May be we need degrees in common sense, negotiation skills...and sense of humor

@vandana7 (66120)
India
January 8, 2012 11:19pm CST
Why not.. I mean, all those wars are bull sheet. We lose loved ones, and taxpayers lose monies to pay for arms as well as maintenance of armed forces. We also have people sprouting all over in the world all of a sudden asking for something which they believe is their right quite oblivious of the fact that another person elsewhere might starve to death if this so called right were granted. And then we need something to fix the mistakes of previous folks.. We need to possibly change the subjects that we teach there instead of haning on to age old subjects which arent really stopping us from fighting with each other. Your take...
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7 responses
• India
9 Jan 12
I agree with you totally Vandana! Common sense and sense of humor are completely missing nowadays, negotiation skills can be obtained to some degrees. People are so much busy increasing their prowess to earn money and respect that they stop living and enjoying life. Have you noticed that nowadays when you meet your old friends, it has become harder and harder to laugh on some silly jokes, something that you always did earlier in life? We just need to get moving and stop thinking about past mistakes, realize and enjoy the beauty of the moment, stop and smell the flowers....etc. etc. sounds really cliched but its true!
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@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
Its so strange. I watched some of the old movies, and it still brought a smile. But new movies make me tense..
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Jan 12
Hi Vandana My Take... Ah at last, some one did ask The degrees do teach many things but we dont interpret them the right way. Do you find any lesson that says slap the one who slapped you? Nah! Instead you, I and all others did learn - Forgive, if anyone slaps! But did we interpret and follow that great advice? Nah again. The same will stand true for Common Sense, Negotiation Skills and Sense of Humor - even if they were taught (we will not hesitate saying these are subjective and cannot be taught the right way ever)... But no worries, I am sure and confident about my study, my perceptions and my interpretations... and I am sure we have more of these (un-ethical) virtues
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@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
thesids ...some are born with those talents. Others acquire them with experience, and yet others need to be taught. Those who used to acquire them with experience are now too busy learning other things to make two ends meet. Effectively, we have 2/3rds of population that needs to be taught such survival skills.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Jan 12
Out of that 2/3rds who need to be taught - 1/3rd will not be interested. 1/3rd will never learn - they will never ever out of experience or anyone else the remaining 1/3rd - will join out of curiosity and willingness to learn... and over the days will realize that others will not let them be this way Finally, the teachers and students will be relaxed to find less students, less of queries and lots of leisure in between... (all this makes it more Interesting...) Okay... I am ready to join
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@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
Hey some of these will be highest paid jobs..negotiation skills ..to avert wars..ability to convince another person why his or her request is not fair. Lots of pateince, intelligence, quick wittedness, and a sense of fair play needed.
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@megamatt (14329)
• United States
9 Jan 12
If only...if only...that could be what I won. Of course, just because most people have those things, does not really mean that they'll use it. Most people have functioning ears for example. They choose not to listen. And in school, just because someone takes something, it does not really mean that they are going to use it. People aren't going to use common sense, even if someone slaps them right in the face with it. War...is a rather frustrating one in many ways. The reasons why it happens ranges from slightly petty to very petty. Then again, there are a lot of age old conflicts, that started long before people were born, that those fighting don't even remember why it started. Sadly, the human race will never get along in general. We will always fight some reason to pick a fight with someone over the stupidest little thing. It will eventually cause us to be wiped out and really everyone should see it coming.
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@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
Megamatt..I think we become calculative because we practice it. I mean, we are buying things everyday, isn't it? So the more we have to focus on such things, the more calculative we become. Similarly, if we are forced to use our common sense through regular classes, and employ our negotiation skills, and be fair in the way we deal with others, and have certain level of tolerance to jokes, I think we will be better off. As things stand each family has a different way of joking. Therefore, it becomes one man's food is another man's poison. Just saying practicing common sense, and negotiation skills on regular basis might help to make the next generation better.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 12
Owh, it will be so good if everyone got that attitude. Common sense, negotiation skills, sense of humor...it seems that everyone is forgetting on how important they are in our daily life. Now the world feels empty even if there are so many people around us. There got no feelings, intolerance in every single aspects and always come with individual rights. I don't like it~
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@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
We do need classes for this so that we fail less often and do not have too many enemies in our lives. Quite often ridicule passes off as sense of humor, but leaves heart burn in the heart which only waits for the right time. People need to be told why they shouldnt be behaving like that AT RIGHT AGE, so that the lessons rests up there in their brain, firmly planted.
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@webearn99 (1744)
• India
9 Jan 12
Yes! Wars and the aftermath are indeed bovine fecal matter. War is triggered by a state of mind. Call it national pride or hunting down fugitives or greed or dogma or simply educating others about "Democracy". All recent engagements reflect this without exceptions. I think that the common root for all of these is the feeling of superiority. My thought better than yours sort of thing. I agree with you in the system of education point you have made. Sometimes I have a feeling that we are not educating, we are only turning out literates. There is a huge difference between these two words. An educated person will not cross the line because the repercussions are known and understood in the letter and spirit. A literate person will interpret the law to advantage of the moment as the cause and effect of the law are of no consequence for the issue at hand. History is a great teacher, unfortunately, without many followers.
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@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
Man is the only animal that kills its kind in large numbers. Reminds me of Terminator's statement. Yes education is ability to extrapolate literacy for understanding repurcussion. Litracy is nothing in comparison. History is only being treated like another movie..
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 12
Yeah, another sound suggestion. It happens in many aspects in our lives, where people demanded something without considering others. Just as it happened in the company I am working, an old lady in the accounting department wants to be promoted to an 'acting' GM without considering what qualities does she have. She does not know about tax, she does not know about legals, she does not know how to negotiate. Duh, look to yourself before you voice your ambition/ demand... Not you, Vandy...
@vandana7 (66120)
• India
13 Jan 12
Exactly...we need to add that as a subject, and teach it at school level may be so that people become more realistic and tolerant may be. :)
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
16 Jan 12
Well, on the other hand when all people use logic and being realistic, there would not be anything more to talk about our neighbors and colleagues...
@vandana7 (66120)
• India
16 Jan 12
How come I didn't think of that?
@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
9 Jan 12
OH, vandy..my very first thought, added to your "hits of brilliance," is learning to tend one's OWN flock! When my house is in order...AND in GOOD standing, then I can become a tool of learning and example! And all of the above, would be the tools I used! Am I making any sense! I think we spend, regardless of history, too much time putting others live's in order...flexing muscles and bullying, when our's in disarray!
@vandana7 (66120)
• India
9 Jan 12
Oh yes, you make perfect sense to me sweetie.. perfect sense. I would impose a fine on gossiping. Anybody spending talking time about how to correct others in a well lit room with the fans and air conditioners running needs to be punished..he or she is wasting precious power instead of using it for good. But yes...I really should've added that one..
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• Canada
10 Jan 12
Vandy, dear...it was just my very first thought, when reading your brilliant discussion! It really irks me, on every level, when those interfering in other's business, do NOT have their's on the right track...and I am not speaking just of a personal level...I am referring to the international level as well! You doing good...today, girl! You are a constant in my prayers!
@vandana7 (66120)
• India
13 Jan 12
You are in mine too. I have always been against India's interference in Bangladesh and Srilanka. But then, politicians have used such things to divert the minds of people from their lapses.
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