I wish I had more friends

@chiyosan (30205)
Philippines
January 8, 2012 6:41pm CST
I wish I had more friends, most of the time lately.... i am left with no one to talk to. most often when i fel i need a friend beside me, no one is there and it makes me feel rather unimportant. I have been going through something and yet i have no one to cry to, except God who might already be turning a deaf ear on me because i am literally begging him to listen to me. =( I wish I could just go away... I wish i could just disappear so everyone's going to be happy without me... they all make me feel that way anyway. =( There is really something wrong with my life... why i haven't got a single friend with me.
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22 responses
@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 12
Can you see your myLot friends here responding to you? YOU ARE NOT ALONE! You may be feeling that you are alone now with no one to talk to, but it is just not true. From what you can read here, you must know that there are many people who care, even if they don't know about you personally. It shows that this world of us is still with people who has a heart. Today is but a moment in your life. There is always a tomorrow. It will be a different tomorrow. It is possible only if you can give it a chance. You will meet real friends. All those so-called friends of you now if they don't care about you, why must you care about what they think of you? And most importantly, always trust in God. We may have doubts at times but it is because we don't understand God's way. Just have faith. You will get help in unexpected ways.
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
Oh... jkct02.. i am close to tears already. i feel your love and support for me, indeed even if you do not know me... thank you so much and yes, i do appreciate mylot for this because mylot has brought me a lot of things, realizations, time spent when bored, apart from the earnings and friends who care like you and stowyk. i am so honored and happy for mylot. thank you so much that maybe it is really wrong for me to think i am alone. its just that sometimes you do not know where to get strength from.... now i know where and its from mylot people's concern for me.
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Hi chiyosan, don't be depressed. I also feel very lonely many times. It has something to do with my "loner" personality. I don't like to go out very much and I enjoy solitary activities. However, when problems strike in, that is when I realize that I need friends to help me come by. I then regret for not investing much time to bond with people. Yet reaching out has always been a tedious task to me. Despite that, it's never too late to make friends. Same with you, as long as you surround yourself with people, you will surely find friends. Looking for new friends ain't that bad, they'll help you forget about your loneliness. Someday, I believe you will find a true friend who will stick with you through thick and thin. Just open your heart and mind and always be ready to welcome people who come into your life...
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
maybe i have expected too much from the people that i forgot they too got to live and that they have been able to live without me? maybe i am just being dramatic about this whole thing.. somtimes you just can't help but feel alone... right?
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
There is some truthfulness to your statement. They have their own life, and they are too busy to care for other people. Not that they could live without you. When the time comes that they too would feel lonely, they would surely miss you. It's just that they are not lonely right now and so you feel left out. Don't think so much about it. Cheer up, my friend! When you project happiness, you will notice that you will also become a people-magnet.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
oh that is so true... they are not lonely, they have their family, they have husbands or wives and they have the means to be happy.. and i cannot cope up with the activities so i feel left out, indeed... =( geesh... but i am trying to not feel any less any more. i feel grateful that i have mylot at these times. i am lucky already i found people who are here with me when others are not. I promise to always be sensitive about this.. to people who may need my support love and time... as i was once the one who was alone... thank you seriousnuts
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 12
The reality is even if you got friend they will not going to be beside you all the time and whenever you want them to be. We need to accept the reality. For example if you have boyfriend or partner this people will not going to be with you always. They got things to do and stuff to take care of. They are busy with their work as well. I am sure it is not just you but most of people will feel the same too. People are everywhere but how come we do not have the close one???We should look back how our social life is.....Don't blame God. He got his own way to communicate with and give sign to us. Whenever things doe not come like what we expected we should not blame others and don't get mad with God. He might just give a test to us. If it's just happy things happen to us we might just forget about remembering Him in our life. Don't just remember God when we are in pain, we should think about Him in happy days as well~ If you can't any friend to talk too face to face you might express it here or to your other friends virtually~ be strong okay?
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
thank you... that is what i am trying to do... i am trying to be strong and i am trying to just not think of the bad things.. i know people are busy... i know people have a life besides being with me... but sometimes its too painful that their life is very happy without me, that they could go on without me... =(
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 12
Don't see it in just one way...It is just not about ourselves. If we think that others don't understand us it will be forever that they will not. There are many ways to make you feel happy..Its not just about doing your favorite things but crating and sharing it. You may see others who looks so happy but perhaps you may not know how they get it. They might 'give more to others' than you know to feel that way. Like when you receive some gift from others you will feel happy right?? Both of the receiver and the giver will feel the same. So here what I am trying to say is give more but don't expect anything. Just doing it for the sake of god and happiness. When you are busy doing it you won't feel lonely and alone. When you feel happy your head will get lighter, your body will feel refresh and you can think and solve your problems better. That time you will be busy and won't even think about being alone or facing a hard problem.(^^)
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
i guess i am just indeed looking at things in a different perspective. i have been unhappy about a certain thing and i sort of cursed this aspect of my life.. that is right. i should really not put down the people who remained with me... i know they are just waiting for me to go to them. sometimes people just don't like to intrude right? i do feel better and lighter... i wish though that somehow its going to be this way all the way.
@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
9 Jan 12
Child of God? - God loves his children so...
I'm sorry you feel the way you do. One thing I believe though: God hears the cries of those who are His; and knows; and wants what's best for them. Sometimes they go through periods of pain and loneliness; why it's hard for me to say. But it may be something to do with growing patience, strength, character. Don't despair. Every day brings fresh hope; including the fresh hope of friends, new opportunities and so on.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
thank you Carl for your response. i appreciate you sharing this with us and maybe i just need to just trust on God and not on men and their ways and their hearts. God moves and i believe he is putting his hands on me and my relationships.
• United Kingdom
11 Jan 12
My pleasure, Chiyosan, and yes you're right, trust on God, because his love is endless and eternal.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Trust in God - always. :D Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
that's what I feel too... I wish I had more friend to share anything about life, close friend... really close friend at all. I feel like stranger, but I know this is my mistakes if I didn't expert in assosiate with other. I feel like there is something wrong when I starting conversation and it's really feels worse.. I hope you're just fine. may be it's the right time to open your heart and start to have more associate with others... by that way you can find more friend to talk to and share...
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
i am not the kind of person who is never to associate with others, but its just that its really hard to find a good friend who would sit with you and spend time and talk to you...
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
I don't mention you as the person who never associate with others, just may be you need more associate. good friend is really hard to find, I feel that way too, but I think by open your heart more to others sooner you can find the one who have the same view with you and starting the good friendship...
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
yes, i wish to be able to find a true friend indeed...
• United States
9 Jan 12
I know how you feel because I have been there myself. I do know that as long as you have internet and mylot you have plenty of friends. I don't care about my real life friends like I care about the friends I have here. On here they are so friendly and honest and helpful. We all look out for each other and it feels great. You will be ok just come here with your problems and let mylot help you with them..
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
that is true, maybe that is why i am able to post this here rather than posting it on my facebook page with people who are supposed to make me feel better... but really sometimes i wish i could have a friend beside me who would just hold my hand and tell me everything is going to be alright...
• United States
9 Jan 12
I am glad I have my neighbor for that because there are times when I just need to cry and she will just tell me to open the door and will come talk to me.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
that is so sweet of your neighbor. you are very lucky and be the same with her, okay? =) sometimes that is all we need right? a shoulder and a person who would listen to us.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
Hi chiyosan... How are you now? I hope you're feeling much better. If you just look around, you'll find a lot of people that you can talk to.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
thanks secretbear.. i am all better now. =) and is having a great day.. i have tried to just understand myself more and see the good things in life... :D Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
we can be friend.. You can tell me all your hurt. of course God is our ultimate friend... Sometimes we feel like that but the thing is... we have a family who can understand us. let's be friend
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
oh thank you very much for being a friend to me, even if it was only here through mylot. i'd say this already is pleasure. Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@moneywinner (1866)
• Brazil
10 Jan 12
Having true friends is something really difficult, because they are hard to find. Also, you need to have time to your friend too and make efforts to don't let the distance separate you guys. I learned this with life, because I lost the contact with many of my friends, many times it was my fault cause I didn't had time to make the friendship stronger. So, there are always time to find new friends, just always remember to have time for her when she need too.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• United States
9 Jan 12
As a person who has many friends and family I can talk to you I recommend you feel better about yourself first and friends will follow. People enjoy the company of someone who is confident and fun to be around. Try making friends at work or go out and meet people while doing things you enjoy. Don't feel sorry for yourself, embrace your assets as well as your flaws.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• United States
9 Jan 12
You said ONE thing which made good sense: 'No one to cry to except God' - no, God is not turning a deaf ear to you just because your problem has not been solved to YOUR satisfaction. God gives one of three answers to our prayers: 'Yes', 'No', and 'Wait' - A true belief in God and prayers to Him presenting your problems and concerns will relieve your immediate worry about 'not having a friend'. You are dwelling too much on the negative side of your life at this time. If you start a "Gratitude Journal" by writing THREE positive things which happen to you in this journal each evening before bed, soon you will be dwelling on the positive side of your life. The one and only true friend you need in you life at ANY given time is God. He will not forsake you, take your troubles and lay them at His feet. May God bless you mightily.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Yes that is true, God is always there, i know he is just trying to make us feel the need for patience and that in due time he will reward us with his answers. Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@parascevi (314)
• Greece
9 Jan 12
Hi i can imagine how you feel because i have been before in such situation and now i have no many REAL friends. I think that most people are like you and me. Some might know many many people who just like to hung out and have a good time but nothing more substantial. When you need someone's advice and help then all your suppossed friends are not there for you but they are only for parties and good time.Not for your problems. My REAL friends this time are my mom and my brother. So i know how you feel . I hope to find real friends in the future and you need to try to be strong and rely on yourself.I do usually and try to fix out my problems and take strenght from me.This sounds not easy, and it is not,and i believe that all of us should have real friends in life, because this is life: friends and family. Without that you live in an empty shell.But unfortunately people today, tend to be ego centric, without real concern to others, and care only for money and theirselves. I hope not to sound too much negative!I wish you the best and find real friends in life.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
yes sometimes we always have that time happened to us, right? when we are not with any friends we thought would be with us every step. :( its just hard when you are left alone.. and the only thing you can hold on to is that there is another day... Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Hi chiyosan! Hope you feel better by now.. All I can say is don't dwell too much on being sad. I also feel sad sometimes and I also feel that I do not have too many friends around. True, most of my friends are out of the country so when I want to hang out, there is no one I can be with. Well, I guess that is just a part of life. But nonetheless, everything is just passing. You can call me when you feel sad and when you want somebody to talk to :) We're in the same country anyway Good luck and may you be happy all the time! (if possible)
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
thank you so much, i sure was better already having able to share this in mylot and know that there were all of you who are hearing me out. Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
9 Jan 12
It's not always that easy to find a close, caring and sharing friend. They are hard to come by. Then there are those who only want you to listen to their problems and yet not let you share your feelings or heartaches. Hang in there and be positive. When you least expect it there will be someone in your life that will show up and be there for you. myLot is a great site to vent or share concerns but it's not quite the same as having a close friend. I can only suggest you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start over again. Life will get better. The good man above is watching. Take care and know I am thinking about you. carolbee
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
that's right, it is not always easy to find a good friend who is always going to be with you. in every step you take, of course. Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
9 Jan 12
My friend, I really could understand your situation. Life is not a bed of roses. Everything will be better. I used to air my grievances by scarifying the leaves of the book or beating the wall if there is no one beside me. I know the sense of loneliness. However, if you wish for more friend, you should pay out first. When others need help, you can give your hand and be there with them. And as a return, you will harvest your friendship. Obviously, I am a stranger to you, but if you will, I am pleasure to be all ears. Good luck!
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
yeah, sometimes i just feel that i do deserve it to be happy now, after all that i was put through as a child i deserve it to be better now... =( Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• China
9 Jan 12
Hello,see you this card shows that we have a fate,and I can tell you continue this friendship,I am very glad to make a friend with you ,I come from China ,in fact ,around you should have a lot of friends,but you do not feel it ,you kan try o be others you will feel the hate happy.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
thank you vogue, i am happy to have dfound mylot friends as well.. i mean this place really is one best place where we all share a piece of ourselves. Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
• Indonesia
9 Jan 12
Yeah, would be great if we have a lot of friends. Get out and looking for new friend, don't stay at home, you will feel lonely and homeless. What's wrong with you ? You should open your hard and keep positive thinking about yourself and other people around you, don't be pessimistic person, give hope to yourself !!!
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
oh i am so trying to be social.. i think i am not so reserved myself but i do try to be friendly myself... but sometimes maybe finding a good friend is really as hard as finding gold...
@BoboMama (321)
• India
9 Jan 12
Well , I could draw a conclusion about you that you are under psychological stress.. You should really do stuff that can ease this stress SOON, or visit a psychiatrist or you could do home therapy like listening to music,staring at flowers..they help reaaaaaaaly well. Since you stated "i wish i had more friends" , you should ask your current friends to go out with you.. anyways you shouldn't be at home when you are lonely..really
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Its great to have you in the discussion, thank you for taking time to respond, appreciate your inputs herewith. See you around, and happy mylotting! Cheers! d=) Godbless you.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
don't feel upset because you think you don't have any friends that you can lean on.. I don't have friends too before specially when I have problems all my friends were gone..the only person I talk to is God.. after talking to Him, I share my problems with my mom.. She isn't my friend but I know my mom knows best.. she will always give me advice. There's nothing wrong with your life..having many friends isn't the basis of life.. its good to have few but are true to you.. I'm here I can always be your friend.:) Smile..GOD LOVES U
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
well that is true.. life isnt about how many friends you think you have... i guess i just have to take my life's value and see how better and good it is compated to others or maybe compared to how we think we would end up if we were'nt able to stay strong. thank you emdjay
@Andyvil (793)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Hello Chiyosan, I have experienced being down before and I looked at it at a different perspective. When I was down some of my so called friends weren't there for me. It gave me the chance to see who my real friends are. I knew who would stick with me through thick and thin. Even though most of them didn't want to stick with me cause I was depressed during that time, there were a few close friends who supported me during that phase in my life. Don't give up on your situation. Try to look at it as a blessing in disguise wherein you get the chance to find a true friend in that experience.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
thank you andy. maybe that is the best way to look at the things that is going on in around me. i am just lucky i have friends here who are able to understand me. thank you so much.