I choose to live a miserable life!

I have at times. Mainly over financial situations though. I get aggravated because it seems sometimes that I have had to struggle and suffer for every little thing...even things that should be simple. There are some things that I can trace to choice but there are also life's little surprises...sometimes good, sometimes bad, that have contributed to where I am and the life I lead. One of my survival skills has been optimism though. I have to see the good side to continue on. I have to tell myself that there are people out there that are suffering far more than what I will ever know. Sometimes when I think about that and see how things could've been for me if I hadn't did this or that...it gives me strength. Bounce, if you don't mind my asking, what is it that you are miserable about? Is it your job that brings you misery? You can always tell me Jen...you are being too nosy and I don't want to say. I wouldn't be offended at all. Part of being friends is to be able to tell people that without the worry that they will not be your friend anymore. I just can't help but ask.

At least you recognize that your misery is your own doing. I realize it too, most of the time. I still have those moments where I'm down on myself and wonder what I ever did so wrong to deserve such things.. but like you said, I made the choices that led to these situations. People who can't recognize that drive me absolutely insane. They somehow think the world owes them for no good reaason and that they don't deserve the bad things that happen to them when they've done absolutely nothing to deserve good things. I know someone like this very well, and the behaviors and attitude are absolutely shocking.

No I felt worse. I assumed I Never deserved to be happy Ever. I thought since I Still had feelings it mean I was evil And that Every good thing that Ever happened to me Was a Huge mistake. Like I had to steal happiness. But Everything has changed now How? First I had a guy see something in me that he liked, Don't ask me what. But it was fleeting. Second, I turned to a dear friend who told me I do have worth and I do deserve happiness and I have the right to feel. Then I met my guy who really loves the new me! I do not believe you choose to live a miserable life. I think miserable things have happened. You do not deserve this! You are a nice man and a good father.You have worth and you have a good friend in me. There will always be bad things that happen but you are not alone! YOu can change your life!

I hear you. I do the same thing. The depression just takes over and then I feel down and helpless. But, our lives don't need to be miserable. I think sometimes we choose to be miserable or not happy. And this is hard to over come somedays.

I can get sad about things, but I don't often get depressed. If anything, I get angry - even at myself. I think this anger drives me to be productive (in order to forget) and then that busy-ness makes the sad part go away faster. Not that I ever completely forget though. I don't remember the exact quote - but I always kept in mind about being responsible for your own actions - and to not sweat the stuff that is out of your control. Yes, my decisions are my decisions, but the outcome isn't always as planned - beit good or bad. I can choose to make the most of it, or choose to let it get me down. These days, I'm trying to convince myself that I have the right to be down - and it's ok to let others know I'm down if I'm really down . . . can't always be this positive person I portray myself to be on the outside.

I know people who have regret for decisions they made in the past and they feel exactly like you. I try do give them strength to keep up with their lives and not thinking so negative.You never know how things might have been.Might have been worse or even better, we will never now. The sure is to think ahead and look the future. The past has gone and we could do nothing about that.But we can change the future.

I used to. I would wallow daily in my misery and every day was the same. I knew I had to do something but when I would try, I questioned my choices. I finally did something about it only to find that nothing had changed, in fact, things became worse. Meanwhile, I made a couple of good decisions and things began to change, I began to change. Something wonderful happened by way of a small inheritance and I grabbed this opportunity and ran with it and I am now happier and more content than I have ever been. I'm not saying my life is perfect but I'm constantly getting better-maybe even a little bit every day. If you want things to change, you must change.

There's times when I sort of imobilise myself with negative thinking. It's pointless because it does not get me anywhere or improve things one little bit. By keeping moving we can move on. Yes every decision we make leads us to where we are now, and sometimes that's not a happy place. But each decision also brings us positive things, and that's what it's really easy to forget when you're down in the dumps. Chin up my friend!

hey dear we all are human being and prone to error.No one is right all the time we all tend to do mistakes so forgive yourself and try to start new fresh life.Good luck!

Life is like a mixture full of happiness,fortunes,sadness,miserable things or dooms.We just look at it as it is.When happiness comes,we shouldn't be so happy while we shouldn't be execrative when sadness falls.evey time we should be calm.

I do that sometimes - wallow in misery. But, I don't let my self stay there long enough. Somehow, after some time, things begin to be better again. I do believe that misery is a part of life, but I try to not dwell on it much. I hope that whatever decisions you make will be good.

I avoid getting depressed. I fight it , as much as i can, if there's one coming. Maybe i love myself so much , because i want me to be just always happy. When i have a problem, i share it with a friend, so it can get off my chest and be given an advise. I confront a person if he/she is the problem,. In addition, i turn to praying and crying . After that , the heavy load seems lighter and i am back in my fighting form. My friend, try to combat the feeling of depression. Be with your friends or family. Be with happy people. Life is beautiful, despite its problems.

Sigh! I feel heavy reading this... Yes I do feel the same. I know how you feel. We may have different life. But I know the feeling. Well I do hope we can always find something good in life so we can forget feeling depressed even for a while.

Me i dont,I feel that life is beautiful sowhy not waste it.Whatever you are experiencing right now just think about that life is beautiful and interesting so lets be happy.

depression is not a choice. it's a medical condition. you can no more decide to have depression than you can decide to have diabetes. if you feel sad, don't blame yourself or believe it to be a flaw in your personality or outlook on life. if you do have depression, it's not your fault. you can try and manage it with a healthy diet and regular exercise, which CAN in some cases help to regulate the chemical balance of the body. when you have depression, you have an inbalance of body chemistry. part of your body isn't working properly, and this results in the inbalance. so it is not a personality flaw or a choice. you can't just decide to start producing the right levels of chemicals inside your body. try diet and exercise, and this can help to regulate the balance. if this proves innefective you may need to take medication under supervision of your doctor. if this is the case, do not feel ashamed. it is no different to a diabetic needing insulin.

hi bounce but cannot you change things starting with what tees you off the most? I did not choose to come to this tiresome retirement center but since we were rendered homeless and we were broke we had no other choice so here I am in this retirement home. So I chose to\ make the best of it and try each day to be happy here.I feel that if its our turn to be able to get back into an apt it will happen so I pray and keep happy.why not take stock of what you do have bounce that you love ,as that might make you feel a bit better.I do not think I have felt like you though.I hope you can find some things to make your life happy again

it is natural for us to blame ourselves for all the miserable things that happen in our life. but one must realise that the key to derive happiness is to firstly be happy. one must never lose optimism. i hope you will come out of your perils with a smile on your face.

Got news for you, everybody is where there are because of the decisions they made. What makes any one happy is to be at peace with the decision and the result. If you can't, the make a decision to lead a happy life with what you've got and what you can get and work on it. That should make you happy. Happiness is, after all, a state of mind. That is what Indian mysticism says. And oh yes! been there and through that.

hello, It is really hard to choose what are the best in our life sometimes we made mistakes and we regret in the end but we have to move on unless we will stuck in to it forever. right? All of us have something behind us that we want to change but as we think its already happened. So, even how miserable it was we have to learned from it. ok?

As they say, the littlest decision may greatly affect your life. No matter how small the "deal" may seem to be, it could invariably have a huge effect. Nothing is certain actually. All that we need to do is just to be really careful with all the decisions that we are going to undertake.