when is the best time to be married?

Philippines
January 7, 2012 12:15am CST
i'm only a student right now with a girlfriend of almost 3 years. she actually wants a baby but i don't want it yet because of financial problems. we actually made love many times but she did not get pregnant and said to me that i'm infertile. well to be honest, i'm thinking of it too that it might be true. i'm very much worried of it but one day, she tried PT and it's positive. 4 PT's have been tested and it's all positive. she tells it to her family and their talking about marriage. their planning to marry us. i'm shocked and i'm not yet ready for this.
6 responses
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
If you are not ready to get married, then don't. If you are worried about the surname of the baby, it can be arranged legally so no need to consider that a problem. Marriage is very important and must not be considered just because you got your girlfriend pregnant. You must be sure of your feeling with each other and be emotionally ready for life as husband and wife.
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
but what if her parents wants us to get married? i'm currently a student right now and i'm planning to finish my studies first. we don't want to get married first because of financial problem. her mother always talks about marriage but for me, i want to save money first before getting married.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
hello, Of course the best time to get married is when you already have a stable job and you already finish your study as well because it is really important most especially you are only a student. If you dont want to give her a baby yet then why did you make love to her and did not even use a contraceptive because you know to yourself that you have a financial problem. So, what will be the future of your child? but it all happened you should faced it. alright?
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
it's because i can't control the temptations. it's not me. it's her. she wanted to have a baby badly. that is what her wish in new year and it happened. i'm just thinking of anyways to earn money.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
Marriage is a commitment between the two of you. If you aren't that committed into having each other for the rest of your life then I think it would be best to take things slow. You're still young and there are so many things that needs to be understood, learned and hopefully in a few years you would then understand what it means and when you want to be married. To answer your question, there is really no best time to be married. You just know when that time comes. Nobody can tell you when but you have realize that one day and everything will to its place.
@tatzkie23 (773)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
Congratulations, You'll be a daddy now. Well, what you both did are your own choices. You should have expect this would happen. There is nothing wrong marrying at any age unless you're in legal age, as long you are emotionally, mentally, financially ready. but in your case, you said you're still a student, therefore, you still depend on your parents. Don't worry there are a lot of people like that. But since you're a daddy now. You have to be more responsible, finish your studies, and find a job for your own family.
• India
9 Jan 12
The best time to get married is when you are in stable position. I mean the time when you have the ability to take your own decision with no doubts and when you have the lively source of income to live. Make sure that you have this capabilities.
• Bulgaria
7 Jan 12
Hello , I think the best time is on 30st years. i married in 30. i happening good.