710 (949)
7 Jan 12
I don't even know if there is a shelter or anywhere like that near me. We live in the UK. We are okay for money just there is nothing on the market that is in our price range right now. I guess I need to sit down and discuss it with my boyfriend
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• United States
7 Jan 12
If you have craiglist there I would look on it for something.
• United States
7 Jan 12
Stay with your parents for now until you & your boyfriend can find something you can both afford. To avoid arguments just follow your parents rules for staying with them which is only right since they are allowing you both to live with them until you can find a place of your own. Continue to save money & continue to look for a new apartment. I'm sure that eventually you & your boyfriend will find something that's both right for you & something you can both afford.
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@beki710 (949)
7 Jan 12
Thanks for the advice. I'm sure we will find somewhere it is just so frustrating at the moment as we just want to get on and live our own lives.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
Well, your moving back to your parents doesn't need to be for the long term. In the meantime while you are still looking for a suitable place for you and your boyfriend, you can live with your parents.I am sure that you will be able to find a good place for both of you.
@beki710 (949)
7 Jan 12
Yes, we are looking every day to try and find somewhere when we have some free time. Fingers crossed I guess!
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
7 Jan 12
I think you don't have any choice. I think you really need to move back with your parents however uncomfortable it is going to be. You just have to bear down, follow all their rules, and keep reminiding yourself that this is just going to be a temporary situation. I wish you luck (and a better 2012)!
@beki710 (949)
7 Jan 12
Thanks, I really hope it won't be longer for a month or so I'm just dreading it!
7 Jan 12
Me and my girlfriend moved back in with my parents for the best part of a year, first because the scum we were living near made the estate uninhabitable, and then the house we bought needed some serious work so we couldn't live there to start. It worked really well, we never actually had an argument. Try and do your shares of the cooking and housework so it's not like your taking advantage Can your boyfriend find a niche where he can add something to the mix, perhaps if he is good at DIY, or gardening and can take some job on. Otherwise with double the number of incomes coming into the house you can at least make the most of this, perhaps spring for a holiday for your parents or something for the house like a new tv that all of you can enjoy