Why can't people just be grateful?

@Pose123 (21671)
Canada
January 8, 2012 8:22pm CST
I believe we are all born with the capacity for gratitude, but many times we get in our own way. Two common examples of this are pessimism and perfectionism. Pessimists and perfectionists may have things to be grateful for in life, but they quickly find a reason for why something is not right or perfect or how it could have been better. Their minds search for mistakes or flaws. In doing so, they immediately jump to the negative without enjoying even a brief moment of gratitude. My grandfather couldn't enjoy a meal because something was always too salt or too fresh, or the bread was too hard or too soft. Why can't we just be grateful?
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@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
9 Jan 12
I would agree with you but right now people are t!wats The world has gone nuts
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
11 Jan 12
Hi thezone, Thank you for commending. Do you really think the world has gone nuts? Blessings.
@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
11 Jan 12
Unfortunately I do I try my best like so many others to make a little difference but the government is crushing us at the moment! but I shall keep on doing the day to day little things that might brighten someones day! Silly I know as it being a Simpsons quote but, "It's the little things that make up life"
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi again thezone, Thanks for sharing that quote and I don't think it's silly at all. Sometimes we can learn even from a show like the Simpsons. Blessings.
@bounce58 (17527)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
I'm a pessimist, and little bit of a perfectionist. But I don't have any problems with being grateful. I take joys in simple things because I know I might not get greater things (my pessimist side) in my life. And knowing that I will never get a perfect thing (my perfectionist side), I've learned just to be grateful with what I have.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi bounce,Thank you for commenting and if you've learned to be grateful, you are doing well. Blessings.
• United States
10 Jan 12
There will always be people who don't know how to be grateful. It's really quite sad that people have to be that way. I'm grateful fir every breath I breathe because if I hadn't changed my life I probably wouldn't be here today.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi PointlessQuestions, Thank you for commenting and I'm sure you will always remember to be grateful. Blessings.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
10 Jan 12
In your Grandfather's case I would say that this had become such a habit he couldn't stop it. It most likely started with a call for attention, and worked so well he just kept at it. If you had been able to ask him he most likely would have said he was very thankful for the meal, HOWEVER
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi savypat, My own father was very thankful for what he had as well. We seem to have lost the ability to appreciate our bounty and spend our life looking for more. Blessings.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
10 Jan 12
I think it's true that most people take things for granted nowadays, and expect the best, and not be thankful for what they already have, it's become a greedy, selfish society, what we got we are not satisfied with, we want more, and this thinking is being passed down the generations, back in the 60s we were grateful for everything we got because money was tight and we valued money and possessions more, now it's such a wasteful society that whatever we get we just assume we will get more and don't stop to think about gratitude or be happy with our lot in life. It's sad it's true. It's only when we don't have something around any more like our nearest and dearest who we may have taken for granted, by then it's too late. I think you have to lose something to really appreciate what you had.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi wolfie, Thank you for commenting and that is very true, we often do have to lose something before we see the importance of appreciating what we have. If we are always looking for more, we have no time to be grateful for what we do have. At the end of their life many will see that they did not take time to live in the moment, and therefore did not enjoy life as they should have. Blessings.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
9 Jan 12
i am guilty of this many times as well... i always tend to look at the negative things more and forget the blessings that God has given to me everyday in my life... i try to be more grateful and look into positive things in my life now... take care and have a nice day...
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi lingli, Thank you for your response and I'm sure we are all guilty to a certain extent, but we all feel better when we are grateful. Blessings.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
9 Jan 12
Yeah there will be a lot of people who are not going to be satisfied. Oddly enough, I'm kind of grateful about these people not being grateful. Odd, isn't it? It just shows you an example, no matter how much I'm frustrated, there is always going to be someone with more complaints about life that I have. Granted, it might not be good complaints, but hey, you got to take what you can get. There are a lot of people who are twisted enough to be happy to some extent, by not really being happy. I really just want to shake my head from side to side in frustration but that's just true. Oh well, makes me a bit happier for some reason, to know that I might not be as miserable as these people. Then again, I think a lot of people do enjoy being the center of attention and they do so by being rather negative.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi megamatt, Thank you for sharing and I think we would all feel better if we practiced being grateful. Blessings.
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Because human nature is insatiable. Enough is never enough because we always find something missing. We often overlook the 90% that we have and focuses on the 10% missing. I guess pessimism and perfectionism somehow co-relate to each other and sometimes go hand-in-hand, because I'm one of those people. However, I learned to appreciate things as it is including the flaws.I found out that such attitudes could make me less happier.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi periwinklez, Thank you for sharing and I think you've hit the nail on the head. Blessings.
• Mexico
9 Jan 12
Hi Pose I agree with you? Why are not more grateful and we are always thinking about the things that we don't have. If we find our happiness not based on the things we don't have at the moment but on the things that we have and we should be happy about it, if we change the way we see the problem, thinking more about why we should be happy and thanks the Lord, I honestly think that we would be happier and at the same time we would understand that all these things that we don't have are not that important as we may think in a given moment. ALVARO
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi starsailover, Right on my friend, you have the right idea. Blessings.
@angemac23 (2006)
• Canada
9 Jan 12
People cannot be grateful because they are selfish and believe that they are entitled to get everything they want from whoever they want without giving in return. They are spoiled and demanding and selfish. Plain and simple.
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi angemac, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
• India
9 Jan 12
I don't know whether we need to feel sorry for those people or should we try to talk some sense into them. I always feel that life is too short to feel worried about small differences and imperfections. We need to enjoy every moment of it and we can't do it until and unless we give away the attitude of complaining for every small things. The problem with these kind of people is they wont enjoy and they wont let the others also enjoy.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Hi madugulagopi, Thank you for commenting and you're right life to too short to live that way. Blessings.
@SIMPLYD (75830)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Yes, some people could really be like that. Or better still, we call them whiners. They whine about almost anything they encounter. What a pity for such people, because they don't enjoy life at all.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
11 Jan 12
Hi SIMPLYD, I agree, such people don't enjoy life. Thanks for your comment. Blessings.
• United States
9 Jan 12
I am guilty of being this way as well. I fight myself all the time and it still goes haywire. I am always thinking of the bad things and I can't help it. I would love to be like other people and just be grateful. Which I really am for a lot of things.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
11 Jan 12
Hi giftsandbagscom, Thank you for responding. We can all learn to be grateful, and we'll be happier because of it. Blessings.